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Hi,<br><br>
My 4 mo old daughter is on a bottle strike. This has happened a couple times before and we were able to get her back on the bottle with a little work. However, this time she is totally resistant.<br><br>
She is supposed to start daycare 2 days/week on Tues (this is Sunday). I will not actually go back to work for another 1 1/2 weeks so that is how long I have to get her back on the bottle. I don't want to have her fussy and starving at daycare or me working really short shifts at work to come back and feed her.<br><br>
I have been trying to feed her with a tiny cup as a last resort but she still has a tongue thrust and the majority of the milk get ejected out of her mouth with her tongue. She does like the cup, though and she hates the bottle.<br><br>
I have tried other people feeding, feeding when hungry, feeding when not hungry, walking her while feeding, distracting her while feeding, feeding while sleepy, different positions.<br><br>
Has anyone successfully cup fed such a young infant. How about using sippy cups w/ a 4 mo old? Is there a different forum on MDC that might be better for this question?<br><br>
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
 

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I too am in the same boat except my daughter has NEVER taken a bottle. My doctors and lactation consultant say that some babies never take a bottle. My nephew wouldn't drink from a bottle at daycare. He basically just "fasted" until his mommy would breastfeed him in the evening. He just learned to drink a LOT in the morning. My boss had good success with a sippy training cup. Her little one wouldn't drink from the bottle but would take a few swigs from the cup, enough to tide him over.<br><br>
I figure my daughter is just going to have to drink from the bottle once she gets hungry enough. My situation is a little different as my husband will be providing the childcare. You could call the daycare center. Surely they've encountered this before?<br><br>
Sorry I'm not more helpful. I just wanted to let you know this is a fairly common problem and you're not alone.
 

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I don't know how helpful I can be, since my dd (who's 7 months now) still won't take a bottle and won't drink my milk from a sippy cup (though she'll drink water). I'm starting work in a week too, so it should be interesting. In any case, she will take milk from a medicine dropper, so maybe you could try that. Surely not the ideal situation but better than nothing.
 

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My DD was a little bit older, 6 months old when she rejected bottles, and we had good luck getting her on sippy cups. She takes well to NUBY cups (you can find them pretty much everywhere). They are nice because she can just bite down a little on the valve and milk comes out. She doesn't need to suck as hard as you need to with most sippy cups that have valves.<br><br>
It took 2 weeks but she eventually would drink 7 or so ounces of milk each day from a sippy cup. She did do some reverse-cycling - marathon-feeding when I was home and not eating during the day. I know your baby won't let herself starve. If she eats nothign while you are gone, she'll tank up while you're home.<br><br>
If she doesn't reject the sippy cup then just give it some time and practice. offer water with it while you are home so she can get used to it. My DD loves water and we offer her some in the high chair while we are eating dinner.<br><br>
Oh crwilson - we went through some times where she drank water from the sippy cup but not milk (I tried not to be offended, lol!) - but after a few weeks she took milk from the sippy just fine. Maybe it just takes a bit more time! Milk tastes different in a cup than it does fresh out of the "tap", I think.
 

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She might do better at daycare when you're not there. Some babies refuse a bottle if mom is even in the house.<br><br>
Sometimes it helps to try different bottles and nipples and possibly sippy cups as an alternative. If you've been using slow-flow nipples, try a medium flow nipple.
 

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Ruthla's suggestion about the med-flow nipple sounds good to me, too - that's what worked for us. DD had taken an occasional bottle with no protest until about a week before going to day care (at 12 weeks), when we tried it out again in preparation for the transition, and she decided she didn't want it.<br><br>
Off she went to day care anyway (she wouldn't starve herself, I was sure), and the (quite experienced) day care providers suggested she was having to work too hard with the slow flow nipples. Sure enough, with the med-flow nipples the next day, she was perfectly happy with the bottle. I simply couldn't believe she was already ready for the med-flows! I have no idea how I will know when she is ready for the fast-flows.<br>
Good luck!
 

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One of my dds never took a bottle from the sitter when I was working. She did take a sippy cup at about 4 months (I took the valve out and used the spout to pour it in. She got the hang of it). My doctor said not to worry. Some babies are sleeping 12 hours at that point (and therefore not eating) and even though it wasn't ideal, it was as if she was sleeping all day when I was gone, and taking her feeds at night :yawn:
 

