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So we were at hobby lobby today and I was checking out. Usually my daughter sits in the stroller and plays with things I've brought, enjoys her drink and so on. She was not wiggling to get out and so I let her stand next to me while I was checking out. She motioned towards the measuring tapes, I told her okay be gentle. She's almost 2 to give you an idea on age. I figured if it was keeping her quiet and she was being gentle what is the harm? These were the non metal measuring tape (yes this could be dangerous if she pulled them all the way out, but I am watching her as she's using it) she is seriously only pulling it out 1-2 inches and then pressing the button so the tape would go back in. Mind you, she is being careful/gentle. So the register lady asks me "who is playing with that?" I told her my daughter was looking at it, she asks if I am going to buy it. I tell her no my daughters just looking at it. She goes on to tell me it's not a toy she can't be playing with it. At this point I'm a little annoyed because of the tone she is using with me and the fact that my daughter while yes she's young, she is looking at it and being very gentle with it. I just hate the whole they're X age so they get treated this certain way. If she's being gentle I just don't see the big deal? So I tell her she's being gentle with it. S\ She goes on to tell me to take it away from her, that she could break it. I tell her I will buy it if it breaks. What is the big deal I am thinking at this point? I mean seriously, it is a 2.00 measuring tape and shes being GENTLE with it! I think it was a power trip this woman was having or maybe she was having a bad day. At this point I'm thinking whatever. Now notice how long this story is getting, she could have just hurried and checked me out. So I have my daughter put it down. Yeah right, more like I had to take it away because she was enjoying herself, she starts to cry and sob. I feel AWFUL. I mean she wasn't doing anything wrong! I do not let her play with everything in the store and I make it a point that we don't really touch things we're not going to buy(not a concept I tell her but something I have in my head) I mean she just doesnt touch everything while were in stores, so this was like a major treat for her to look at it. If she was pulling the dang tape all the way out or making a mess I could maybe understand being asked not to "Play" with it. I have never had anyone aproach me like this and I just felt horrible. After we left and got to the car my daughter was still sobbing and we spent about 10 minutes in the parking lot, her standing on the seat, in the car. She was soooo upset. I still feel so upset. I usually shop at hobbylobby atleast once a week! Sometimes twice! I do not think I am ever going back. I understand children shouldn't be playing with everything, but this is such a rare thing for her to touch things, and she was being SOOO gentle, and I don't really think she was "playing with " she was more or less looking at it. Beause of her age I guess that's not allowed? I thought maybe her meltdown was just her being tired but I know it was genuine because when we got home she went right to the kitchen drawer and got our measuring tape out and played with it for a good hour. She usually never plays with it, and the fact that she remembered where I kept it. ughh what a bad morning, sorry this is so long.
 

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How annoying. I agree with you, it wasn't that big of a deal. I mean, it wasn't your DD's toy, but it wasn't like you were letting her play with a vase or a staple gun or anything.<br><br>
My daughter loves those little measuring tapes too. I have to avoid them if we shop Hobby Lobby because she will usually want me to buy her another one. In fact, the ones we have migrated from my sewing stuff to her toy cubbies. I do supervise her when she is playing with one.
 

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Sorry you had a crap morning! Especially at such a fun store..<br><br>
As abrasive as this cashier's reaction was, I bet it was probably more of a liability thing. Whenever I encounter what *I* think is an idiotic rule, I have to think- "somewhere along the line, someone sued someone else because of this."<br><br>
Hobby Lobby is HARD because as kids' arms grow, they can reach everything in the aisles (I don't know about yours, but our HLobby has pretty narrow aisles) and I now let her bring her own toy into stores that I know she'll want to 'wreak havoc' in. I have also discovered that I can't take my 2.5 yo dd to Barnes and Noble- she'll have a total breakdown because she wants to read and touch and bend every single book.<br><br>
I'd still go back, but maybe have some extra diversionary tactics up your sleeve for next time.
 

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Man, who peed in her cheerios??? Obviously she didn't have children or if she did she didn't enjoy them. I just ignore people like that. I haven't had anyone be that rude but i most likely would have said - "either do your job and check me out or call a manager if we are doing something we aren't suppose to." I have a nack for becoming confrontational.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Um, I go to stores and totally mess around with stuff I don't intend to buy. I try not to, but I love to grab stuff and fiddle with it a bit, if I'm standing around waiting for someone else. I highly doubt I'd have been treated in the same way! I'm sure that checker deals with parents who don't properly supervise their kids, but that's just stereotyping still. I'm sorry for both you and your daughter for having to go through that.<br><br>
I'd probably say something the next time I was there, if I really wanted to keep shopping there.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">As abrasive as this cashier's reaction was, I bet it was probably more of a liability thing. Whenever I encounter what *I* think is an idiotic rule, I have to think- "somewhere along the line, someone sued someone else because of this."</div>
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Either this or she's had a kid in her isle that made a HUGE mess while the parents did nothing or her supervisor was a jerk towards her about someone playing with the measuring tapes.<br><br>
OP, in stores like Hobby Lobby, I make a rule that you can look at it, but please do not touch it. Since you have a measuring tape at home, I'd let her know that when you get home you'll get yours out so she can play with that one.
 

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That sounds very hard... One of my friends taught her child that there were circumstances for "one-finger touching" - literally, you can touch with one finger - so not completely off-limits, but unlikely to do damage. I'm hoping to institute that with my own DD when she's ready.
 

