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at his first attempt at intactivism <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
I had been bugging him about bringing up the subject with a friend of his whose wife is pg and expecting a boy...my dh is the OPPOSITE of an activist, but I know he finally did it for me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Well, the guy said it's Judeo-Christian tradition and of course, the old 'I am so he will be too' argument...I know my dh said "I am and Owen is not, and it's fine..."<br>
But anyway, the guy doesn't seem to want to listen to any reasons. It sucks.<br><br>
I will send dh the Men's Health article I think, maybe he'll fwd it to him...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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If the guy knew his Bible he would see where Paul said that circumcision is NOT necessary at all and even advised AGAINST it!<br>
If you think it would help at all I can post the referrences.<br><br>
Has dh's friend ever witnessed a circ? There are a few wonderful web pages that graphiclly show one some with sound. That is what did it for my dh.
 

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Don't think of it as failing Ilaria- your husband suceeded if he was able to overcome his own fear of speaking out about a sensitive subject like that and opening himself up to all the fallout that such a action can make. You can never control other people, so what they do is never your own failure... what would be a failure is to never say anything in the first place. What your husband did was very brave and IMHO- heroic... make the goal to speak out at every opportunity. The failure is when you go home thinking, I could have said somthing and I didn't."<br><br>
Please thank your DH for me- what he did was very brave and I hope he continues to speak out, even in simple conversations, nt to pregnant pople etc, just speak up and say, this look like dad mojo is BS...it has nothing to do with the baby and everything to do with his father's insecurity. If he says that to 15 single men, he will plant the seed.<br><br>
Love Sarah<br><br>
PS- Thanks for signing the map... (I used to live kindof in the area near your pin near Pisa, and I have a lot to thank Italians for when it comes to intactivism... and you tell them I said that!! )
 

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You are very right and I am proud of him for bringing it up with his friend! He went from "Of course we'll circ any future sons!" to doing this...I love him! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I put my pins in the wring area, by the way...I should have zoomed! I'm Chandler (Phoenix) but the map shows me in Fkagstaff and I'm from Milan!...anyway...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Good for your husband for speaking out! I totally agree with Sarah it took a lot for him to do that. I wish I could get my own dh to that point.<br>
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I also agree this isn't a failure. He's come a lonnnngggg ways. I am proud of him.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Have your hubby e-mail this to his friend, "What the Bible REALLY says about Circumsicion"<br><br><a href="http://www.stopcirc.com/christian.html" target="_blank">http://www.stopcirc.com/christian.html</a><br><br>
hth<br>
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Ilaria~~i have failed at almost every attempt to convert someone. I've only been successful twice, out of the 50 or so ppl i've talked to. but i know i'm out there trying, and that's what counts. I got discouraged in the beginning, after about the first 10 hostile reactions i got from ppl, but then i realized, "what if i meet someone that i can change, and i'm too chicken to say anything? then they would go on to circ, and it would be my fault." So i talk to whoever will listen now, just to get it out there.<br><br>
my point is that if you have to talk to 1,000 ppl to change one person's mind, it's worth it. and don't let him get discouraged now that he has finally come out of his shell and is talking about circ. He has made that first huge step, and that is most important of all. there's alot of closed-minded ppl out there who are gonna react badly to this subject. just don't let that get him down.<br><br>
YAY for you and your DH!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 
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