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Basics of AP?

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I have heard little bits about attachment parenting and am wondering what the basic philosphy and princables are. Can anyone fill me in?
I am pretty sure I won't subscribe to everything, because there has never been a book or advice that I ever thought was completely well rounded. I usually end up taking a little of this and that from here and there and find what works for my family.
Thanks,
Jenny
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You could check out Dr Sears' website. He wrote the book on it although I am sure there are many variations on this...
8 ideals from API:
1. Preparation for Childbirth
2. Emotional Responsiveness
3. Breastfeed your Baby
4. Baby Wearing
5. Nighttime Parenting and Safe Sleeping Guidelines
6. Avoid frequent and prolonged separations from your baby
7. Positive Discipline
8. Maintain balance in your family life

If you go to the link each of the 8 is clickable with more details. These are for infants -- there are also a set of ideals for older children. This is not meant to be a checklist, but understanding these ideals should give you a pretty good idea of what AP is about.
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You could check out Dr Sears' website. He wrote the book on it although I am sure there are many variations on this...
Yeah - here are the seven "Baby B" attachment tools - similar to the API ideals.

http://www.askdrsears.com/html/10/T130300.asp
Thank you all, I have really enjoyed what i've read so far and thought I would as I was attracted to some of what I had previoulsy heard about it. I find that I am already doing alot of this but am definitely not 100% AP. I think baby's individual sleep patterns can be gently guided by mom and that some effort on my part is better for mom and baby. I notice my kiddos feel so great when they start getting a full nights rest anywhere from 7 to 10 months. Thanks Again!
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Thank you all, I have really enjoyed what i've read so far and thought I would as I was attracted to some of what I had previoulsy heard about it. I find that I am already doing alot of this but am definitely not 100% AP. I think baby's individual sleep patterns can be gently guided by mom and that some effort on my part is better for mom and baby. I notice my kiddos feel so great when they start getting a full nights rest anywhere from 7 to 10 months. Thanks Again!
I think that sounds pretty "AP" to me...the only thing that most people would say is definitely not an attachment parenting tool is Cry It Out (CIO), where a child is left alone in a crib to cry themselves to sleep, learns not to be able to depend upon caregivers for response, and therefore learns to give up on responsiveness and attachment from their caregivers.


Some people cosleep in a family bed, some share a room but not a bed, some are down the hall but are responsive to their baby's cries. It depends on the child's needs - but the common thread in AP is responsiveness. That's why people say they aren't rules - but tools and ideals. How that works out is up to your family.
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I notice my kiddos feel so great when they start getting a full nights rest anywhere from 7 to 10 months. Thanks Again!
One thing I'd encourage you to consider. The spirit of responsiveness goes hand in hand with breastfeeding and starting solids. Sometimes babies aren't ready or do not want solids until close to a year and going through the night without nursing is too much. As you said, you'll probably not subscribe to all parts of AP, but I really encourage you to breastfeed at least a year (and beyond, actually) and go with baby's cues about solids, which includes nursing in the night. To me, that is one of the foundation principles of AP. JMHO.
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