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I have tried other people feeding, feeding when hungry, feeding when not hungry, walking her while feeding, distracting her while feeding, feeding while sleepy, different positions.<br><br>
Has anyone successfully cup fed such a young infant. How about using sippy cups w/ a 4 mo old? Is there a different forum on MDC that might be better for this question?<br><br>
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.</div>
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My baby cup fed at 4 months because she never was able to figure out the bottle. I didn't do it personally, but I watched as the lactation consultant demonstrated for my husband, and she took to it right away.<br><br>
You mentioned that most of the milk got ejected out of her mouth with her tongue. You also mentioned tongue thrust. I don't know whether it was tongue thrust or just plain messiness, but a lot of milk did end up on the floor, the caregiver, and on my baby. It was just plain messy. That's why my husband didn't try to feed the baby with the cup after the demonstration with the lactation consultant. He was supposed to be practicing feeding the baby with the cup during the two months before I was slated to go back to work at age 6 months.<br><br>
Finally, I got fed up and hired a couple college student baby sitters for a couple hours a week to work on feeding the baby with the cup. It took my students 15 minutes to explain it, and worked right away like a charm because each student got the hang of it within 15 minutes of trying. With my confidence built, I went to the first day of daycare and told the daycare provider that baby doesn't take a bottle, and I would need only ten minutes of her time to teach her how to feed baby in a cup.<br><br>
(Just to make sure that we are on the same page, I'll review for you how I instructed daycare to use the cup to feed baby. Left to my own devices, I thought I was supposed to feed the baby like shots of vodka. I just didn't know better until LC demonstrated.)<br><br>
DCP sits on chair, baby sits upright on lap, cradled with one arm, cup in other arm. Pour only as much milk into cup as willing to spill on floor, say half ounce. Used a medicine dispensing cup, such as that used for measuring out adult cough syrup. Slowly tilt cup until milk just barely reaches edge of cup and is almost going to spill out. Put the bottom rim of cup against gum of bottom mouth, so that rim of cup is between gum and inner lower lip. Do this in such a way that baby's tongue is sticking out into milk.<br><br>
If it works, then baby will lap up the milk with tongue like a kitten. If you hear loud slurping sounds, then you know that baby is drinking just fine.<br><br>
Yes, it's still very messy, but I'm told she got better as she got older.<br><br>
My daughter never really drank that much from the cup. She just drank enough to get by, and that was surprisingly very little. Other babies would come into daycare with a whole bunch of gigantic (9 oz.) bottles of expressed milk, and leave home with them all empty. Mine would pretty much take back home what she brought each day, uneaten, and she was perfectly cheerful.<br><br>
During the first month of daycare, she gradually got less messy drinking from the cup, and started to drink more at a sitting. I even remember one day that 6 or 7 months, she would chug the all of milk directly from the 4 oz bottle. But even then, she never really drank very much at daycare.<br><br>
By the time she was 9 months, she reverse cycled herself. At that point, she just refused to drink anything at daycare, and waited until I got home to nurse.<br><br>
Never in the entire time did she ever figure out the bottle.<br><br>
Your baby will not starve, even if your baby does not eat anything at all at daycare. My baby was in daycare a lot. On Monday and Tuesday, I was gone from 7am-midnight, Thursday gone from 7am-9pm, Wednesday and Friday, gone from 9am-6pm. Even among most WOHMs, that's a lot of time at daycare, and she drank almost nothing, nothing at all was not unusual. Yet she thrived and had plenty of wet diapers, and remained positively cheerful during the entire time, so I wasn't concerned.<br><br>
You will be fine.<br><br>
Oh, and the sippy cup. We tried that, but we could never get it to work. Others have succeeded however, so it's worth trying.
 

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I haven't read the other posts but what worked for me was to have someone else (like my mom) feed dd a bottle of breast milk. I think some babies will not take a bottle if mom is around. I have heard that they can smell the breast. Don't know if that is true or not. But dd would not take formula from a bottle but she would take my milk from a bottle as long as it was someone other than me giving it to her. Good luck!
 

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Check out Kellymom.com too!<br><br><a href="http://www.mother-2-mother.com/refusingbottle.htm" target="_blank">http://www.mother-2-mother.com/refusingbottle.htm</a>
 

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I worked full-time when my older son was a baby and he rejected the bottle starting around 5 months and was completely refusing it by 6 months. We just reverse cycle nursed. He very pleasantly held out at daycare and would just nurse like crazy when we were together. Once he was on solids, I did have daycare water down his food with EBM and offer him a sippy of water throughout the day, but he never went back to drinking milk from anything but the tap. I got really good at nursing in my sleep.
 

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I went back to work when DS was 6 mos and for the first 3 days he would not take a bottle at all. He finally "gave in" after the 3rd day and was ok with it after that. But he had also just started solids so we were able to make up some of the difference in what he wasn't drinking during the day. And he definitely reverse-cycled at home. He actually gave up bottles and went to sippy cups completely (on his own) at 11 mos.<br><br>
You may find that your babe surprises you and ends up taking a bottle from your dcp. And great suggestions from the pp's above if that's not the case!
 

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How far away from daycare do you work? Could you go over on your lunch break to nurse her so she at least gets some breastmilk during the day and you get the added benefit of one less pumping session at work.<br><br>
Ruthla's suggestion to try a faster nipple is a good one. Your DD is probably old enough that nipple confusion should not be a problem. You can also try different bottles and nipples to she if she has a preference. Finally, if she rejects the bottle and sippy cups, try removing the valve from the sippy cup. It will be messy, but not as messy as cup feeding.
 

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Thank you so much for all the helpful suggestions. I will definitely try the cup again with the method emilysmama described. And I will try the sippy cup without the valve. At her first day of daycare I nursed her when I dropped her off and came back at noon to nurse her again ( I didn't actually have to work that day, so just hung around that area all day on nursing duty!). She actually did take two 1/2 ounce feedings from the bottle w/ a dcp. Go figure!<br><br>
You all are great!<br><br>
Maia
 

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We had this problem too at your age. I started working at 4,5 months, and my baby NEVER took a bottle. What worked for us was Avent soft spout sippi cup. It took few days for DD to get used to it. We removed the membrana inside, so milk could just pour into DD mouth - she did not know how to suck anything but breast! Proc - no nipple confusion, nursing strikes. She is 19 mo now, still going strong with breastfeeding.<br>
Good luck!
 

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At five months, my caregiver tried a medicine syringe and it worked great! It took lots of patience. She used the ones that came with ibuprofen or tylenol, but I found some at Target as well.
 
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