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May I vent for a moment?<br>
So my dd's baptism was this last Sunday. This has been planned since January. She's a bit older, 7, so the baptism was a small affair and she was the only child that day. I invited my family and some close friends to it and gave everyone a heads up back in January and have talked to everyone off and on about it through the months until now. I decided I would also send out an Evite so everyone would have directions to the church.<br>
My mother, back in January, stated she had a friends daughters birthday party to go to, then last week she said her boyfriends daughter also had a bday party to go to, THEN she said they had plans to go camping. Just a side note here, she never told me these 3 excuses she told my 2 sisters who in turn told me. I kept my mouth shut and let it be until I heard it from her. She emailed me last week and rsvp'd to the evite that she would be coming to dd's baptism. Awesome. She got her priorities straight. Spoke with her on the night before baptism and all was well. 10:30 on Sunday morning my one sister is almost to my house and finally gets my mom to answer her phone, she had been calling since 8:30, and my mom just woke up. Mass starts at 11am and my mother is 2 hours away. She just didn't care enough to get up and come. My other sister was relying on my mom for a ride and so she ended up not being able to come either.<br>
2nd vent....my dd's father didn't acknowledge my texts, voicemails or emails in regards to his dd's baptism. He also asked Evite to remove him from the guest list. And of course, he didn't show.<br>
And last but not least.......I asked my cousin to be dd's Godmother. 12:20 she still hasn't arrived. Baptism was suppose to start at noon. I call her to see where she is and leave a voicemail. At 12:30 I asked my sister to step in and take the role of Godmother for her niece. 2 hours later my cousin calls me. She forgot about it.<br>
I am so angry still and it's Tuesday! I simply can't let this go. I think people should crawl backwards through their own buttholes to make an important day even more special for a little kid and these people have shown their true colors. If this was about me I'd call them jerks and move on but this is about my child! Argh. I hate people sometimes!<br>
Thanks for listening. MDC is like my own little personal journal that answers me back =)
 

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That really sucks. I'm sorry your family didn't make a better effort. Sometimes it's better to have the family you choose than the blood relations.
 

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Wow, that sucks! I'd be really hurt, too. I suppose you know who you can and can't count on now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm so sorry!<br><br>
On a positive note, though, congratulations to your daughter and your family!
 

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Yeah, I agree with you. My sister and I were just talking about how it's a good thing we have great friends that have become family. I just feel bad for my dd. I sugar coated things a bit for her but she's 7 years old and pretty sharp. She realized who wasn't there.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Wow, that sucks! I'd be really hurt, too. I suppose you know who you can and can't count on now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I'm so sorry!<br><br>
On a positive note, though, congratulations to your daughter and your family!</div>
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Thank you! It did turn out beautiful in spite of and my dd looked like a little doll =)
 

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Your family behaved very badly but... do they share your religion?<br><br>
I would be really uncomfortable at a baptism, although I would have the good sense to say so in the first place instead of just not showing up. I especially wouldn't want to go if I had to sit through a mass, and would find it a bit offensive that I was expected to do so.
 

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Since the chosen godmother didn't show, who stepped in for her at the last minute?<br><br>
I wonder if this thread might be more suited for the Religion/Spirituality area...<br><br>
ETA: Oops! Just read more carefully and saw your sister was the godmother.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Your family behaved very badly but... do they share your religion?<br><br>
I would be really uncomfortable at a baptism, although I would have the good sense to say so in the first place instead of just not showing up. I especially wouldn't want to go if I had to sit through a mass, and would find it a bit offensive that I was expected to do so.</div>
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Yep, we share the same religion. My dd was baptized Catholic. My mother was raised Catholic although she had her children baptized Methodist. They do not have any issue with my chosen denomination.<br>
I would respect you so much for being up front with me if you were uncomfortable attending and would not expect to see you there. I think that's my big thing with this, my mom was not up front, she blew it off. There was no phone call to say she wasn't coming and she knew the night before when we spoke.<br>
Dd's father is Catholic and does not have an issue with it. Him not coming is part of a bigger issue with his parenting that I could write a novel on.<br>
I did let everyone know that the baptism was at the end of mass and told them they did not have to attend mass on my account. About half chose to come to mass and the rest came right at the end.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Since the chosen godmother didn't show, who stepped in for her at the last minute?<br><br>
I wonder if this thread might be more suited for the Religion/Spirituality area...<br><br>
ETA: Oops! Just read more carefully and saw your sister was the godmother.</div>
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I don't know...it isn't so much about the religion aspect as it is about how uncaring people can be. My own family, they talk such a big game and then don't follow through.<br>
If the religious undertones offend please feel free to move mods.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think people should crawl backwards through their own buttholes to make an important day even more special for a little kid and these people have shown their true colors.</div>
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Wow. I'm a vulgar gal from New Jersey, and I've never heard nor used that phrase. I think I've just found my new best friend.
 

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I wanted to add that I spoke briefly with my cousin. She just moved and her life has been in a state of chaos. She had it written on her calendar and didn't check it. That irks me though, we spoke last week about it and I sent the evite specifically so she'd have directions. She said she didn't see it but she texted me last week and acknowledged it. I am trying so hard not to be angry. She was sincere in her apology and I know she's devastated which makes it easier to forgive it and move on, if that makes sense. I told her not to beat herself up and let it go, things happen, life happens and I know she has a lot going on. I did what I could to not add to it.<br>
I am having a hard time getting over my mom though. She was sooo callous about it when we spoke and just very self centered. She woke up and felt sniffly, that's her excuse. She felt fine shortly after though because she was out all day. This is the same person though that didn't call and wish a happy bday to 3 out of 5 kids these last few months. She also bought Christmas presents for all her grandkids except MY dd, no phone call, no card...nada. We live too far away you see, she can't grandparent when I only bring dd up once every 2 months to see her. Two hours, might as well be a million. My kid deserves better. She deserves to feel loved and cared for. Argh, huge mommy issues I have lol...thanks for listening ladies.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Wow. I'm a vulgar gal from New Jersey, and I've never heard nor used that phrase. I think I've just found my new best friend.</div>
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Lol! I needed that laugh....thank you! Probably wasn't the best phrase to use at MDC *insert sheepish smilie here*
 
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