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Has anyone ever???<br><br>
H and I separated in the fall...it was tough, it was my choice and there was a lot of anger. Lately I have been wondering if I made the right choice. I am missing our life together. I keep thinking about things we would do togehter, places we would go, our overall lifestyle. Sometimes I think about him holding me. We have been talking a lot lately and I think that if I wanted we could start over, try again...I think.<br><br>
But there was so much...there was no intimacy, no love, no understanding. We stopped growing together and started growing in our own directions. We said soooo many things to eachother that hurt soooo much. I moved 5000 miles away. I started seeing someone else and have now brought anothers feelings into the situation. But tonite I can't sleep...I keep wanting to call him and talk about all this...I just wouldn't know what to say, or do. I'm committed to being where I am until June (im in school). But what if I go back and it faulters again...then do the whole thing over again...yikes.<br><br>
Are all these feelings normal? I am seeing him on the weekend and I know this is part of all this, but has anyone gone back and it worked. Can it work? I am so torn right now.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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DH and I separated over a year, it was the best thing could have done for our marriage, this month is our 4th yea r since getting back together (out of 8 years married)<br><br>
It's also normal when separated to romanticize your ex and overlook issues and problems you may have had. Getting back together without resolving those issues probably wouldn't work. ie a year before we separated for that we had separated a few months and decided to try again, obviously we weren't ready or we wouldn't have split that second time.
 
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