"It's so much more work"..."We were just getting into a routine"..."Both the girls are fine and we used formula with them".
Just some of the things I've had to listen to from DH tonight. He's all in a snit because I left all day to go shopping, even though I took Carter with me and that's why it took me all day. Most of it was nursing and changing and so on. I asked him to help me get him ready to go because I have such a short window and NEED to be where I am able to nurse, because of the SNS. He huffed. When I got back I asked what the problem was and he spewed the above crap. He's not doing the extra work, I am. He does'nt have to feed him at all anymore, or put him down for naps on the weekends. He's at work all day so how does a change in routine REALLY effect him? Maybe in the evenings and on the weekends, but now I'm home in the evenings to feed Carter and all he has to do is help with the girls. The only real way it effects him is that I'm VERY tired and our personal life is pretty well non existant. But hey, I have offered to wake him up when I go to bed at 2am. Why can't he just be supportive to me. He tells all our friends that he is all for me bf'ing Carter and happy I am relactating, but to me he complains about it. Our first dd has a strong imunity, but our second dd does not. So, the way I see it Carter has a 50/50 chance of getting a good healthy immune system. Not enough in my eyes.
On the up side I am pumping out more and more. I'm not pumping after he nurses because he is emptying me pretty fast and he nurses for 20 min on each side. He also nurses to fall asleep for his naps, so I'm getting lots of stimulation from him. I'm also getting lots of sprays when I had express after I pump. I watched a mom nurse her baby today and it made me cry. I just want to be able to nurse him without this stupid SNS around my neck. Then dh can eat his words when it does indeed become easier. We are getting into a routine and we are both getting better and better, and more comfortable. He has a great latch, but the tubes and tape really irritate me.
Just needed to let some stuff out. It's been a long week.
Just some of the things I've had to listen to from DH tonight. He's all in a snit because I left all day to go shopping, even though I took Carter with me and that's why it took me all day. Most of it was nursing and changing and so on. I asked him to help me get him ready to go because I have such a short window and NEED to be where I am able to nurse, because of the SNS. He huffed. When I got back I asked what the problem was and he spewed the above crap. He's not doing the extra work, I am. He does'nt have to feed him at all anymore, or put him down for naps on the weekends. He's at work all day so how does a change in routine REALLY effect him? Maybe in the evenings and on the weekends, but now I'm home in the evenings to feed Carter and all he has to do is help with the girls. The only real way it effects him is that I'm VERY tired and our personal life is pretty well non existant. But hey, I have offered to wake him up when I go to bed at 2am. Why can't he just be supportive to me. He tells all our friends that he is all for me bf'ing Carter and happy I am relactating, but to me he complains about it. Our first dd has a strong imunity, but our second dd does not. So, the way I see it Carter has a 50/50 chance of getting a good healthy immune system. Not enough in my eyes.
On the up side I am pumping out more and more. I'm not pumping after he nurses because he is emptying me pretty fast and he nurses for 20 min on each side. He also nurses to fall asleep for his naps, so I'm getting lots of stimulation from him. I'm also getting lots of sprays when I had express after I pump. I watched a mom nurse her baby today and it made me cry. I just want to be able to nurse him without this stupid SNS around my neck. Then dh can eat his words when it does indeed become easier. We are getting into a routine and we are both getting better and better, and more comfortable. He has a great latch, but the tubes and tape really irritate me.
Just needed to let some stuff out. It's been a long week.
