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My DD is 10.5 and I haven't exactly talked to her about sex, puberty, etc. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: We don't really hide things around here, so I think I have assumed that she knows more than she probably does. She knows how babies are born (she's been looking at her birth photos since she was 3 and she saw her baby sister born last year), and that her dad and I created baby sister. She knows about menstruation, she's seen me empty and clean my Diva cup. She knows male and female body parts because she sees me half naked all the time (breastfeeding! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">), sees dad climb out of the shower, etc. She knows that there are same sex couples as well as male/female couples, we've had conversations about how a same sex couple may have a baby (adoption, IVF, etc.).<br><br>
But, it's not like we sit down specifically to have these conversations, they just come up along the way (maybe something on TV prompts a question, or she sees me in the bathroom and asks a related question, etc.). So, I'm guessing that she's missing out on a lot she needs to know. I'd like to get her a decent book about herself and what her body will go through and heck, what else am I supposed to be talking to her about now? She's in a small school now with a good group of girl friends, friends that aren't actually too mature for their age. They still play PlayMobil and WebKinz, and aren't into gossiping, chatting, hair, fashion....YET. So, I'd like to get her the info before she gets to this point and before she gets incorrect info from kids at school.<br><br>
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<a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325&tag=motheringhud-20&location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FCare-Keeping-You-American-Library%2Fdp%2F1562476661%2Fref%3Dsr_1_1%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1196722605%26sr%3D8-1" target="_blank">http://www.amazon.com/Care-Keeping-Y...6722605&sr=8-1</a><br><br>
DSD loved it, she read it when she was about 10 y.o. It covers many things: from sleeping habits, to eating habits, to what to expect from body as it changes... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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Okay, those both look good, thanks! I am going to get her both for Christmas. I think I am also going to get "It's so Amazing" which is the book before "It's Perfectly Normal". Since I'm not exactly sure what stage DD is at, I am not sure which one she is ready for!<br><br>
Also, has anyone read "Growing Up: It's a Girl Thing"? It looked interesting as well, but I wouldn't mind some feedback from people here.
 

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your daughter seems like she already knows alot jut because you are open with her. you dont need to always sit down and talk about things you might want to check out <a href="http://www.newmoon.org/" target="_blank">http://www.newmoon.org/</a> and some of here articles for sale
 

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My dd just turned 10 & much the same as you, we talk about everything along the way as it comes up. I don't think you need to sit down for a specific conversation. If we are willing to speak openly all the time then hopefully our dd's will feel comfortable coming to us to ask us questions. But recently I did feel exactly what you were talking about & gave her the book Care & Keeping of you. We flipped through it together & I told her that as she reads it she can ask me anything she wants. Don't y'know that night she started asking specific questions & reading stuff to me from the book. It was a great conversation starter. I hope it does the same for you & your dd.
 
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