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For safety, I do not allow my 8 month old to crawl around with food in her mouth. When she's done sitting and eating, I carefully remove the chunks of food that she's storing in her cheeks and then allow her to go on her merry way. Well, she HATES to have me remove her food from her mouth, but she's definitely DONE sitting there. I feel like I'm in a catch-22 since she'll scream until I let her up, and she'll scream if I dare start poking around in her mouth.<br><br>
Taking food out of her mouth used to not be such a big deal since it was usually a large chunk of food that was partially sticking out anyway. Now, she's gotten adept at dismembering anything I give her but not adept enough yet that it all ends up chewed up into pieces that can be swallowed.<br><br>
Tonight was the worst yet. We had steamed broccoli. She started out with two nice big florets and ended with 6-7 small chunks plus a bunch of tiny stuff in her mouth and a measurable amount gone when she did not want to sit there anymore. I tried to take pieces out of her mouth, and I got a couple before she got really upset. I moved her to my lap to allow her to continue eating or to continue emptying her mouth, and she wanted to nurse.<br><br>
OK, as long as she's sitting up, she'll have to figure out how to handle solids and liquids at the same time anyway. She tried, but it didn't work with that much food in her mouth. A few more chunks of broccoli start coming out, but there was still one bigger one left towards the back, center of her tongue.<br><br>
She about throws a fit between not being able to nurse and me trying to dig around in her mouth. She struggles and starts to gag/choke. She was making noise some of the time and not others. I turned her upside down, and she was able to get it out of her throat to a place that I could get it more easily. The whole thing was just traumatic for both of us, and I feel like I handled the whole thing wrong.<br><br>
There must be something that I'm just not getting. If she were old enough to understand, I could give her a choice to sit there or empty her mouth. I feel like emptying her mouth myself is disrespectful to her body and potentially dangerous, especially when she struggles, but she's not old enough to understand that she has to sit there until her mouth is empty, and struggling to get up or crawling around the house with food in her mouth is dangerous too.
 

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When ds is done I clear everything off the tray in front of him & wait for him to finish what is in his mouth or remove/spit it out himself. I cannot imagine he ever would have allowed me to dig around in his mouth.<br><br>
I also found that until very recently I could only give him one or two manageable pieces at a time or else he either threw everything off the tray or tried to shove it all in his mouth at once. So maybe limiting how much she gets at once (& then give her more as she finishes eating it) would help.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I also found that until very recently I could only give him one or two manageable pieces at a time or else he either threw everything off the tray or tried to shove it all in his mouth at once. So maybe limiting how much she gets at once (& then give her more as she finishes eating it) would help.</div>
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Thanks for the ideas. I'll try giving her less. Maybe she's ready for some smaller pieces. It's amazing how many pieces 1 stick of broccoli can turn into.
 

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My DD is 10 months old and we've been doing BLW since she was 6 months (I just say that for reference for below):<br><br>
When she was 6-7 months, I gave her big chunks of food b/c that was what she could manage most easily and she'd spit out what she didn't swallow, she never stored it in her cheeks.<br><br>
But once she got the pincer grasp down, she stopped wanting to do big pieces of food and preferred that I break them down smaller for her to pick up and eat (or else eat from a fork/spoon that I preloaded).<br><br>
I would try giving her 2-3 pieces of food on her tray at a time that are pincer-grasp sized instead and see how she does. I was surprised when I noticed that DD had transitioned from big to small b/c I hadn't expected that, but she was very clear about that being what she wanted.<br><br>
I haven't regularly fished anything out of her mouth except non-food items she's scavenged from the floor, and I'd discourage doing that often since it makes the risk of choking higher (as you found) and also is traumatic.
 
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