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I'm wondering how many books anyone else out there is reading to their children before bed. My son is absolutely nuts for books....he asks me to read, read, read to him several times a day (he's 18 months old). I should be thankful he loves books so much, but honestly I'm getting tired of reading! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
Anyway, bedtime is getting silly! He will ask for me to read him the same book at least 5 times...and he wants me to read 4 or 5 books this way. He is just not getting to sleep lately; it sometimes takes me 2 hours to get him down (we co-sleep but he'd also apparently love it if I went to bed when he does!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">). If I stop reading he has a fit. I don't know how I let this get out of control, and I'm hoping I can gently steer him to a more reasonable time spent on this activity (in my opinion)--say 2 or 3 books a sitting, only read once each? Just wondering what others are doing.<br><br>
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Debra
 

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sory have no advice.. but am all ears, as our bbb (books, boobies, in bed) takes 1 hour... continous reading 10 or more books.. but its our snuggle time. so I really dont mind..
 

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We've strictly limited bedtime reading to ONE story...otherwise, yes--we'd be there all night. We read to ds a lot during the day, so it's not as though we're limiting his intake of stories, but this is the bedtime rule.<br><br>
For a while, I had to explain/emphasize this to him beforehand: when I got the book out, I'd say: "Just ONE story, ok? One!" and he'd agree. We had some meltdowns for the first night or two, when he wanted more, but if I'd explained the "contract" in advance, he was usually pretty accepting. Now it's just assumed.
 

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We also limit it to one book...otherwise, I'm sure it could go on forever. It helps me to have firm guidelines so that ds knows what to expect, and we don't get into a power struggle<br><br>
From "Heaven on Earth" by Sharifa Oppenheimer<br><br>
"The story we choose for bedtime will plant seeds, images they will carry into their dream life...offer only one story at bedtime. Choose carefully, and if they ask for more, read, tell, or look carefully at the same pictures again, but let the images or theme you have chosen remain singular for them"
 

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2 for naps, and 2 for bedtime. 3 if we're really feeling special. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> Of course, we read lots of books throughout the day too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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To tell you the truth, this is the very reason I *don't* read at bedtime! I learned my lesson with dd1. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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We read lots throughout the day, so we typically don't read one at bedtime. But during special times, we read one book once at bedtime and then he can look through the book after that.
 

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Three. Or three plus Goodnight Moon, but he doesn't want to read that one very often these days. And it's always three total, so if he ends up wanting to read the same book three times, then that's it. Sometimes he gets upset when he has heard the same story twice and wants two more, but usually it makes for a pretty calm bedtime. This has always been our routine, and it's worked pretty well for us!
 

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Our firm rule is two books. Like pp, our routine also was dragging on, but I put an end to it with a "bedtime chart"--everything we used to do (about 8 different rituals) goes on the chart. DS has his books every night + two other items from the chart. It's cut the time in half, and seems to be working very well. But he's 4 and ready to make choices...not sure we could've done it w/a baby 1-2 yrs.
 

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we have a 2 book rule at bedtime. dd1 would stay up all night requesting book after book if we let her. it took a bit of adjusting for dh to read books to dd1 at bedtime (he's the usual putter-to bedder with dd1), but he got used to it. i looooooved being read to at bedtime as a child. i can't wait til we graduate out of picture books and onto chapter stories. we had a big chapter book about a rabbit called uncle wiggley that was so great. i can't wait to read it to our dds like my parents would when my sister and i were kids!
 

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We do 2 books at bedtime one read by me and one by DH, though we sometimes "split a book" if DD chooses something very long so we each read 1/2 the book to her. We do let her keep those books in bed with her after we read though, and she'll flip through them, sometimes "reading" them to herself. The best was when she had "Go, Dog, Go" and the only word she remembered consistently was "dog," so for a while we heard:<br><br>
flip page DOG! flip page DOG DOG! flip page DOG DOG DOG DOG DOG! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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At that age it was always 3 books. It was the short books though that had maybe 5 words on each page! Now she is almost 4 and likes the long books, we do just one.
 

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yes we've BTDT so it's 2, one in english with me, one in french with dh and that's it, if they want more stories I put on an audio book for them to fall asleep with. We also read alot during the day so the kids don't push it too much!!
 

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We used to have the endless bedtime reading problem, but now the rule is ONE book before bedtime or nap. It works great for us. I just say "Now it's time to read one book and then go to sleep" and then we read the book and DS totally accepts that we won't read more. He's 3.<br><br>
Of course we read lots during the day so he isn't deprived <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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