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We will start taking the classes to become foster parents in August, and our apartment is too small to even think of a homestudy yet - so we're a ways off yet. In the meantime, I've got nothing to do but think of random questions! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
We are planning on only accepting placements for ages 3 and under. What type of bed are we supposed to have? We have a bassinet and a toddler bed, but no crib. I suppose I need to get one? Do I just kind of have each of those set up and ready at all times in case of placement?<br><br>
Also, we have a family bed - all four kids are still in our bed and I don't see any signs that that's going to change any time soon. Each of them will have a bed in their rooms - but I figure they'll all be sleeping with us for a while still. Definitely the two younger ones. Is this a potential problem? Something I need to bring up?<br><br>
And how am I supposed to explain to a foster child that he can't sleep with us, when everyone else is? What an awful thought. Should I put off fostering until we no longer have small children? I'm hoping no one says yes, but I also want honesty.
 

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The bed situation really depends on your state and your agency. So you would need to just ask during orientation or training or whatever "do we need to have the actual bed set up??" w/ my agency, the answer was "no" you just have to show you have space for it.<br><br>
I just had my foster license renewal meeting today (man, the lady was a freakin' stickler by the book! last time, the licensing worker was here for literally less than ten minutes, just measured the rooms, checked the smoke alarms and left...this time this one asked me a zillion questions...but i digress...)...i asked her if i could be approved for a girl as well as boys, as long as it was an infant in my room, she said yes but the baby we have now would then have to move to my son's room, and i would need to have cribs for both, i asked her if i would need to have that now (i live in an apt and storage would be a problem!), she said no, as long as i could get one immediately, i assured her i could. No problem.<br><br>
I can't really answer your question about cosleeping, my son is 11 and it isnt an issue (he was mostly cosleeping still when we first got licensed but did sleep in his own bed as well)...if all your kids have their own beds, it shouldnt even really come up (and i certainly wouldnt offer that info!)...but if she asks you i wouldnt lie about it. They may view it as an issue, because then the foster child would be different than how your kids are treated, and they frown on that. In fact, years ago i went to training with an agency (never finished) and she said they didnt approve one family because whenever the truck driver dad would go out of town, the mom would make it special by having all the kids and her camp out in the living room, watch movies, and sleep there....she said they couldnt do that with a foster child, so they didnt approve the family. Weird. Although generally there does also seem to be the consensus that you can do basically what you want w/ your own kids, just need to follow the rules with the foster kids.<br><br><br>
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When I got initally licensed, my licensing worker never even looked at my bedrooms. She was supposed to, though, but our second appointment ended up being at her office. She did come after I was licensed, though.<br><br>
P sleeps in a portable crib, that folds in between placements.<br>
Those aren't allowed in all states, though. I like it because it's smaller (closer to a pack-n-play in size) and a little more cozy. The sides, however, are a little lower and she may start climbing over the edge a bit earlier. My house is tiny and this size works better for us.<br><br>
Chris's bunkbed broke a few days ago (argh) and he can't sleep in it. So he's been camped in with me. Most of the time he sleeps in his own bed but comes in during the night every once in a while. P's crib is in my room so we're all together right now.<br><br>
Unless your foster children are infants/very young toddlers, I don't think it's appropriate to co-sleep with your biological children. I really don't know how I'd explain it to a foster child. I really believe, whenever possible, that foster children should be fully integrated into the family.<br><br>
You'd definitely need to have beds set up for your biological children. Social services may or may not expect your children to actually sleep in them. But remember, your children will likely be at home when the social workers do their monthly (or whenever) visits and it might come up then. May not be a big deal, though.<br><br>
My licence is up for renewal in August and I'll have my home study in late July. That reminds me, I have to figure out how I'm going to get Chris a new bed, since his old one is an obvious safety hazzard.
 
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