I have been shamelessly lurky, I and officially due NOV1 but know I will go early so here I am, nice to meet everyone.
I was looking at the library today, but found nothing, the two books about new babies, 1) had Bottle feeding, 2)had completely negative things to say about babies. Also I would like something that maybe talks more about the pregnancy, than the new baby being in the home.
( I know I saw this Q recently but could not find it again)
I have been lurking, too. I am due at the end of October.
I am glad to see this question, as I have been thinking about books, too. My DS already knows I'm PG (he just knew) but we haven't done much talking about what it will really be like when the baby comes.
We already have Welcome with Love and read it every once in a while (we got it and read it before I was even pregnant), but I was wondering if you mamas were already reading the books with your child or if you thought it would be better to do so closer to your due dates?
Just curious... Thanks!
together with Rom
parents to Orlando, August 2003
and EDD, October 2006
The one book we have I picked up at a yard sale last summer, it's called "I'm a big brother" but yes, it has bottle feeding & baby sleeping in a crib. But it does talk about being gentle with the baby, asking for permission before picking up the baby, and daddy picks up the baby when it cries because it's tellling us it needs something... it's really more focused on the fact that while there's a new baby in the house, the big brother is still special "because he's a big brother now".
Anyway, I wouln't recommend it and would love to hear of some great AP-friendly baby-big sibling books, too. Thanks!
I second Welcome with Love by Jenni Overend. It is a really precious story depicting a beautiful homebirth and has really natural references to the feelings of the older siblings regarding the birth and the new baby. It ends with the baby nursing to sleep in the family "bed" (sleeping bags by the fire, so sweet). DS1 was 2 1/2 when our second was born and we loved sharing it with him.
I found my copy on the mothering FSOT board...you might try there
All of those books look GREAT, I will order them tomorrow. I am Aussie so I'm epecially excited about that one.
Thank you so much, I just don't think a book about bottle feeding and Mommy dissappearing to the hospital would be like what our birth is going to be like.
I'll be around to get to know you all more, It is going to be exciting.
Fred Rogers (you know, from Mr. Rogers' Neighborhood) has a wonderful book called "The New Baby" or something like that, and while it does have a picture of bottlefeeding, it has right next to it a picture of a baby nursing (and it's a very "uncovered" picture, so it's not like you have to guess what the baby's doing
) and to be technical, the nursing picture is first.
It's a lovely book, the photos are of all different types of families racially, too, so that's appreciated ... and also talks about the older sib's feelings and how it's okay to have them and all that sort of stuff. Very sweet.
We really love "Hello Baby" by Lizzy Rockwell. It shows fetal development and when the baby is born, mom is nursing.
Here is our list
What we have read already:
*Hello Baby by Lizzie Rockwell
*Will There Be a Lap for Me
*A Baby's Coming to Your House by Shelley Moore Thomas -- multicultural, real photographs
*When I'm a Big Brother by Bruce Lansky -- you add your child's photo and then can write their thoughts on becoming/being a big brother
*On Mother's Lap
*We Have a Baby by Cathryn Falwell
*A Teeny Tiny baby by Amy Schwartz
*We Like to Nurse by Chia Martin -- not siblings, but shows nursing among different mammals
*Everywhere Babies by Susan Meyers -- shows wearing babies and nursing
Still need to read:
Hi New Baby by Robie Harris
New Baby at Your House
Waiting for Baby
I Love You as Much... by Laura Krauss Melmed
Welcome with Love by Jenni Overend
Biggest Bed in the World by Lindsay Camp
Mommy Breastfeeds Our Baby by Teresa P. Carroll
I'm Made of Mama's Milk by Mary Olsen
A Ride on Mother's Back by Emery Bernhard
This IS a good question. I should go ahead and buy a few. I rarely buy books...who can afford to get everything they want? So how to decide what to actually buy?
Anyway, I always optimisitcally pick up one from the library and forget to look through it before we bring it home and read it. And EVERY time, it stinks. Why, oh why do they think that *introducing* the idea that the older sib will be put out by the new baby will be beneficial, when the sib hasn't even been in the position to HAVE negative feelings yet? I mean, I can understand a book reflecting that negative feelings about something is normal. But people read these BEFORE the baby is born. It like, Hey! Your gonna have a baby at your house! Man, that thing will CRY and you will be all jealous and for heaven's sake don't HIT the baby!
We try to be really realistic, but let's not make them think a baby is gonna ruin their lives!