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I know some people give new babies money when they're born. Hopefully you don't think I'm a total jerk for asking this, but is it okay to spend it? I have to save up $100/week for each week I'm on maternity leave to cover our bills because my work only pays part of the leave... That's $600 I have to make up in overtime before babe gets here, and I really don't make all that much so it will take a while. Would it be horrible to use checks made out to baby to help with that? I think ideally you put it in a saving account for the child... What about to spend on clothing and that sort of stuff?<br><br>
We're not dirt broke, but we're not well off either and I was just seeing if I was being out of line or not.<br><br>
Thanks! Oh, and be honest. I can take it! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
(going to see if I can do this as a poll...) Nope, can't figure it out LOL<br><br>
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I think it's okay to use "baby" money on whatever is going to make a more stable environment for your child. When my ds was born, we found out the day after we came home from the hospital that my dh's mother had died. My hubby being her only child meant we had a new baby to take care of, his mother's house to clean out and sort, and a funeral to pay for. We both worked for the same company, but I was not going back to work. We had a LOT of people donate vacation time to my hubby so he could take longer to grieve and be able to help out with baby, and not to mention we were given about $1000 in cash by people at work pooling money together, plus about two weeks worth of meals made for and brought to us. All that being said, we still had to use our "baby" money to pay for various things in order for our new child to have what he needed, which was us being with him.<br><br>
I don't think any of what I said makes any sense, but if it does, I say you should use it for what you feel it needs to be used for. If that means using it to supplement your time off after baby is born, I say use it for that.<br><br>
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I hope no-one who gives you baby money asks for a receipt! I think folks who give money want to give you the most useful thing they can think of, don't want to waste money on getting you another useless set of bibs or whatever ... so anything practical should be mre than suitable.<br><br>
I know we spent some baby money on baby, some on family needs, although we kept a 'tab' and did put 'spent' baby money into a childs bank account when it was free again. If that makes sense.
 

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Okay, thanks! I'll try and use it for baby, but if it comes down to it I'll not feel guilty if it ends up buying food (hey, it will get converted into milk for the babe...) or paying the electric bill while I'm on maternity leave.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
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If you need it for maternity leave, I'd say just go for it. Ours just goes into a saving account in the babies names that we use for birthdays and x-mas money after that. For now the plan is for the kids to get it upon highschool graduation.<br><br>
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If you have to spend it on bills you are providing a nurturing enviroment for the little one. If you happen to spend it on groceries, its for mommy to get nutrients to give to baby. So however you decide to spend the money for the babys sake is entirely up to you--afterall, the money is a gift! No one is going to ask what you purchased.
 

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We are and were in the same situation. We used the $ for what was needed. We know that someday ( and currently) there will be a lot of things we will be paying for... Montessori tuition, swim lessons... ah, the list goes on.<br><br>
Hopefully, after I finish nursing school ( 9 more months of agony) we will be in a better place finacially and can contribute to savings for them. Dh and I both have had to pay our ways through school (me, twice) and I think we are better for it.<br><br>
So, don't feel too guilty, your sweet one will need the lights on! and things will improve. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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I did with DS. I figured what he needed most was for me to be able to stay home with him as long as possible, so that ment spending 'his' money on family bills to replace some of my income. I felt slightly guilty, but I still think it was the best decision.
 

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As long as you're not spending it frivolously, and spending the money on bills and food and a better environment for baby, I'd say spend it and feel no guilt! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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