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My dh and I took Bradley classes with our first baby. We really enjoyed the classes but we didn't find it helpful once labor began. Honestly, it comes down to my husband's personality. He just is not the "coach" type and had a hard time taking charge. He felt really overwhelmed and just didn't feel like anything he was doing would help so he ended up not really doing anything! I had a doula and a midwife but somehow I ended up feeling like I was giving birth on my own! My labor was not at all typical (if there's a such thing as that!) so that complicated things. We tried to use what we learned from Bradley classes about my emotional sign posts and how long contractions were lasting and just interpreting my level of pain but I had horrible back labor that lead to double peak contractions, super long contractions (sometimes lasting 5 minutes non-stop for each contraction), emotionally felt like I couldn't do it, was getting chills, etc. (lots of things that suggested transition) but then discovered I was still only 6 centimeters (and actually gave birth 12 hours after they had called in the nurse because they thought I was ready to push!). So based on all of that, we just felt like some of what we learned almost made things worse. We all though, OK, this is transition, which helped me get through the pain but when we realized i wasn't in transion and it wasn't going to end in an hour or two, I just mentally lost it.<br><br>
So, anyway, I just worry that Bradley will not work for us again. My dh really wants to "do better" this time, but I just don't know that it's in his personally to be a good coach. I have tried telling him that he just needs to be there and support me, but I think he himself just gets too overwhelmed and isn't able to do it. Did anyone else have this experience or does anyone have any ideas what would be helpful for the next birth? Thanks!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">We all though, OK, this is transition, which helped me get through the pain but when we realized i wasn't in transion and it wasn't going to end in an hour or two, I just mentally lost it.</div>
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Gosh, I feel for you. I had a similar experience. I got to one on top of each other contractions (= transition) and stayed that way for 12 hours with my first! We figured out in the end her head was malpositioned, and it just took a long time to get her through. When I realized that I wasn't finishing like I should based on the sign posts, I lost it! I was ready to give up and die - for real. It was very traumatic.<br><br>
With number 2 I studied hypnobabies. Using hypnobabies, I really didn't need dh or anybody else to coach me. I was self sufficient. (Although he can learn ways to help - my dh isn't a good coach either.) I had a near painless labor and didn't experience anything remotely close to what I did with #1. #1 just feels like a bad dream now. I was so different from #2 that I can't even compare the experiences. I highly reccomend hypnobabies - it can help you work through the traumas of your past experience as well and help you approach your next birth with confidence.
 

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I have heard gret things about hypnobabies. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br><br>
I LOVE LOVE Active Birth. Get ahold of the book if you can. You can also look for teachers of the Active Birth method but it may be hard to find because it is not as popular as Bradley.<br><br>
I like some of the info in the Bradley book and still recomen the book but I always mention the Active Birth book as well. Together they are a "must have"
 

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If you're in GA you can take my class <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> I like Hypnobabies too. I used that for my 2nd (Bradley for my 1st) and it was helpful. My husband DID get a lot out of Bradley, but I definitely think it's not for everybody.
 

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So hypnobabies is good? Is it different/better than hypnobirth or hypbirth? I actually considered hypnobabies for my first baby but just didn't think it was a good fit for me. I was concerned I wouldn't be able to enter hypnosis and concerned it would remove me too much from others. But, with my son's birth, I actually felt pretty alone and disconnected from my dh anyway since no one knew how to help me! With hypnobabies, are you still able to interact with, talk to, etc. your dh and can you move around and stuff like that? I really know nothing about it so I'm just curious to hear more. Thanks!
 

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Hypnobabies teaches "eye wide open" hypnosis so you can use all that great information in Active Birth with the hypnosis with one caveat - position changes are to be used to facilitate labor and birth, not for comfort. The hypnosis is for comfort. There are many ways to use it - ranging from staying mostly in bed with eye closed listening to CDs (seems to work best for me, but I have a very ample pelvis), to a very active birth. I chose to spend alot of my labor in a relaxed state chatting with dh, and only went deeper when I needed too toward the end.<br><br>
It is different from hypnobirth/hypbirth. I've heard alot of opinions that Hypnobabies is more comprehensive and useful than hypnobirth - seems like hypnobirth success depends alot on getting a good teacher. Hypnobabies can be learned with an instructor or by home study. I don't really know anything about Hypbirth.
 

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I have also heard great things about Hypnobabies. But it is a different program from the other "hyp-" programs so make sure you're going with Hypnobabies.<br><br>
FWIW, your description of your first labor sounds like baby was malpositioned. I wouldn't be surprised if your 2nd labor was a lot easier (assuming baby #2 takes a better position) even if you kept all your coping skills the same.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">FWIW, your description of your first labor sounds like baby was malpositioned. I wouldn't be surprised if your 2nd labor was a lot easier (assuming baby #2 takes a better position) even if you kept all your coping skills the same.</div>
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I agree - for me the hypnosis was my insurance policy <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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OK...I'm not really well read on hypno birthing. Can someone please explain it to me in very easy to grasp terms, please? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Get a Doula, especially if it's not working for your Dh to be the coach. Methods are like says there's one way. I used Bradley for my birth, but I will not teach one method. Having been a Doula and worked with partners and the mom's, they seem to be relieved that someone that "knew what was going on" was there.
 

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I don't believe in any one method for all moms, it's like teaching a method of parenting or anything else..works for some, not for others.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">OK...I'm not really well read on hypno birthing. Can someone please explain it to me in very easy to grasp terms, please? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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Hypnobirthing teaches you to use self-hypnosis during labor and birth. I spent $275 on a Bradley class, which was indeed very helpful. But I borrowed the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FHypnoBirthing-natural-approach-comfortable-birthing%2Fdp%2F0757302661%2Fref%3Dpd_bbs_sr_1%2F104-6598646-5827938%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1177464703%26sr%3D8-1" target="_blank">Hypnobirthing</a> book from the library, and helped just as much.<br><br>
The book also includes a CD. I listened to it about a dozen times. It talks about time passing more quickly during labor. When I was in labor 20 minutes seemed like 5!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hypnobirthing teaches you to use self-hypnosis during labor and birth. I spent $275 on a Bradley class, which was indeed very helpful. But I borrowed the <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FHypnoBirthing-natural-approach-comfortable-birthing%2Fdp%2F0757302661%2Fref%3Dpd_bbs_sr_1%2F104-6598646-5827938%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1177464703%26sr%3D8-1" target="_blank">Hypnobirthing</a> book from the library, and helped just as much.<br><br>
The book also includes a CD. I listened to it about a dozen times. It talks about time passing more quickly during labor. When I was in labor 20 minutes seemed like 5!</div>
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Very interesting, thanks! Will have to look into it more! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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