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So we moved not too long ago, and we love it here. However dh has been offered a terrific job for a company that he has long standing ties with. They have been one of his customers for years. He knows everyone there, it would utilize his skills but also let him grow. Problem is it's in California and we do not want to live there again. We love it here.<br><br>
What I can't figure out is why I'm even entertaining the idea at all. I think it's because it feels safe due to his long standing relationship with them. He is just starting out building business relationships where we are now. I know his family and mine would be thrilled if we moved back to CA, we haven't lived there in 15 years but we were close before, now we aren't. I know this would be a great opportunity for him career wise and we would be closer to his mom who is living alone and in her 80s and refuses to move.<br><br>
But darn, I love it here. He loves it here. I'm a little shocked that I am the one considering it.
 

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When did you move to Louisiana?<br><br>
Ahhh, Ard, I think you want good things for your family. That is why you are considering the move. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
What part of Cali?
 

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It's in No CA.<br><br>
We have lived in both the north and south parts of the state, and really I have no desire to live in CA ever again. Plus my dd is still living with us and I know she doesn't want to move there either, she loves it here too. We just moved here, but I have wanted to for a long time, I loved it from the first time came as a kid. I just had to get dh to come down and visit. So last year I got him here and he and dd fell in love too.<br><br>
You are right, I am just tempted because I want what's best for us and this seems like such a great opportunity.
 

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Where do you live? We are seriously considering jumping ship from Northen California/Bay Area. It's beautiful, and all our family is here, but it's so freaking expensive and we're just tired. So, we're looking for new places!
 

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We're in the opposite situation. Dh has a shaky and uncertain job offer in a place I would love to live. But it's scary because while it would pay enough to offer financial security, there's not guarantee it would last, and I'd have to give up my income to move.<br><br>
These are tough questions!
 

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It's hard to want what's best but not be sure what "what's best" is, exactly. We're in a similar situation in that I have a GREAT job that challenges me, offers flexibility and understanding when it comes to nursing/pumping, comes with some seriously great coworkers, and pays enough so DH can be a SAHD (or work part-time if we find something that offers evening/weekend hours once his current grant-funded contract expires in September).<br><br>
BUT... we're ready to be somewhere else. "Somewhere else" does not boast many available jobs in my area (in fact, teachers are beign laid off), and they don't pay nearly as well. SO many things would be better if we lived elsewhere... but the security just ain't there.<br><br>
So I totally know what you're feeling, in a backwards kind of way.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Where do you live? We are seriously considering jumping ship from Northen California/Bay Area. It's beautiful, and all our family is here, but it's so freaking expensive and we're just tired. So, we're looking for new places!</div>
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We are in Baton Rouge right now. Although once dh retires we will probably move to Lafayette or Lake Charles, either way we are set on staying in South Louisiana.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It's hard to want what's best but not be sure what "what's best" is, exactly. We're in a similar situation in that I have a GREAT job that challenges me, offers flexibility and understanding when it comes to nursing/pumping, comes with some seriously great coworkers, and pays enough so DH can be a SAHD (or work part-time if we find something that offers evening/weekend hours once his current grant-funded contract expires in September).<br><br>
BUT... we're ready to be somewhere else. "Somewhere else" does not boast many available jobs in my area (in fact, teachers are beign laid off), and they don't pay nearly as well. SO many things would be better if we lived elsewhere... but the security just ain't there.<br><br>
So I totally know what you're feeling, in a backwards kind of way.</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">We're in the opposite situation. Dh has a shaky and uncertain job offer in a place I would love to live. But it's scary because while it would pay enough to offer financial security, there's not guarantee it would last, and I'd have to give up my income to move.<br><br>
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I know what you both mean. We stayed where we were before strictly because he had a well paying job with a lot of job security. We have wanted to leave for years and it took the effects of the bad economy to allow us to do so, as a result I'm really grateful we are now finally exactly where we want to be. We are finally home.
 

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If you feel as if you're home, then you should stay put.<br><br>
I've been in California for 15 years now, and keep thinking of where "home" might be someday. 'Cause this isn't it. I don't hate it, but it's not home.
 

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I agree you should stay where you are if you really love it.
 

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wierd, I thought I replied to this earlier. Anyway, dh told them that we don't want to move back to CA, so it's done.
 

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Well it's back on the table.<br><br>
They still haven't filled the position and they really want to hire him. He isn't working right now so it's hard to pass it up even though we really want to stay where we are.<br><br>
Now I'm trying to convince myself that I would like it. When we lived in NO CA before it was in a different area. I don't know. But now he is planning on flying out to discuss the details with them.
 

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What part of nor cal? Many places have changed quite a bit in the last 15 years. Not that they've gotten any cheaper though..<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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same here in Colorado... the native joke that CA is invading CO <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">. i say follow your heart and not the money! if down the road you heart is where the money is then go there, but if you heart is where you are now and the money is in CA then stay where you are!
 

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Blech I'm disgusted looking at housing online, 2x the cost and 1/2 the space of what I have now. I'm from there, I know it's expensive, but this is pathetic.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We are in Baton Rouge right now. Although once dh retires we will probably move to Lafayette or Lake Charles, either way we are set on staying in South Louisiana.</div>
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I dream of living where you live. It is literally one of my number one hopes in life to end up being able to move there, so I vote that if you love it, don't even think about leaving !!
 

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So LA is *so* lovely.<br><br>
if you can keep making a go of it there, and it feels like home, then it's where you need to be. don't know what your DH does, but is it a telecommute-able job?
 

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He asked them if he could telecommute last month when it came up, it technically is possible for the job, but they want someone local so they won't go for it.
 

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Wow, that is hard. If this is a great opportunity for work that is otherwise hard to come by, I would do it, but that is just me. I would rather have financial stability than my first choice of places to live. I live in Northern CA, and it is really nice to live here, especially if you have family around. I do think it is too crazy expensive, we were fine until the economy got bad, and now we are definitely in struggle mode. We are looking to save $ by selling our house and finding something less expensive but it is seriously hard to do that here so moving is an option for us at this point. I think it is really cool that you love where you are so much, I would only move if it was an economic necessity!
 
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