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My little one loves to walk. Big shock, I know. My gramma tells me not to let dd walk w/o holding my hand on pavement. Sometimes dd won't let me hold her hand and throws a fit! DD wants to walk independently. *I* am okay with that (no traffic or danger). She's fallen twice (gotten a bit scuffed up but no biggie). As of today, I will never hear the end of this from my gramma. Today gramma is telling me, "You shouldn't let her walk on the sidewalk, she could fall and have bleeding in the brain....." Is that even true?...bleeding in the brain from tripping while you walk?<br><br>
If dd is on the sidewalk, gramma gripes at me that she's going to fall. Okay...so I put her in the grass. Then gramma gripes at me that bugs/bees will get her. Ok? So, am I supposed to suspend her from the sky or something? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/confused.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Confused">:<br><br>
Ok...that was a bit of a rant <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> QUESTION: Do you let your toddlers walk on pavement/concrete independently or do you make them hold your hand incase they fall?<br><br>
I don't know what to do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> My comfort levels are way off from gramma's apparently. What about you guys? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/help.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="help">
 

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I let him walk independently as long as he stays on the sidewalk. I always make him hold my hand if we're crossing the street.
 

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I let my children walk independently as long as they are on the sidewalk and there is no danger from traffic or them running out into traffic (my dc love to run and they tend not to listen when I tell them to stop). I think we need to let our children explore independently and, well, once in a while they get hurt which I also feel is somewhat necessary for them to learn not to get hurt again. Sometimes when there is a huge hill we encourage DS not to run down it or to hold our hand because he might (probably will) fall, but it is up to him to listen to our warnings and make his own decision.
 

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Wow, grandma needs to know that your the mom here. Bumps and scrapes are going to happen, and bug bites too. All you can do is be there to pick them up when it happends (and sometimes be there to prevent a big fall) But they have to learn somehow. And the bleeding in the brain...never heard of that from tripping.
 

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nak<br><br>
yep, we let dd walk, even run (gasp!) on asphalt and hard surfaces. it is a bit nervewracking at times, but i believe she needs to be free to explore her limits, and to me this is a relatively safe arena for this. dd has fallen many times, scraped up her nose, etc, but it's all been minor (so far!) like treemom2, we also encourage hand-holding on hills.<br><br>
of course we don't let her go on her own near cars or traffic.
 

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Hey, thanks you guys. If dd wants independence, I let her have it if it's possible. If there is danger/traffic/cobblestone, etc I either hold her hand or carry her. But if it's just concrete/pavement, I let her have at it. That seems normal to me...but like I said, gramma won't get off of me about the issue. Just wanted to make sure I wasn't being a neglectful mom by allowing dd to walk on concrete.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hey, thanks you guys. If dd wants independence, I let her have it if it's possible. If there is danger/traffic/cobblestone, etc I either hold her hand or carry her. But if it's just concrete/pavement, I let her have at it. That seems normal to me...but like I said, gramma won't get off of me about the issue. Just wanted to make sure I wasn't being a neglectful mom by allowing dd to walk on concrete.</div>
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definately not a neglectful momma<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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You are certainly not a neglectful mama! Ds is 23 mos and refuses to hold my hand. At only 23 mos mama is already uncool. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I make him hold my hand to cross streets and walk in parking lots or I carry him. Other than that, he is free to roam. I also let him run downhill on asphalt. He has gotten a few scraped knees in his walking/running career but it happens. It's part of being a child. It's important to let them explore and have their independence. We can't be there to stop every trip, fall or injury - no matter how much we want to. I remember when ds was 11 mos old and crawling up and the down the stairs like a champion. I made a small mention to his ped and she freaked and said the thought of a kid that young doing the stairs scared her. My thought was that I wanted him to learn how to go up and down the stairs when he was ready. I wanted him to be good at it in order to prevent injury. It's the same with walking and running on the pavement. I let him go his merry way. He may trip and fall a few times, but the continued practice will help develop his skills and coordination.
 
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