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My Pastor called today...asked that Josh and I meet him at the church tonight at 7:00. DH is hoping to become a Pastor so we figured it was either related to that or related to this Sunday night young people service he's wanting to start.<br><br>
Anyway, one of my friends (from the church, also an AP Mama friend of mine) calls and asks if Pastor got ahold of me because he called her to get my #. He'd called her to, asked her and her DH to meet them at the church.<br><br>
We show up and Pastor, his wife, and 2 of the counsual members are sitting in the basement around a table...with a mini-voice recorder sitting on the table. I start to get nervous. My friend and her DH and their DS show up shortly after us and we open in prayer and pastor starts in saying that some photos that my friend and I have on our Myspace pages of our children nursing, you can't really see that much, and they say that they are <b>PORNOGRAPHY</b>!! And that we are a bad influence on the teens and that once my friend went to nurse and flashed everyone and some teens saw it. And that it reflects badly on the church and blah blah blah. And THEN they say that it reflects badly on the coffee shop my friends parents own and that people have said they will not go to the coffee shop or to our church because of the photos on our Myspace.<br><br>
OMGOSH! I went off. I told them that those photos were NOT indecent, they were NOT sexual. And anyone that thinks they are sexual have the issue. Not me. How DARE they insuinuate that there is something wrong with me feeding my child. That I have a LEGAL right to breastfeed ANYWHERE<br><br>
And they spout off on morals and I have to be a Christian infuance and I'm held to a higher standard as a Christian. And people see I'm a christian...blah blah blah.<br><br>
He even called my friend and I prostitutes. Not even lying.<br><br>
And of course they went off on the whole "Breastfeeding is great." but cover up bull crap to which I said "Oh, so I should sufficate my son while he eats? Do you cover your head while you eat?" How is it any different? Why did they attack me like this?<br><br>
I feel so hurt and betrayed and I just can't believe what just happened. My friend got up and let at the beginning, her DH came back and told them that the church was wrong, they should be ashamed of themselves and that they would not be back to that church ever again.<br><br>
I got up and left shortly after and after I let DH told them that he wanted no part of that church, resigned our posisitions as teachers and I guess the Pastors wife and one of the counsual members started crying, begging Josh to pray over it and blah blah blah. I won't be going back to that church EVER again.<br><br>
I've never been so angry and hurt in my whole life.
 

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Oh my goodness. I am so, so very sorry. I can't even begin to imagine how hurt and betrayed you must feel right now. I will be keeping you and your family in my prayers, as well as your church. I hope they can come to see the truth of how incredibly wrong they are.
 

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I cannot believe that they seriously called you into a meeting and told you that nursing was equivalent to prostitution and didn't expect you to immediately leave the church!<br><br>
That is horrible and traumatic, but also ridiculous and absurd. I am really sorry that happened to you, but happy for the lucky people who get you and your husband and your friend and her husband as active, young new members of their church.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you. Personally I would make sure that that information makes it public. I bet local news would love it.<br><br>
That just stinks.<br><br>
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WHAT!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! As a Christian, I am completely shocked and offended on your behalf. I am so sorry you had to experience this. Good for you for stating your case and standing up for *feeding your child* and I'm so glad your husband fully supported you as well. It blows my mind how some believers don't embrace and wholeheartedly support God's design for feeding children and using our bodies the way they were intended to be used! If anything, you are being the best possible example to the teens in what breasts SHOULD be used for!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sure you are just dumbfounded and so hurt right now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Find some Christians who don't consider Mary, The Mary, to have been as a prostitute for feeding Jesus.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><br><br>
I don't know about being public about this, but OTOH, your MySpace would be the perfect place to express your feelings about people so perverted that they equate eating with sex.
 

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I am so sorry that you had to go through with that. That is totally absurd. I can't believe that they would relate feeding your child to porn and prostitution. That is definately NOT a church you need to be at. I am sure that there are many other churches who will gladly accept your family. I will keep you in my prayers. I will also be praying for the leaders of your old church, that their eyes are opened to the truth.
 

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If I were you I would have said something along the lines of, "How dare you think so lowly of the perfect food that God gave me to give to my child." Yeah, gotta twist the religion onto them...jerks!
 

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I told them that I was feeding my child the way God designed AND that Jesus was breastfed.
 

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All I can think is how many MDC moms can you get to go nurse there next Sunday. If I had money I would fly to wherever you are! BIG HUGS!!! Not christian my a**. I have nursed all over my church, my DD even pulled off right when the pastor came up to me one day. Pretty sure he got an eyeful and they have never said anything.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">WHAT!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?! As a Christian, I am completely shocked and offended on your behalf. I am so sorry you had to experience this. Good for you for stating your case and standing up for *feeding your child* and I'm so glad your husband fully supported you as well. It blows my mind how some believers don't embrace and wholeheartedly support God's design for feeding children and using our bodies the way they were intended to be used! If anything, you are being the best possible example to the teens in what breasts SHOULD be used for!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm sure you are just dumbfounded and so hurt right now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/yeahthat.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yeah that">:<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I cannot even imagine how you must feel right now. I know that I would be very angry if my pastor and other church members told me something like this. I hope that you and your dh (and your friends) will be able to find a new church that is more accepting (as every church should be!).
 

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Oh, no friggin way! You really need to address this with other members of your church, even if you have no intentions of returning! Is this a small church? Are there headquarters or something.<br><br>
I am so sorry Mama<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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You must be so upset. I am so sorry that that happened to you. How did all of these people come across your myspace in the first place?<br><br>
Thinking about you mama.... hope that this brings you to a wonderful place.<br><br>
Good to see the politics of the group before you are too involved.
 

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That is unbelievable!<br><br>
I can't even imagine how betrayed you must feel. That's just weirdo behavior on their part, plain and simple. I'm so sorry that happened to you!<br><br>
Anyone who equates breastfeeding with pornography is just so off. And it's also very weird that they were crusin' around myspace, looking for trouble.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: How DARE they?!? I'm so sorry mama! If you were here, you could come nurse beside me! (and the Pastor's wife, for that matter!)
 

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The way he made it sound is like the whole TOWN has seen our myspace and they've gotten calls from several different people. WTF? Thats just bizzare to me. There is a boy in our youth group on my friends list but I don't think he ratted us out. His profile isn't exactly innocnet anyway.<br><br>
I'm soooo tempted to complain to a higher up...district or nationwide supervisor or something...
 

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That's terrible! I'm glad you were able to put in your two cents in return, though. They deserve to get a real earfull.<br><br>
Edited to add...if your church is part of a national group definitely talk to someone from headquarters!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The way he made it sound is like the whole TOWN has seen our myspace and they've gotten calls from several different people. WTF? Thats just bizzare to me. There is a boy in our youth group on my friends list but I don't think he ratted us out. His profile isn't exactly innocnet anyway.<br><br>
I'm soooo tempted to complain to a higher up...district or nationwide supervisor or something...</div>
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Um...<br><br>
do it.<br><br>
I have never heard of a pastor calling someone a prostitute. I would call it what it is, abuse. Run, run, run from this church.<br><br>
Certainly there must be another church where you will be welcomed with open arms.<br><br>
If memory serves me didn't you have problems with this church in the past- with your home being "inspected" and called not up to par? Or was that someone else?
 

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First, I am beaming with pride at your responses. Right on Sister!<br><br>
Second, I am so sorry that your church hurt and betrayed you like this. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> So so sorry.<br><br>
Did they pause to wonder how Jesus himself survived his infancy? They might as well say Mary was being pornographic too.
 

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