"Raising Boys" by Stephen Biddulf. (We have 4 boys) and DH read it and said it was very informative. I haven't had time to sit down to read it yet (ergo, the 4 boys) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I have a friend who is the new father of an 11 yr old boy, any book suggestions that might help him?</div>
And a word of advice:<br><br>
Encourage your friend to NOT try to be a parent to the kid. Be an older/wiser more mature friend instead. The kid already has 2 parents (assuming he knows his dad) so he's not looking for a third. He IS looking for a mature role model who can show him (passively AND actively) how to grow up to be a respectable, respectful and honourable man in todays world. Lean by example. Leave all disciplining up to birthmom. Be seen as trusteworthy, able to keep a secret, capable and manly. Teach the kid to stick up for himself and others who need defending.<br><br>
Do "dad things" but don't try and replace the dad he's got. Nothing will drive a wedge between them deeper or faster than if the kid believes that your friend is trying to be his new dad.