Banned from mainstream board..

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hawkfeather

Discussion Starter · Jun 2, 2005

before i found MDC i joined a group for mommas all expecting the same month.. I have more posts than anyone on there and it was a rough go.. i am a virtual freak there.. but i stuck it out and made wonderful friends.. i was banned tonite and my heart is a little bit broken..
i was banned for sharing my birth site with the group. becasue it is *offensive*.. which hurts so deeply to me. i am so self concious and have a severe eating disorder which i fought to overcome during this pregnancy.. i gained a ton of weight and was really feeling badly abou my body especially my boobs which became ennormous.. anyway being told my body is offensive is really hurting me.. and all our babies were just born, i assumed i would be watching these babies grow up.. and as vain as it sounds i feel like i was providiing some info to these mothers they might not get otherwise..
they are wonderful women.
i am barely meeting people here..and i am feeling really hurt by all of this....
just needed to vent.

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kavamamakava

· #2 · Jun 2, 2005

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hawkfeather

I've enjoyed looking at your beautiful birth photos. You named your daughter Chime, right? I haven't posted to you because I just didn't really have anything to say. But I really admire you. It's sad that women would find something offensive that we find joyful and fulfilling.
I've found it a little difficult to meet people in this format. I'm not sure why. I think it's partially because people don't usually take threads off topic and so you don't end up with side topics and banter as often. If I lived near you, I would totally want to hang. You're my kind of people.
I'm sorry you were hurt

Is there any chance it was just one or two people who felt this way and it's possible that you can be unbanned? Would you want to go back? Those people must feel pretty negative about their bodies to not see the beauty in your gorgeous mama body and birth.

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mamimapster

· #3 · Jun 2, 2005

Hey There,
I just have to say that your birth site was AWESOME! also made me start thinking about a Home Water-Birth, which is something I hadn't considered before. I loathe it when something really cool and open and sharing is deemed *offensive* by those who just don't get it.
Enjoy your beautiful babe...

amybw

· #4 · Jun 2, 2005

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I think your story and site are just beautiful!
I cried! and i am so touched!

poo on that other board.
I can understand they have standards, but for goodness sake this is BIRTH! not porn ( rolling my eyes so hard they hurt)

:bighug

Thank you for sharing here....

they obviously dont know any better

Amy

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ankh

· #5 · Jun 2, 2005

Really beautiful.

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AngelBee

· #6 · Jun 2, 2005

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Very beautiful!

Maybe you could contact the administrator of the other site to see if you could be reinstated. If you miss the mommies.....it is worth a try.

Sorry you are sad.

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AngelBee

· #7 · Jun 2, 2005

I read it again....

So beautiful! She is breathtaking!

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kiahnsmum

· #8 · Jun 2, 2005

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Have to admit I'm a bit teary eyed, those are such great pics, I find it really weird that they would ban you for photos of a birth!

Not having any photos of my 2 births is something I really regret. Congratulations on your beautiful daughter she looks great.
Hopefully you can find other like-minded mamas who have babes the same age on MDC.
I cant believe this is your 5th baby you look awesome

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CaliMommie

· #9 · Jun 2, 2005

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I just visited your site & it is beautiful! YOU are beautiful! I

the birthing pics, they don't offend me at all! Congrats on your new babe.

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AngelBee

· #10 · Jun 2, 2005

I missed something......this is your fifth?????

You are hot!!!

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TurboClaudia

· #11 · Jun 2, 2005

hawkfeather, your birth site is beautiful and your writing there is amazing. whoever found it offensive should have simply stated their opinion and never gone to visit it again. i feel so sad that you were ousted from a group you had grown close to. i've noticed that it's sometimes hard for me to connect with people online and have them truly understand what i'm saying and what i mean. i'm a doula, and one woman even told me that getting paid to be a doula is basically like paying someone to be your friend. i found that frustrating, and i realized that nothing i could tell her about my work would make her change her mind.

you are an amazing woman, a beautiful woman, a strong woman, a thoughtful woman... perhaps that is what offended them: that they could never be as much of a woman as you are...

peace and love to you, mama...

warmly,
claudia

magemom

· #12 · Jun 2, 2005

how beautiful. thank you so much for sharing. that other group doesn't understand what they are missing.

Spock

· #13 · Jun 2, 2005

I don't know what they found offensive! It was a beautiful, natural birth! Don't let someone else's hangups make you feel bad.

You and your baby are beautiful!

Greensleeves

· #14 · Jun 2, 2005

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Sometimes it is hard for people to handle things when it is too far removed from their reality. I'm sorry they missed the opportunity to learn from you......As you can see you have a lot of admirers here though.

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LadyMarmalade

· #15 · Jun 2, 2005

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jenP

· #16 · Jun 2, 2005

I found your site to be incredibly inspiring, reading and seeing your experience will give me strength for my upcoming birthing.
As for offensive, well, that black cat didn't have any clothes on!

Jen

AngelBee

· #17 · Jun 2, 2005

Quote:

Originally Posted by jenP
I found your site to be incredibly inspiring, reading and seeing your experience will give me strength for my upcoming birthing.
As for offensive, well, that black cat didn't have any clothes on!

Jen

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3 Little Monkeys

· #18 · Jun 2, 2005

I don't know what the heck they found offensive about it - I think your story is amazing, inspiring, uplifting - and a pregnant mama's body is gorgeous - I wish I looked that good at the end of my pregnancy! And you've had 5!!!! I think you look amazing mama!!

Jenne

· #19 · Jun 2, 2005

You don't know me. But you have touched my life with your story and your posts here. I even stalked you one night

and read all your posts because I was so moved by the beauty and wisdom of your words (I also like your ink :LOL ). Losing a home, even if it is an internet one, is never easy. I hope that you find warmth and acceptance here at MDC. Our community is richer for you being part of it.

Jenne

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kamesennin

· #20 · Jun 2, 2005

OMG your photos are BEAUTIFUL! What jerks, you don't need them! Your baby is beautiful as well, thank you for sharing your wonderful story.

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