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When I was pregnant, I was so excited about the prospect of a slingbaby that I got three different kinds of sling! But then my homebirth turned into a c-section (after a loooong, arduous labor) and I really did need 6 weeks to recover. So no sling. Back when I still wasn't able to lift my baby, I would put him in the stroller and wheel him around the house - at least we were slightly mobile together.<br><br>
Anyway, now I'm perfectly fine and dying to get outside with my DS in a sling! (And get some stuff done around the house - up till now, I've spent pretty much all waking hours cuddling and holding and playing with my boy on the couch, floor or bed.) The only problem is, he now weighs 13 lbs. and I can't for the life of me get him - or me - comfortable slinging. Arrgh!<br><br>
I guess this is just a vent. No one can exactly *show* me how to sling my baby online. I'm just so frustrated. When I put him in a sitting-up position (in front), it feels like he's going to pitch over and out of the sling! When I put him in a cradle hold, he gets mad - he's just not used to this, now, after 8 weeks out of the womb - and starts to cry.<br><br>
Is it too late to sling my baby? Has anyone else had a similar experience?
 

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It's definately not too late...it may just be an ackward time to start, especially if he doesn't like the cradle carry and doesn't have all the neck support he needs for the kangaroo carry. My DS loved the front kangaroo carry - but I never felt truly "hands free" with it - I always kept one hand in front to steady him. Do any of your slings have rails? That might make the front carry more comfortable. Also, are any of them pouches (new native or kangaroo korner)? I always felt less secure with my maya wrap, since I could never adjust the rings quite right - I feel much better with a pouch.<br><br>
Keep practicing, a little each day, and I'm sure you'll be slinging away in no time!
 

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We end up using the Baby Bjorn more than anything, because it's the most comfy. I used a new native type sling until she was about 3 months, then the Bjorn worked better. Now I sling her sometimes in my OTSBH (I have too many baby carriers, lol) and it works pretty well for us. I hold her on my front/side like you would for carrying on the shoulder, and cinch up the sling under her buns. This works well for short trips like to the ATM and so forth, plus it keeps her close enough to me that strangers don't poke at her. When I wear her facing out in the Bjorn, I swear people take it as an invitation to touch her hands, which drives me nuts. I'm a little germ phobic, plus I think it's disrespectful to the baby.
 

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We actually didn't even get a sling with our first until she was about 9 months old (had a different front carrier) and we still loved it - it was great to have her laying down while I nursed her as we walked, and also to have her on my back....I agree that if you're finding it hard right now, maybe wait until his neck is stronger and try some of the other positions then!!!!
 

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My ds hates the cradle position too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> I had to do the chest to chest position... I would tighten the Maya wrap really snug around him so that the back of the top rail went across his shoulders. He's had excellent head control since birth so I was able to get away with that.<br><br>
I would just keep working on it, it does take practice for both of you to get used to it and comfortable. I gave up with my dd (didn't try the sling until after 6mo) because we couldn't get the hang of it, but after ds was born I started slinging and it just came naturally. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> I know that doesn't help much, does it?<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I couldn't get the slinging thing until my daughter was able to hold her head up. We now do the front carry where she's looking out. She also likes to be carried on my hip. That one is great as the sling really supports her weight as opposed to my arms! I have a NoJo with the side rails. It's worked great so far.
 

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We used the MayaWrap and pulled the rail right up to dd's neck. When she got tired we'd pull it right up over her head to support her neck. She hated the cradle hold unless she was nursing.
 

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Actually, all your posts help me, ladies. I guess we just have to keep trying. It sounds silly, but I suppose I imagined everyone else just slinging a carrier around their shoulders/backs and have the baby fit perfectly into it the first time. I thought it was only we who weren't comfortable. Anyway.<br><br>
I have the OTSBC (possibly coming along), an unpadded sling someone made from a pattern (a disaster) and a new native sling is on its way to me (looks promising from pics I've seen). I have been putting him in the OTSBC for a little while each day and just walking around the house (we're still too rickety to actually be *doing* something while slinging). He especially likes just to stand in front of the mirror and look at my reflection. It cracks him up! I actually got a pretty cool photo of the two of us in the mirror - he is grinning from ear to ear!<br><br>
Oops, sorry. Got totally off topic there. Anyway. I'm hoping to make it outside of the house one of these days, as soon as I feel more comfortable. His head support is come-and-go at this point. It will look like he's got everything under control for awhile, then suddenly his head will pitch forward or to the side again. I'm starting to see that the kangaroo carry (him sitting crosslegged in front, sort of looking out to the side/front) works halfway decently if I scootch him down a little into the sling. This allows the back of his head to rest more on the padding.<br><br>
Sorry for any typos - this was all with one hand!
 

