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Forgive me I'm just having bad few days. But it seems like everyone I know is having babies or getting pregnant. I almost had a nervous breakdown yesterday.<br><br>
In the past month both my sister and SIL had baby boys. Yesterday I found out a friend of mine from high school, who was also having fertility issues is 4 months pregnant. And don't get me wrong I am so happy for her but running into her out of the blue and seeing her growing tumy about had me in tears. What is wrong with me? Also found out in the past 2 days that 4 other people I know are pregnant. That means 4 baby showers I have to go to and buy cute little baby gifts, 4 times I have to put a smile on my face, 4 times I have to dodge questions about when we're adding another one. I just can not take it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Does anyone else have times like this? Its like I'll be doing really good and then bam I get blindsided by everyone alse having babies and I just want to crawl into bed and wake up with the day over. Dh was really good by Sunday night I think he realized it was a little pregnancy over load and was asking if I was ok and that its ok to feel sad and angru over the whole situation.
 

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Sending hugs your way! Yesterday was a day like that for me too. I found out my SIL is expecting. Her dd was 6 months old when she conceived. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:
 

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I know how you feel. Some days it seems like every woman on the planet but me is pregnant. I find myself getting angry at woman who are not 100% thrilled to be pregnant. I know its a ridiculous reaction and I really am happy for them.<br><br>
I've decided to skip the big family reunion this year. Everyone else is ridiculously fertile and there were lots of newborns added to the family this year. I just don't think I can take a week of being the only one there without a child. A week of people asking why we don't have a baby yet. I think sometimes its best to just stay home rather than put yourself through a miserable situation. We shouldn't have to always put on a happy face.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm feelingyour pain. My best friend is due in Sept, another good friend is due in Oct, and a woman I work with is due in Dec. Just when you get used to the idea the one person is preg it seems you find out someone else is preg. What makes it hardest is that none of these ladies I know really wanted a baby right now, and that is all I want at the moment. It's hard, but I know when my time finally comes I will love that bundle of joy more than anything ever because I had to wait so long for it to come along.
 

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I am totally like that, Starr. I was doing really well for awhile and then bam! I had a rotten day yesterday-it started out with a doctor's appointment that was not encouraging. The day just kind of went downhill from there. DH finally said that we need a relaxing vacation and just need to get away.<br><br>
I am also tired of people telling me "it will happen" (no, it might not) or "just relax" (easy for them to say). I know our family will grow the way it's supposed to (whether through pregnancy or adoption), but it's hard to take people's advice when they haven't BTDT. (Hope that doesn't come across as snarky.) Listening to those who have struggled with infertility is different-I guess I feel like I can just relate better.
 

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I really, really understand how you feel! It seems all of my friends are getting pregnant and they all seem to get pregnant on their first try, or accidentally. Which is fine, but to me, it feels like they are gloating, which makes me sad. They probably aren't, but it's how I feel. Also the advise to relax or go on a vacation make me want to pull out my hair.
 

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I say skip the baby showers and sent a gift if you don't think you can handle them. No reason to torture yourself. We have to think of ourselves and not just everyone else.<br><br>
Sorry you are feeling bad though. I feel like everyone is pregnant too....
 

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I know exactly how you feel. I on an on-line playgroup (for DD4) and there were a bunch of us TTC within the past year. Well, now it's down to me and one other person who are baby-less, and several more people have announced their "oops" pregnancies. I want to be supportive, but I just can't take it any more. I did a TTC roll call, and someone else who just started trying was pregnant within a month. I just can't go back there any more. I know it's my issue to deal with. I just didn't realize how much infertility could really eat at you.
 

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i feel like i'm going to lose it. we've been ttcing for 3 yrs, 4 mos and i got my period today. this is my second cycle since weaning so i had my hopes up a bit. bad idea!<br><br>
anyhow, there is almost noone that i know who's not pg. my closest irl friend just got pg after ttcing for one day. she realized it was day 14 (counted wrong, no less), said to hubby "hey should we go ahead and ttc?", had sex once, and then kinda decided it wasn't worth having sex a second time a couple of days later. she hasn't been terribly concerned about how it was affecting me (i think she thinks i'm not like that or something, either that or she doesn't want to have to worry about me when she's having so much fun being pg -- which i would totally understand if i didn't feel like crying all the time), but she im'd me this morning to tell me that another friend of ours is worried about me. and then it turns out that the reason she's worried about me is bc she thinks she's pg now. about two weeks ago she ripped her own iud out, spur of the moment.<br><br>
so what i feel like i wish i could do right now is just put it behind me. STOP hoping, stop trying, stop wanting. i think it should be possible to be happy with one child, but it's really hard as long as i'm hoping for another, yk? but it's only been 2 cycles since he weaned, so i feel like i haven't given it a real chance yet. i think i need to go at least another 4 cycles full steam ahead, but that sounds like the worst kind of hell to me right now. this has really become hateful.
 

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This is EXACTLY how I feel. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> We've been TTC #2 for 2 years, 1 month. I've had 2 m/c's in there, and this is currently cycle #7 since the last loss. Over the last couple of days, I've been feeling like maybe I'm deluding myself into thinking that we'll actually have another baby. Maybe I should be happy with an only and find all the postives about having an only. The problem with that is that I was an only and I HATED it. I yearned to have sibs to fight with and to take my clothes. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I always vowed that I would have at least 2....that my kids would never have to deal with being an only. And here I am.<br>
Then, yesterday, I asked my 3yo what he thought about not having a little brother or sister. He looked at me like I had 3 heads and basically said that was not acceptable. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Almost like, "I don't know what you've been thinking, Mommy, but I really want a little sister." Great. It makes me feel fantastic that I'm letting down my child through something that's out of my control.<br><br>
I try to remind myself that if my DS wanted a sib, he would have arranged for one before he came here. DP and I would have arranged with both our kids before being born. It's already done! If I'm supposed to have another child, they'll come at the agreed-upon time. Just because I've forgotten when that is and I'm impatient, that's just too bad! Of course, this is my own personal beliefs......I know this system won't feel right for everyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I'm glad I found this thread because I've been really feeling down about it all lately.
 
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