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Hi all,<br><br>
Our precious little 11-week old seems to have rather peculiar nap habits, which is no big deal, except it means he is up kinda late. He really barely naps during the day, and finally crashes out in the early evening. But when he wakes up, he's wide awake until midnight, and at that point, my partner and I can barely keep our eyes open.<br><br>
And it isn't that he doesn't get sleepy in the day; he does. He falls asleep nursing and stays asleep until I put him down. But he wakes up the minute he is on his back, regardless of where I put him (his crib, his cosleeper, the nursing pillow on the sofa, you name it) and how I do it (swaddled, unswaddled, with wedge to elevate matress or not, etc).<br><br>
The odd times that he does nap during the day, I try to sleep too. But I don't want to sleep in the evening because it'll disrupt my sleep, not to mention take time away from my partner. So by midnight, we're just out of steam and desparate for him to go to sleep.<br><br>
We've read that to help babies understand the difference between night and day, that you're supposed to just keep play down to a minimum at night; but it breaks my heart when he wants to smile and engage late at night. A few nights ago he wouldn't go back to sleep after his 4:00 AM nursing, he smiled at me and I didn't smile back... I cried about it after, because I felt so awful! I was just trying not to encourage play. I don't think I'll ever do that again <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: .<br><br>
I'm sure this is just part of being a baby, but if anyone has worked out these kind of kinks before and has any advice to share, I'd really appreciate it!<br><br>
TIA!
 

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Do you co-sleep? If not, try co-napping at least. DS slept in my arms for the first 4 months at least. Usually, we napped together during the day. I'd lay on the bed with him in my arms. It worked really well. Or, if you're not ready to nap then, have you tried a sling? It took us a while to figure it out, but it was great!
 

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Hi Kris,<br><br>
Guess who had a three-hour nap today? And last night, he went down for what we thought would be a nap quite early, but he slept all night, with breaks only for feedings. Went right back to sle<br><br>
I do often co-nap with him, usually after a T2T feed, but he often won't go for that, either. He gets all wriggly and grunty. This morning, he slept on my chest for a bit; I haven't used that position for a nap, but it may well work.<br><br>
As for the sling... Yah, I have one, but I need to look around for a better one. This one was given to me and I don't like it that much. Neither does he; he did for a little while, and he slept in it. But now he just gets cranky in it. I suspect it's because I haven't positioned him well. He does fall asleep in the BabyBjorn, but I don't think that's the best thing for his back.<br><br>
Anyway, thanks for all the tips; I will keep them in mind. I'll definitely try more co-napping when I feel he's tired and just won't nap.<br><br>
In the meantime, there was a whole thread about slings somewhere around here recently that I will check out.
 

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my gal was the same way and at 6.5 months she's still not a huge napper.at this point she does have some what of a routine though.i just kept trying and paying attention to when it worked best until finally a little routine developed.it really became much easier for me when i gave up on the idea that she should be napping for a certain amount of time.that way if she only napped for 20 minutes in my arms i didn't feel like i had failed some how.<br><br>
my mom gave me some good advice given to her by her father about the whole night time thing.no lights no talking.that really seemed to work.i didn't stop from smiling or kissing her little head.just quiet comforting in the dark. i strung a small stran of christmas lights by her changing table so there was enough light for a change but not enough to really wake her.<br><br>
as my mom always tells me.....it will get better
 

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p.s.i couldn't really rock the sling that i had either.i finally bought a wise woman sling and it's heavan.so many ways to use it.i just wish i would have found it earlier.
 

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My ds was similar. Would only nap for long periods if in-arms or next to me, and quite a late-nightter. Around 5 months he started showing signs of wanting bedtime earlier. Now he goes to bed between 7-9 and takes two lengthy naps a day, sometimes next to me, mostly not.<br>
I remember thinking it was hard, but it worked itself out eventually.<br>
I found that taking him out for fresh air during the day helped things considerably.
 
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