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I'm reading Ina May's Guide To Childbirth and am kind of fascinated with the idea of birth sexuality. I have never read/heard anything about this before.

I just wonder if making out with your partner during labor would be enjoyable? Anyone try this? Does it help move labor along?
 

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Well, nipple stimulation is known to help labor along. As are the prostaglandins in semen. (Apparently, both internally and externally used) And having an orgasm can make contractions regular, as well as contribue feel good hormones to help releive pain. Sex in labor sounds like a fabulous idea to me!
 

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With our first child, we got labour going with sex. But when things got intense I didn't want to be touched. Our third is due to arrive in October and our relationship is feeling so close and loving lately that I can see us really connecting in labour this time, we'll have to wait and see though. LOL, I'm really hoping to labour at night when the kids are asleep!

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Absolutely! Birth and sex are fueled by the same hormones. So it makes sense that whatever you can do to get that oxytocin flowing -- affection, sexual arousal, etc. -- will also get the labor going smoothly.

Here's a great article about it: http://www.mothering.com/11-0-0/html...ic-birth.shtml

And another:
http://www.body.arc.co.uk/body2/birthOrgasm.html

I haven't read Ina May's new book, but when I read Spiritual Midwifery I have to admit I was shocked at the things she was advocating. The midwife doing nipple stim, massaging the perineum, and putting pressure on the clitoris?
I don't know about you, but that would NOT make me relaxed and orgasmic, that would make me incredibly tense. In some of the birth stories she'd also sit there and advise the husband on how to be intimate/affectionate with his wife, and commented on how some of them just didn't know how to do it. Um, maybe they were uncomfortable doing it with you watching and critiqueing?
After I read that I thought, geez, she really doesn't understand sexuality at all. I'm really interested to see what she writes in the new book about it, it has been, what, 30 years since Spiritual Midwifery? Maybe she's figured some things out since then.
 

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My partner and I didn't make out during labor, but there were definately points in time where it was pleasurable in a distinctly sexual way. In fact, (may be TMI, Sorry!) I found gently massaging my clitorus to be great pain relief and turned the intensity from desperation to pleasure and greater relaxation. I've also read the the "g spot" which is sometimes stimulated during intercourse and can cause amazingly intense orgasms is the same spot that the baby's head presses upon as it moves down the birth canal!
 

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Thanks for the links! I really enjoyed the Birth, Sexuality and Orgasm article that really nailed a lot of questions I have pondered all during my reproductive life!

The UC site definitely deserves more exploring. I read a lot of quotes about the actual birth being orgasmic or intensely pleasurable, but was hoping there was more "labor was pleasure" :LOL Maybe for some it is, but that has not been the case with me


I still can't imagine enjoying a makeout session during labor, but hey, if it helps ease along labor I am there


I have to laugh thinking back to my first pregnancy when I got very close to 42 weeks and the MW was talking induction, I started a nightly intercourse regimen with dh who quickly turned sour on it when he realized all I wanted him for was his semen
: he said "honey, I just want to cuddle..." I was truly ticked about it only wanting to go into labor, crying and ranting that he "had" to help me. I can see I have come a long way...

blueviolet; This newer book does seem more mainstream-reader friendly from what you say, altho I never read Spritual Midwifery. She does mention having stimulated some nipples once in it, which did not miss my attention but I was thinking, hey, I can stimulate my *own* nipples, thanx!

It is interesting how it seems that the expectation of pain can be very powerful. Having read these links I can see how my second birth actually was pleasureable, but I think in my head it was more "it feels good to push, soon the pain will be over" but mostly at that point I don't think I would say it was pain at all, more like a wonderful feel while pushing followed by a euphoric endorphin rush. I could have stayed in the endorphin rush forever!
 

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Originally Posted by laurata
My partner and I didn't make out during labor, but there were definately points in time where it was pleasurable in a distinctly sexual way. In fact, (may be TMI, Sorry!) I found gently massaging my clitorus to be great pain relief and turned the intensity from desperation to pleasure and greater relaxation. I've also read the the "g spot" which is sometimes stimulated during intercourse and can cause amazingly intense orgasms is the same spot that the baby's head presses upon as it moves down the birth canal!
I am so glad you posted this, I think it can be an effective pain control method for labor.

It is very interesting that all the pharmaceuticals manufactured to induce labor are chemicals imitating those produced in a sexually aroused woman!
 

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Hell no.
I'm a "don't touch me, I'm in my place" kinda labourer.

~Daednu
That was my first thought as well. Make out? Good God, just leave me the heck alone!!

Maybe if my labors lasted longer, but I pretty much go from "Is this labor?" to transition in a few hours.
 

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Did intercourse and nipple stimulation to get labor started, but after that, forget it! Don't touch me without an invitation... a notorized invitation sent certified mail.

But that's me; I guess you won't know unil you get there.
 

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Just to fuel the rumor mill: I heard Ina may and her husband Stephan were actually in a 8 partner marriage at the time Spiritual Midwifery came out (since then, the other couple's have split away). So, maybe some of those wives she was fondling were her own?
(I have no idea, just thinking about it).

I do know that Spiritual Midwifery could have been much, much much less "mainstream" than it is. Part of the charm, for me
 

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Just to fuel the rumor mill: I heard Ina may and her husband Stephan were actually in a 8 partner marriage at the time Spiritual Midwifery came out (since then, the other couple's have split away). So, maybe some of those wives she was fondling were her own?
(I have no idea, just thinking about it).

I do know that Spiritual Midwifery could have been much, much much less "mainstream" than it is. Part of the charm, for me

Oooooh, do tell! I just finished reading Spiritual Midwifery.
 
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