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My Ds is just over 2 years and when he urinates his forskin balloons quite large. I was really worried at first when this started happening but thanks to all of you here you reasured me it was ballooning and normal. I've done research and found that ballooning is the natural process of the glands starting to seperate. Well DS has been doing this for well over a year. Is this normal? I thought it was for a short period but this seems quite long to me so I just don't know. DP worries because he unfortunatly is not intact<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"> so he doesn't know what it's like and asks me all the time if I'm sure were not supposed to retract it(which I tell him no and not to do anything). I also have yet to find a pedi. who knows how to care for my intact LO so I don't have any IRL support. So back to my question is ballooning for this long normal, do I need to worry?<br><br>
Also our first pedi. unfortunatly retracted him before I could stop her(we left and never went back) so I was wondering could this have caused the glands to start to seperate prematurly and that is why it's gone on for so long?<br><br>
Any help would be GREATLY appreciated.....THANKS
 

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Forced retraction can definitely cause only partial reattachment--the foreskin tries to readhere but won't completely do so in all places.<br><br>
There is actually not complete agreement on whether, after forced retraction, we should continue to place a substance like vaseline on the head so that 'unnatural' reattachment doesn't occur. Others do not see the reattachment as unnatural.<br><br>
As you have already decided to let it re-adhere (what I would have done as well), I would continue to let it be. Because the foreskin should not have been detached, it may take a long time for it to completely become retractable. In the natural process, it is hormones that cause retraction (mixed with the boy experimenting at times as well). These factors may not kick in until much later.<br><br>
So, if you could see into your sons future at birth, you could know "his hormones will kick in around age 8". And forced retraction won't change that. So whenever your son's body is ready, natural separation will occur.
 

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Well, my 4.5 year old son has never been retracted, and he's been ballooning for over a year, too.<br><br>
As far as I know, it's completly normal. I've been told that the separation of the foreskin from the glans, and the loosening of the opening in the foreskin to allow the glans to become exposed are two different processes, and they can happen completely independently of each other -- even years apart.<br><br>
Why is the ballooning so scary to you and your partner? My son kinda thinks it's fun.
 

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The ballooning will go on until the sphincter at the tip of the foreskin looses up. This can take a little while of a long time. It is normal and will resolve on its own given time. Especially once the puberty hormones take over.
 

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Well, no, ballooning does not mean the foreskin is <i>starting</i> to separate, it means it's well along the way, and probably close to complete separation, if only because the ballooning itself encourages separation.<br><br>
Essentially it means that
<ol style="list-style-type:decimal;"><li>the foreskin major is separate from the glans and easily stretchable and</li>
<li>the "acroposthion" - the part of the foreskin beyond the glans - is relatively tight, and I stress <i>relatively</i>.</li>
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What you <i>really</i> want to know is whether this is actually slowing down the flow. I would suggest that if he can project his stream a good two or three feet, if the stream is reasonably "<i>thick</i>" (at least 3 mm as a rather arbitrary figure) and if he finishes voiding within say, twenty seconds or so, then he's fine.<br><br>
It would be perhaps reassuring to know that the "balloon" deflates promptly on stopping peeing, but it really is a bit of an ask to figure when he has actually finished emptying his bladder. Best to suggest that since kids tend to stop pretty sharply, if it takes only a couple of seconds to deflate at the end, it's OK.
 

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I concur with what Olive stated. The synecchia bonding the inner foreskin to the glans have released ( quite probably , at least partialy, by the forced retraction ). The other component of a foreskin becomming retractable is for the preputial sphincter at the tip to loosen up. This has not happened yet, and may not for many years.<br><br>
There is nothing to worry about. Urine is sterile until it comes into contact with external skin, so when your DS pees the urine is swirling around in the preputial space keeping it clean.
 

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Thanks to everyone for all of your replys. I have found much comfort already in reading these. To answer a few of your Q.<br><br>
The ballooning does seem to stop as soon as DS finishes urinating and from the stream doesn't look to me as though the flow is being slowed.<br><br>
As to why my DP and I are worried. Well I guess it's ignorance<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> . We don't have any one that supported us on our decision or knows the care of an intact boy pediatrition included. Since DP was circ'd he only goes by what he knows which there is no ballooning down there<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I think I get worried when he starts asking me about it. I've been reasured many times about what to do when researching, yet when your on your third pediatrition who tells us that we <span style="text-decoration:underline;">need</span> to be "gently" retracting it, it's hard to look at DP and say there (the DR. who went to school to care for my LO<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"> )wrong. Don't get me wrong DP is great and does believe what I'm telling him about not touching it, yet he does question it every once in a while and I usually can be strong and tell him as I know it from research I've done. But every once in a while it'll get to me to so I need more reasurance kwim. Again thanks everyone.....
 

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My DS is 2 1/2 and has been ballooning since about a year or so. I'm not concerned at all. It doesn't hurt him and from what I've heard, it probably will continue to balloon until he's retractible, which will probably be years from now.<br><br>
In a nocirc brochure I got from my midwife, it tells a funny little story about an old irishman who used to compete with his friends to see who could urinate and squeeze the balloon to see who could shoot the farthest. Once you were retractible, you didn't have much chance of winning the game because you could build up enough pressure. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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