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I have two I am really focusing on:<br><br>
1)As long as my baby is okay, I will be fine<br><br>
2)This is but a short time<br><br>
I don't want to get too complicated, but I do want to have some perspective brought to an area specific to my needs and weaknesses <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.<br><br>
What are some of yours?
 

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I'm doing a natural childbirth this time for the first time. So, mine is:<br>
"I must not fear. Fear is the mindkiller. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me." Yeah, I'm a dork- it's from the book Dune!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I like the Dune one, too. I have it written down.<br><br>
I like the one in Birthing from within- <i>I will only be in labor as long as it takes to make, bake, cool and frost a chocolate cake.</i> But who am I kidding- I don't know anyone who will make a cake from scratch for me starting as soon as I go into labor!! SO I have been trying to come up with my own self-hypnotic jingle- no luck. I'm not very creative.
 

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When I was about 36-40 hours into my labour with DD, it really, REALLY helped me to say, "I am doing this now, I can do this right now, I am doing this right now" Rather than to let myself think, "Oh god, I've done this for SO LONG" or, "How much longer will I go?".
 

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i love the dune one. didn't think of it at all during dd's birth though.<br>
then it was "just this one. just right now."<br><br>
wonder what will stick for this coming labor?<br><br>
and i'd love to bake a cake for someone's else's labor...... neat idea.<br>
i'd have wolfed a chocolate cake down after dd's birth with joy!
 

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someone told me...there is bliss beneath the pain if you look for it. I kept thinking about that during labor and it helped so much...emphasis on the word BLISS
 

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The two things I've been thinking so far are:<br><br>
"I can do anything for a minute" (re: the general/average length of a contraction - this one was really helpful when I had my daughter)<br><br>
and "I'm gonna be so huge" (no, not about my ever expanding belly <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I read this one in Ina May's Guide to Childbirth a couple of months ago re: dilation and it really stuck with me.)<br><br>
I know I also did a lot of counting breaths during contractions w/ my first, and I'll probably do so with this one too.
 

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:LOL i think if someone had been baking a cake and frosting it and getting it all ready it still would have been stale and nasty by the time i delivered DS.
 

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It's too bad we don't all live near each other we could pair up and bake cakes for each other. You know call when your water breaks or contractions really get going and the other person could get started baking it. Although it probably wouldn't work very well, because what if the other person had just had a baby or was starting to contract herself. You'd really need a non-preggo friend to do it. ANd it would suck if I was the one baking your cake because I have NEVER made a from scratch cake in my LIFE!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> hmmm....maybe I"ll do that today. Can you say NESTING!<br><br>
anyway. I like there is bliss beneath the pain if you look for it. and I can do anything for a minute I might use one of those- or both.
 

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good post. i have two -- one serious and one totally superficial but bugging the [email protected] out of me nonetheless. i'm working harder on #2 than #1 b/c i have two such awesome births under my belt, my doubts are few and i am blessed!<br><br>
#1 -- I'm gonna get huge (sapsygo -- i am a mega ina may fan and i love that part of her book... if you guys haven't read it, she talks about how men brag about their members getting so enormous. what about us -- look what our cervixes and perineums can do -- HOLY COW!!!)<br><br>
#2 -- It's OK to have a baby on Christmas. It's OK if I'm late and I have to throw a kid's birthday on top of the holidays for the rest of my life. It's OK if nobody cares that I'm having a baby because they are so wrapped up in their own holly jolly days! It's REALLY OK! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Ooooh, I like ALL of yours!<br><br>
That Ina May one made a "huge" impression on me when I read the book, too.<br><br>
Two of my favorites:<br><br>
Each surge brings my baby one step closer to my arms.<br><br>
My baby and I are grateful for this powerful experience.<br><br><br>
Of course, I'm a little obsessive, so I have about 15 of them written down for labor-time, just in case! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
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Each surge brings me closer to my baby girl<br><br>
I do not need to do anything but relax because my body already knows what to do<br><br>
To think of the other thousands of women that are giving birth at the same moment and to feel connected to them regardless of where they are at<br><br>
I have been visualizing floating on a feather bed rocking back and forth, following my body along a spiral path...
 

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My boss gave me these a while ago for a job well done. (DH calls it "hippie money"!). <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ed: Oops! The URL doesn't work for that website. Try this one, then go under "Gifts and Cards". It's called "Bag of Charms".<br><br><a href="http://www.vilmain.com/products/categories.lasso?-session=retailer_tracking:BD2AC784B3C878559B0939182054A931" target="_blank">Bag of Charms</a><br><br>
Anyhow, I ran across it while I was packing up my work supplies now that I'm quitting and I thought - how perfect!!! Basically, it's a bag of pewter charms. Each one symbolizes something different to me for the birth.<br><br><b>Peace sign</b> - a peaceful and graceful birth<br><b>Heart</b> - symbolizes our family and the love we all have for our new baby<br><b>Acorn</b> - giving new life, nature's cycle and perfection<br><b>Angel</b> - to watch over and protect us<br><b>Globe</b> - a symbol of women's ability to give birth. The connection with all the women who have given birth before and after me. My strong "I can do this" symbol.<br><br>
I love this idea and have been reflecting on these mantras and tokens nightly during my bath in preparation for the big day.
 

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It helped me to picture myself blooming like a flower - really visualizing a transformation, because that is what was happening. It helped me to relax and allow myself to "open up" to the process.<br>
I googled blooming rose images and had them fresh in my memory. I think it would've been a good idea to print them and have them available to focus on.<br>
My mental images worked well for me, though.<br>
Affirmations I used: <i>I can do this.<br>
My baby is coming.<br>
I am strong</i><br><br>
What worked best for me was holding dh's hands and dancing to music while sitting on a birthing ball. I got to 8 cm by dancing and laughing. After that, the birth tub and holding dh's hand were excellent distractions until I reached the pushing stage. That is when the affirmations really came in handy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br>
Every woman is different. Every labor is different. It's nice to have different options available, you can decide what works best when the time comes. For music, I had classical, celtic, nature sounds, the works. I ended up choosing the Beatles, James Taylor & Joni Mitchell mostly. Go figure. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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My favorite marathon-running thought when things got hard was "dig deep"....it's simple and easy to remember...don't know how it would work for labor, but it's helped me turn over in bed a few times lately hahahaha!
 
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