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You might attend a LLL meeting for help with your sling. I think I've seen someone recommend that before. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
And remember, we could show you in person, but not every hold works the same for each baby and mama. The cross-legged carry you just described is how we used the sling at first. Experiment when you and baby are relaxed and give it some time. It does take practice.
 

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melixxa, it IS really hard. I teach sling classes because of this common struggle. My newest baby is going on 3 months now, and even the expert I am, with the huge collection I have, it still takes time to establish this new babywearing relationship.<br><br>
I always suggest having a dialogue with your baby. Claire seems to prefer being held without the sling, but I have been telling her, "If I am going to carry you around all day, I need to use a sling." It's also helpful to keep in mind that most cultures throughout history have used some sort of cloth carrier, and it wasn't an option for baby to refuse it. Of course listen to when your baby is asking for space to exercise his limbs, but also be clear about what you need in terms of carrying.<br><br>
An open tail design like the maya wrap will give you the most adjustment for a snug hold.<br><br>
Use the width of the sling for the cradle hold, rather than length (a common error--to treat it like a hammock.)<br><br>
Chest-to-chest your baby may prefer legs folded up like a frog, inside the sling, or extended, with the rail behind the knees.<br><br>
Make sure you have the sling rings in posiion and then pull the fabric taut across you back and baby (with baby in target position) so that the excess fabric is between baby and rings--then pull it through the rings, so the rings stay in place.<br><br>
Take a look at Kangaroo Korner's troubleshooting guide too.<br><br>
Got to run, squirmy baby!<br><br>
Cindi
 

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Oh, I wonder who that might have been? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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seraph: I hear you on the disrespect to babies. So far only one "stranger" (i.e. an acquaintance of my DP's whom I actually don't know very well - well, not well enough, obviously) has asked to hold my baby. I really wanted to say no but didn't know how to. And I still regret it (this was at least 6 weeks ago)! She carried him the whole time, about 15 minutes, as I gave her a tour of the house. Nothing bad came of it, of course, but I really just didn't - don't - want anyone else touching my baby. Besides me, DP, his mom and my sister. At this point, at least. If it had been a complete stranger touching him - and without permission! - I don't know HOW I would have reacted.<br><br>
And that's one of my greatest concerns: that I'lll have to find a way to say no the next time, that I'll be too timid to say anything but yes, and/or that people will touch my baby without permission. I cannot for the life of me imagine just walking up to someone and touching their Bjorned baby without asking! In fact, if I didn't know the person, I can't imagine I'd ever even ask.<br><br>
Anyway, the Bjorn is one of the other carriers I have (Go-Go Baby is the last. I swear, half of these were babyshower gifts. _I_ only bought three different slings, that's all!). We haven't been able to get comfortable with it yet because DS's underarms hang heavily over the sides of the thing (this is with him facing inward). So, rather than sitting comfortably inside, he has this tight fabric cutting off his circulation under the arms! Maybe he's just not big enough for the Baby Bjorn, but I find that hard to believe as he's now 2 months and just today measured in the 97th percentile for height!<br><br>
Chellemarie and DaryLLL: The LLL meeting is a great idea. I've been wanting to go as it is to meet people locally and just plain get out of the house.<br><br>
Cindi: Thanks for the affirmation. I guess I just naturally assumed it would be easy - the pictures all over sling websites, etc. make it look so natural and simple. I am going to keep practicing and have a little talk with that baby, too. I mean, if he ever wants to go outside and see the great outdoors, he'd better to get used to slinging!
 

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I went to an LLL walk- a- thon and one of the leaders showed me hpw to position mine. I still have to practice, but it helped!
 

