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I'm currently breastfeeding my 9.5 month old DD. She nurses quite frequently around the clock and thus I have not yet seen the return of fertility.<br><br>
Our first 2 children (both girls) are 22 months apart and we really like that age gap. We'd like to use the Shettles method to try for a boy who will be (ideally) somewhere around 22 months younger than my current nursling.<br><br>
Right now my plan is to start gently night-weaning Poppy to encourage the return of fertility. She'll happily go all night without milk when I'm away from her, but of course when I'm right next to her in bed, she wants my breast. Any advice on that aspect?<br><br>
Secondly, I want to start charting ASAP. But, from what I understand, charting right now would be inaccurate because of my night-waking to nurse, correct? So, once I am consistently sleeping through the night, how many months in a row will I chart before I'll start to see a pattern?<br><br>
Thirdly, for those who have successfully used the Shettles method to conceive a boy, how close to ovulation did you wait to DTD?<br><br>
Thank so much for bearing with me and my many questions!
 

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I'm in my second onth of charting and there is already a pattern. I know that further months of charting will reinforce what I'm learning now, but I can already guess that AF should be here by Wednesday and that my O date isn't clockwork, but I do get a little temp dip. It's already helping my understanding of my body and I'm just on the tail end of cycle 2.<br><br>
As long as you're able to get at least 3 reliable hours of sleep at the same time every night then you'll be able to begin temping, but for now you can always start with charting your CF and/or CP. Then you'll at least have some idea of what's going on with your body and the bonus habit of charting every day.<br><br>
Good luck with charting and with TTC!!<br><br>
-MQ
 

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if you switch to room sharing she might do just fine with the night weaning (DS sleeps in a co-sleeper next to our bed for most of the night)<br><br>
that said, you can chart with just CM and/or CP as PP mentioned. This is what I do at the moment.<br><br>
as far as the shettles method . . .we DTD on both Peak days shown on the clear blue easy fertility monitor and had a boy. Just luck or was it method? who knows - We hadn't DTD the few days prior as the monitor showed low for days on end and went straight to Peak with no Highs, like it is "supposed" to.
 

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I only fed Poppy once overnight last night. Hoping this works <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I'm using Shettles to try for a girl, so hopefully you won't have my problems with it. We've been trying for a year (it usually takes longer to get a girl than a boy.) My son was conceived within two weeks of getting married on the first try. I didn't realize it at the time, but we did everything possible to make a boy.<br><br>
Anyway, I started trying after DS was night weaned, but still nursing a few times a day at 18 months old. I had almost no cm, and when I would o, the ewcm would last a few hours at most. So, by the time the egg showed up, all the sperm had died off in te hostile cm. Lame. I recently reread Shettles' book, and realized that I skipped a section in the FAQ. Under "Should I try this method while bf?" the answer was a no. Shettles says that a woman's cycle doesn't reliably regulate itself until 2-3 months after weaning. Sure enough, since I weaned my son in December, my cycle returned to normal in March with LOTS more cm and a regular 28 day cycle with o on day 15. Prior to that, I'd had a 24-25 day cycle with o on day 11 or 12.<br><br>
I'm only stating this because I became very frustrated with the whole thing and I wish I'd known what had been going wrong the whole time. Maybe it'll be easier with a boy? I'd give it a shot if you have plenty of ewcm when you o, and it lasts at least one whole day. Otherwise, the hostile mucus is too mean to the Y sperm, and you could end up with another girl, since the X's have an easier time navigating cm that isn't egg white quality.<br><br>
Just my 2 cents. Hope it all works out for you!
 
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