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I don't know how else to refer to my daughter's behavior. Lately she is behaving in new ways. Some of the behaviors may reflect that her neeeds are not met I am not sure. For example when I am going to the bathroom she wills ay that she really has to go. I rush to get off the toilet and she says she is pretending. Today she had a playdate. Her friends brought over a toy. My daughter hid it in a place where the other child could not see it. After the other child went home my daughter said that the other child forgot her toy. She then looked at me with a smile and said that she hid it. I tried to talk with her to see why she hid it and explained that the child was coming back to get it and that she would not be able to play with it. So, my daughter hid the toy to be able to keep it at our house. I have not had to work through these issues before. I fear that I am going about it in a way that does not allow for open communication. I say this because when i open the conversation, my daughter says nott o talk about it. I explain the importance of talking it through.I guess I also do not know how to refer to the behavior with her. Any suggestions?
 

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I'm clueless, I just have one and she's 16 mo and we haven't had anything like this. Just wanted to send some good vibes.
 

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how old is she? Had to say anything without knowing that. DD does some of these things (rushing me off the tiolet because she wants to sit there) but she is just 25 months and I think its normal developmentally.
 

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It seems almost universal that moms know that when the baby's being quiet in the other room, they're up to something sneaky.<br><br>
My 25 month old tries to be sneaky, but isn't sophisticated enought to pull it off. For instance, we give her a gummy chewable vitamin every morning in bed, and she always wants more than one (of course). She understands that she's not allowed to have more and - more or less - why that is. Like most babies she can quickly thwart child proof caps, so we have to watch this.<br><br>
Last week, after taking her one vitamin she wanted the vitamin bottle.<br><br>
'Okay honey, but don't open it, you already had your vitamin.'<br>
'No, play! Play!' (i.e. I just want to play with the bottle, mom)<br><br>
Then she wants to play "hiding", her game of hiding under the covers. Okay. She takes the bottle and ducks under the covers where we can hear her rattling away at the top trying to open the bottle <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> .<br><br>
'Whatcha doing, honey?'<br>
'No, no! Hiding! Hiding!'<br><br>
'Are you trying to open the vitamins?'<br>
*silence*<br><br>
'Honey, are you trying to open the vitamins?'<br>
Tosses back the covers, looks at me slyly and hands me the bottle. 'Yeeess'<br><br>
God, if only this was as bad as it gets <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> .
 

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I've never made a big deal about my ds being "sneaky." Consequently, he still tells me whenever he is doing something he thinks he shouldn't. I would much rather this than teaching him to be really good at it by imposing consequences. I really think it is best to keep it light and remember it is age appropriate. I would, of course, mention how sad the other child might be for not being able to find the toy. And I'd be tempted to either take it right over to her, if possible, or put it in the mail if she lives farther away because I wouldn't want my dc to get much of a payoff for hiding it. You don't have to say much or have a serious talk, just say the friend will be sad so let's put in a package so we can mail it right away and get it back to her.
 

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thanks for the responses.<br><br>
Oh her age. My daughter is soon to turn 3.<br><br>
Thanks for reminding me that it is age appropriate- i think i forgot.
 
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