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Motherhood, for me, is a lot like walking around my house in the dark....I know where I want to go - but I have to stumble my way there! My latest stumbling is the sling. I have a 10 week old boy (Jack). We've gone through a new natvie sling (he hates this one - and won't stop screaming no matter the position), a snuggly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grossedout.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="gross"> and a Baby Bjorn. My baby doesn't seem to like any of them. I've had it in my mind that if I don't carry him in the sling we're not going to .....well.... I'm not sure exactly WHAT will happen, but in my heart I carry a fear that I'm not giving my little guy what he needs. I guess I pictured him lying in the sling with a heavenly glow about him, looking adoringly at his super great mama - all the while he's just pouring energy into growing his future Nobel Peace Prize winning brain. However, this is not my reality girls.<br><br>
Right now we're using the BBjorn. I like this one the best - it's very comfortable for me. As you know, this is not a sling. Do you think that the babies get the same comfort / nurturing from this type of carrier vs a sling? Can you consider using a BBjorn "baby wearing"?<br><br>
Jack doesn't like the BBjorn that much either but he at least doesn't cry in this one. But he doesn't seem terribly happy either. Is this bad? When I first put him in the BBjorn he crys for about 5-15 seconds but then he quiets down. He will hang out and just look around and then he always ends up falling asleep. When he wakes up he usually starts crying and I always take him out (usually to nurse). The reason I think he's unhappy is because he cries when he goes in the carrier and he cries when he wakes up. Maybe this is normal baby behavior? The crying when he wakes up is not screaming - it's a loud fussing. I'm wondering if I'm imprisoning him and he falls asleep from being unhappy. ??<br><br>
Also, do you know how long you should keep a baby in a carrier or a sling? Can you carry them for hours? I've often wondered if their little limbs fall asleep in the same position after awhile. Does any one know?<br><br>
Lastly, I know there are several other slings out there such as the Maya, Nojo and the OTSBH -- but they seem to be just a variation on the same them...as is the new native. Since my son absolutely refuses to go into the New Native -- my logic tells me the other slings would bring on the same reaction in him. What do you think?<br><br>
I loved Cindi's thought that you should verbally convey the idea that Baby will need to ride in the sling. That's just great!<br><br>
I'm sorry this if this is too long. I really would appreciate any info or tips you might have. I've been a bit stressed about this as I think babywearing is so important - and I seem to be not so good at it.<br><br>
Thanks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br>
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Have you checked out these?<br><br><a href="http://www.mayawrap.com/video/videomw.shtml" target="_blank">http://www.mayawrap.com/video/videomw.shtml</a><br><br>
I learned to sling from my MayaWrap Video.<br><br>
I really loved the chest to chest and found that the most easy. Frankly, the cradle carry never really panned out so well (except when I needed to nurse hands free while grocery shopping...yah you do what ya gotta)<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Once I "got" how the sling worked, I would carry dd with her legs crossed facing out (around 5/6 mo) and then I moved to hip carry.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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Elizabeth: Thanks for your reply! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I had not checked out their site. I will certainly do that. At my local breastfeeding store they have Maya wraps. Maybe I'll give this a try - in conjunction with the video and the store staff helping me - it might work.
 

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"Is carrying a Bjorn considered baby carrying?"<br>
I think so. I also had a few other slings and found the bjorn to work best. I had a premie and he loved the Maya Pouch for the first 6 weks but now is just too inquisitive, he needs to see out. Therefore the BBjorn works great. Although there was a learning curve. At first he'd cry so I'd put him in only for short periods and slowly he got used to it. My son likes to be held all the time so a carrier is my only option if I am to get anything done. Truthfully I like having him right here with me anyway.
 

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Sandra-<br><br>
I read your bit about Jack crying for a few seconds when put into a baby carrier. My sis was the one that talked me into trying a sling...her advise was when you first put tiny baby in the sling, be prepared to do a few laps around the house to help them settle into it. This was always her strategy with her very colicky son.<br><br>
I say go for a tester of the maya wrap at the store. With some knowledgeable folks there you will EASILY be slingling soon. Our local bf advocacy store was the one that helped me learn to get dd into a nuring carry.<br><br>
I think that Jack is a great age to start slinging...he will still probably really enjoy the chest to chest...which is quite similar to the baby bjorn.
 

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I use the Mayawrap and Baby Bjorn, It all depends on what I'm doing and consider them both "baby wearing". We do the chest-to-chest in the mayawrap, Henry never liked the cradle hold unless he fell asleep and I positioned him in the cradle hold, then twisted him around to my back. I like the slings without padding, I can really tighten them up snuggly. Anyhoo, Henry will fuss for a few seconds when I'm positioning him in either of the carriers and then is contented.
 

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I will 3rd or 4th the LLL meeting. I used the Bjorn until DD was 6 months old because i couldn't get slinging ( I even owned one) . I finally decided to go to and LL meeting for totally different reasons and noticed all of these women slinging their babies. I started asking some questions and I had people helping me. I have been babywearing wearing for 3 years now and I am extremely greatful to that LLL group.
 
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