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i keep trying to get my head in place for labor. it's hard; work and life keep trying to command my attention. even though i've been wanting to take on the challenge of labor since about 2 days after dd was born (immediately after dd was born i told dp, "i'm NEVER doing THAT again" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">), i've been experiencing more fear this time than the last. last time i was full of ideals. this time i have the same beliefs, but also experience... it's different.<br><br>
in a way i trust the process even more, but in another way i'm nervous: will this baby be even larger than the last? will my labor slow the way it did last time? am i less strong/fit/determined than last time? will i tear again? i am SUPER nervous about hemroids - an issue i've never really dealt with until after dd and then a lot lately...<br><br>
truly i believe all of those thoughts are distractions that need to be noted, dealt with and sent on their way, so that i can connect with my inner strength and do what i want to do, and what i know i can do.<br><br>
i found this list of affirmations: <a href="http://www.labouroflove.org/conception-&-pregnancy/birth-affirmations/" target="_blank">http://www.labouroflove.org/concepti...-affirmations/</a> - i'm trying to focus and find the statement(s) i need. does anyone have affirmations they rely upon? (or any fears they need to exorcise?)
 

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Part of the hypnobabies program I'm using has a daily affirmation cd (not a hypno session, btw) as well as a 'fear release' session.<br><br>
I think you can order the affirmations individually if you're interested! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My daily mantra is quite simple. <span style="color:#FF0000;">"Easy & Effortless!"</span><br><br>
The fears I really need to address are fears of medical intervention. My previous c-section was unnecessary, coerced and abusive.<br>
I'e been relying a lot on a VBAC preparedness CD and a lot of relaxations CD's from my Hypnobirthing instructor from my pg with DD.<br>
Surprisingly the last couple weeks have been going really well, my anxiety levels about giving birth have been decreasing as we get closer and closer.
 

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With my first I didnt think of anything much and then was suprised by breech presentation at 6 cm dilated and had a section.<br><br>
With number 2 I was determined and excited and not scared at all to have a vbac. It was hard and he was big but it went quite smoothe ad I was so empowered.<br><br>
With number 3 I was really scared, out of shape and the more I knew about labor and birth the more anxious I got. I thought that I was lucky with the last one and I really downplayed all the effort and work I put into making the birth what I wanted. Labor was harder and faster and he was smaller but the birth was a great birth center birth.<br><br>
With this little one I have had so much stress and hardship that I have overcome during pregnancy(not pregnancy related) that I just think of it as a birth nothing more nothing less. I know it will hurt and will be alot of work but its the one thing that I am thankfully at peace with right now. If I have to transfer to the hospie, so be it. If I have a section so be it. I am in a "I can handle anything" kind of mode.to know I am pregnant and this is my turf ,if you will, is comforting.ts a been there done that sort of comfort and baby coming is something I can count on no matter what the means of entry. I am planning my homebirth and moving forward. Moving forward has been my mantra lately. If I stagnate at all I think I would freak out!!<br><br>
I am going to have birth affirmations hung around the house and some friends are making me a bunch of CDs for labor so that will be nice. I will have candles and food and good music and the rest the universe will decide.<br><br>
I just keep thinking that this baby will come when ready and I want him/her to come and the only way out is well to come out and we will both be ok. It sounds silly but its very comforting to already be giving in to the process. I must say its alot different then the last time.<br>
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with dd my midwife broke my water at 9 cm, hurling me into the endzone of transition. she also had me start pushing early...<br><br>
this time my mantra is...<br><span style="font-family:Georgia;"><br><span style="font-size:large;"><span style="color:#000080;">trust, love, and</span></span></span><br><br><span style="font-family:Georgia;"><span style="font-size:xx-large;"><span><b><i>PATIENCE</i></b></span></span></span>
 

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This time my affirmations are:<br><br>
"I'll just have to deal with it when we get there" (instead of wanting to plan and control out the ying-yang). Birth has it's own plan, there are things you can control and things you can't. I've been of the mind to just let it go. I have hired a doula to give me the emotional support I need during labour.........but if I decide this time I want an epi (learning from the trauma of my first birth) my birth team will support that decision.<br><br>
"My body can do this, I can survive the pain, etc." My first birth was fine until I had to get transferred....labour and transition even was tremendously challenging but manageable (somehow <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">), my body labouring/pushing down a bit by itself actually felt good almost....but purple pushing on my back after the transfer was hell on wheels for me. I have to believe that I can get through this again. What if I face my hell again this time or worse? It's likely to be different, no matter what because:<br><br>
"All births are different from one woman to another, one baby to another."<br><br>
I also rub my tummy and say, "Come on baby, we have to work together on this. Help mommy and come down real good, okay?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Being of the mindset that we're a team is comforting somehow.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s to all
 
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