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I highly doubt someone told the cashier "make sure kids don't play with the measuring tapes". I would have told the cashier like you did if she breaks it I will buy it and if she kept pushing I would have just stood there and said you can either check me out now or I can talk to your manager about it. That was way over the line. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br>
We don't usually let my daughter touch things we don't intend to buy but we do have a rule, if something is placed at toddler eye level to try to encourage impulse buys we will let her play with it but we won't buy it.<br>
For example the baskets of stuffed toys with the clothes at old navy. They are put there in the hopes that some kid is going to beg for it and the parent is going to give in. If they want to display those items in that way they can deal with my daughter holding it (I don't let her drool, tear or otherwise mess it up) while we are in the store.<br><br>
Running around the store wrecking merchandise is something entirely different and obviously not something I would allow but if stores want people with kids to shop (and they do) they are going to have to realize that things are going to get touched.
 

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I'm sorry, mama!<br><br>
We've had a similar experience in one of our local fabric stores. There's one sour woman in there who I swear follows us around and takes stuff away from DD. Like one time we were in there and she was looking at the fat quarters... she was hold ONE. And the woman comes and takes them away and tells her not to touch. The first couple times I was WTF? about it and ignored her, but last time I almost had it out telling her to leave DD alone. I'm sure there are kids who come in there and wreck the place but we put things back when we pick them up. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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This would have really annoyed me. If she was pulling one after another off the shelf I could see her saying something, but just playing with one while you checked out. I mean you were literally going to be gone in a few minutes and then if it bothered her that much, she wouldn't have to deal with it anymore. She made way too big a deal out of this. I used to be a cashier (at a large office supply store - lots of little things around for kids to grab), and I can tell you that if I did this and someone told my manager, my manager would not be happy with me. This was bad customer service IMO.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Um, I go to stores and totally mess around with stuff I don't intend to buy. I try not to, but I love to grab stuff and fiddle with it a bit, if I'm standing around waiting for someone else. I highly doubt I'd have been treated in the same way! I'm sure that checker deals with parents who don't properly supervise their kids, but that's just stereotyping still. I'm sorry for both you and your daughter for having to go through that.<br><br>
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Like the massage chairs at Bed Bath and Beyond. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I never resist those. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:
 

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next time remember to bring 200 pennies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mischievous.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="mischief">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> I think that's a great idea.....if you're going from being a regular customer to not wanting to go at all, at least give them a chance to win you back!! I bet if you write a heartfelt letter explaining exactly what happened they will side with you. That lady was way over the top. Don't let her sour attitude rob you of shopping at a store you like.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> That's so hard.<br><br>
I would definitely write a letter. That's not acceptable behavior, and they should know that. You clearly stated you would buy it if your daughter damaged it, and that should have been the end of it (heck, it never should have gotten started!).<br><br>
I've never been really fond of the HLs I've been in...
 

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Wow, I am just minority girl on the threads tonight.<br><br>
It was a cheap item. I'd buy one and let her play with it in her stroller.<br><br>
Checker likely could have been nicer about it, but I'd bet a lot of merchandise gets damaged by toddlers playing with it. I know in this case your toddler was being gentle, but using something over and over wears it out. If every toddler who comes through the line played with them, they'd end up looking or working "used" before they all got sold.<br><br>
Granted, they shouldn't put things right at tempting level for little ones. But some stores aren't good for toddlers either. I don't think we have Hobby Lobby around here that I've noticed.<br><br>
Maybe make your toddler a little purse/bag of fun items to play with in the stroller when you are in tempting stores? Include a little tape measure! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Yeah, I would have slapped the two bucks on the counter and let the baby keep playing with it until we left- then bonus, you get an extra happy baby in the car with her own new measuring tape <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
But maybe I'm a sucker. I let my baby choose an item in the grocery store if he feels moved to do so. I don't offer this, but if we're browsing and he notices some (healthy- I'm really strict about what they eat) item and asks for it, I hand it over and buy it for him. It's usually a banana or a box of organic crackers or something that he wants anyway, and then he's happy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I used to work in a fabric store. We had a huge basket full of broken and/or tangled measuring tapes that we untangled and sorted into sale/right-up as lose piles, when we had quiet time.<br><br>
Her way of saying it may have been rude and brusk, but it really does cause stores problems when little kids (or adults or that matter) play with these kinds of things. Maybe she had just spent an hour untangling the measuring tapes.<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Amusingly, whenever we were running low on change they would put me on the register (I usually worked the cutting table) b/c when LOL saw me they always dragged out all the loose change from the bottoms of their purses. I tended to be more calm, relaxed and patient than the other cashiers, and I was happy to chat about how we were low on change.
 

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OK, she may have been a little rude but I really think you should have asked your daughter to put it down the first time. If you came to my house and I asked your DD to stop playing with something I would expect you to back me up. It's not your stuff.<br><br>
I'm sorry that your daughter got upset but it's not that unusual for a toddler to cry when they're disappointed.<br><br>
Sorry if I sound harsh. I understand that you must be pretty angry that she was rude to you and upset your daughter in the process, but really I don't think that her request was that out of line.
 

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I would call over there and talk to the manager of the store. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"><br><br>
I was in a Walmart the other day and a lady at the U-scan area was very rude to me and my 6 yo DD and I called back inside once I got to my car and spoke to a manager about her. Her behavior was uncalled for. I even turned around once to see her rolling her eyes at me and making an ugly face. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'll never go to that particular Walmart again. In fact, the only reason I went to that one was to get some pillows and household items I needed cheap. Never again!
 
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