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I'm curious about other's bottom line responses to the typical question that follows when you tell someone you homeschool...."Why?!"<br><br>
The answer to "why" I choose to homeschool could go on for quite a long time...there are MANY reasons!! And frankly many of them are insulting to traditional schooling.<br>
But obviously when engaged in a casual conversation an extended answer might be out of place.<br><br>
So what do you say when people in small talk situations ask "why" you homeschool?<br><br>
Mine is "I love being with my children and homeschooling offers SO many wonderful opportunites."<br><br>
And what specifically got me thinking about this is an upcoming family gathering where for the first time we will be talking about our choice to homeschool with my dh's side of the family. Dds are only 2 1/2 yrs and 4 1/2 yrs, so as of yet the question hasn't really been an issue. Although at our xmas family dinner last year they were shocked that dd1 wasn't in preschool yet and asked "can she interact with other children?" sheesh<br>
I suspect it's going to freak them out a bit that we're planning to homeschool.
 

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Why? Because I want my child(ren) to have the best education possible, and they won't get that with our local public school system.<br><br>
Then, of course, more questions come up... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes">: But I got answers for those already, too!
 

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If I don't want to get into a long discussion or I want to cut one short, I just say<br>
"It's the best decision for our family at this time."
 

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I know I sound like an airheaded little twit but the last two times a stranger asked me why we homeschooled I smiled and said "It's fun!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Sometimes I turn questions around (depending on the situation),<br><br>
Them: WHY do you HOMEschool?!<br><br>
Me: Why did you send your kids off to public schools?<br><br>
Them: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/privateeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="private eyes"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"><br><br>
Me: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> :)LOL <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome">ag)<br><br><br>
This works for a lot of those 'stupid' nosy questions.
 

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I like my kid and don't want to waste the best time of our lives together sending him somewhere he doesn't want to be, and that I don't trust.<br><br>
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When we tell people we are thinking about homeschooling our daughter, and they ask us "why" the "bottom line" answer we come up with is: "to make sure she gets the attention she needs and can learn at her own pace". Overcrowded schools are a big peeve of mine.<br><br>
I also love Faith's answer! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="EEK!"> Have you seriously ever met a young child that couldn't interact with other children? That is the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard!<br><br>
Why do we homeschool? Probably for the same reasons that other parents send their children to school; because we believe it is the best for our children. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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Homeschooling gives our family more freedom than public school would allow.
 

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If it's family or someone I don't want to offend I'll point out a few real reasons. The socialization question is a joke. At the Waldorf school she had great socialization but at the public school- hah. Lord of the Flies. With extended family, though, if I point out the advantages for our family they seem to think it's some kind of selfishness on our part.<br><br>
If it's some nosey idiot at the supermarket who starts with "no school today?" we usually just say 'she doesn't go to school." I enjoy this. If they ask why I tell them she's too smart.<br><br>
I have a friend who tells people her child's a prodigy and in college (she's a fifth grader). She says that shuts em up.
 

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It depends on my mood.<br><br>
Somedays it is "that what is best for our family"<br><br>
Sometimes I say "God told me too" that usually ends the conversation. People either believe me and can't argue with God or think I am a nut or jerking thier chain and blow me off.<br><br>
I like to turn it around on them too. "Why don't you?"<br><br>
If I am feeling imformative I will say "I want her to have a better education than PSs offer, I worry about her saftey and lack of socialization in PS and I really really enjoy spending time with my children."
 

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I usually say we homeschool because we can tailor our children's education to their needs and let our children spend their time doing things they enjoy.<br><br>
Of course I wish I could say something a little more profound, but that doesn't come to me until 10 minutes after the conversation is over! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I am going to teach my son this:<br><br>
Person: Why aren't you in school, little boy?<br><br>
Ds with outstretched arms: Because the world is my oyster!
 

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"Of course I wish I could say something a little more profound, but that doesn't occur to me unti ten minutes after the conversation is over."<br><br>
I KNOW what you mean!!! That happens to me so much! Frustrating.<br><br>
"Can she interact with other children?" ....yes, when my husband's uncle asked this question I was thinking "what an IGNORANT question!" duh!!<br><br>
I also like the idea of turning the question around when asked saying "Well, why do you send your children to public school?" I think it's a fair response that puts things into perspective.<br><br>
Although I understand not everyone wants to homeschool their children, I have a hard time understanding why it's so hard for others to comprehend why we do choose to homeschool and not see it for the wonderful opportunity that it can be. Seems to me such a no-brainer.
 

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Timely thread...I also have a giant family get together this weekend. Lots of these people I am seeing are school teachers (I come from a family full of them! I was almost one of them)<br><br>
So I have to be delicate, but basically what it all boils down to, is we are homeschooling because I want my kids to think for themselves and to be open-minded, and work at their own pace.<br><br>
I really liked PumpkinSeed's answer! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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