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My son had a bad dream/nightmare last night. He was crying and very upset, and I ended up getting him out of bed and waking him up properly so I could calm him down. He is 2.5 and speaks well, so from what he was saying I figured it was a dream about 'bad animals'. He started telling me what happened when I asked him, but he got too upset and started sobbing, so I didn't press it and just comforted him.<br><br>
I would just like to know peoples opinions/experience on whether it is better for their children to talk about their nightmares, or better to just not talk about it?<br><br>
I felt that if I knew what his dream was about and why he was crying I could reassure him more, but I didn't want to upset him even more.
 

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I don't know what's better for your child. Maybe instead of saying "tell me about it", you could try "Do you want to tell me about it?" and see where that takes you.<br><br>
I'm mostly responding because I used to have vivid and *very* frightening nightmares when I was about 4. I still remember a couple of them, and they would freak me out even as an adult. I'm glad you are taking your ds's fears seriously. My parents simply tried to reassure me that "it was only a dream" and then made me go back to bed. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm sure they thought that was the best way to handle it (they were loving parents), but it wasn't. I don't think they understood how terrifying the dreams were. I don't know if I would have wanted to talk about the dreams or not, but I certainly would have loved to have been allowed to climb in bed with my parents or have one of them come and sleep in my room with me.
 
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