Mothering Forum banner
1 - 2 of 2 Posts

·
Registered
Joined
·
2,635 Posts
Discussion Starter · #1 ·
I've always had to teach a part time contract (job share) since ds was born. I'm not happy about it, but that's another thread. My contract has always been split by full days. One year I taught 3 full days then the next year I taught 2. This year I was offered a 60% contract share, but it would be every day from 8-12. Didn't sound good, but as my other options were full time (NOT!) or nothing (I wish!), it was really our only reasonable choice. I hoped it would be nice for me to be with ds every afternoon and for him to begin a half day preschool. It's not. (The preschool is wonderful, however, so we are very fortunate in that regard. He goes 3 days from 8-12). It may as well be full time for the way it's affecting us.<br>
So, ds began having potty accidents (he's been potty trained for 10 months with very few accicdents), then moved on to really seeking out power struggles. I acknoweldge that it is probably a healthy emotional step for him.. He's not in control of my schedule and is trying to figure out what he is in control of. We've been careful to let him be incontrol of as many choices as we can, yet still keep the "rules" and structure and expectations of him the same while we ride it out. It feels like the right thing to do when I step back, but when I'm in the middle of it, I just feel sad and confused and wonder if we are doing the right thing. So, while I feel like we're handling it well, I just wanted to check in here to see if anyone had any ideas or suggestions of other things that might help. (and, no changing my scehdule is not an option until June <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> )
 

·
Registered
Joined
·
333 Posts
<div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
<div class="smallfont" style="margin-bottom:2px;">Quote:</div>
<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;"><i>Originally posted by the_dalai_mama</i><br><b>We've been careful to let him be in control of as many choices as we can, yet still keep the "rules" and structure and expectations of him the same while we ride it out. It feels like the right thing to do when I step back, but when I'm in the middle of it, I just feel sad and confused and wonder if we are doing the right thing.</b></td>
</tr></table></div>
And yes, you are doing the right thing!<br><br>
He's learning through experimentation, which IMO is healthy. While we can set limits on our children, they only truly learn what they can and cannot do on their own. We can guide, and even lead, but they won't always follow!<br><br>
All I can offer is that being consistent is the key. The more he realizes that the limits are set, the more he'll really feel that he understands his world. JMO!
 
1 - 2 of 2 Posts
Top