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My 4 yr old DDs best friend, also 4, is totally boy crazy. At school she chases around the boys agressively trying to kiss and hug them and talks constantly about her boyfriends and getting married etc. Its cute to an extent but it has gotten out of control recently. Yesterday she was at our house playing and she said they should pretend to kiss their boyfirends. So, dd started making smooching noises and the bf started making sexy moans and groans. And while in the car with her mom they drove past the local strip club which has a picture of a very sexy lady on the sign and bf says "oh i want to be like her, she's so fancy!" The mom of course had a big talk with her about how being pretty isn't what matters etc. and she is very careful about what movies, books, clothing, etc she has, but it doesn't seem to make a difference. We are both at a loss for what to do. Nothing we have said has changed anything so far and we don't want to say too much and further their ideas about boys. For me its extra hard because DD doesn't get into any of this when her BF isn't around. but we really like the bf and her family and don't want this to become a "can't play with her" situation (which can't happen anyway b/c they go to pre-k together). what can i say to them or do with them without trash talking boys or giving them too much info?<br><br><br>
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the bf so describes my dd. I don't know where she got it. From a very young age I knew she was the touchy-feely kind. I think she kissed every kid (as a greeting) she saw until she was 3yrs and she was always drawn to the fireman pole on the playground. Her close friend the year is also very into "boyfriends" though I think it's more a competition with the friend. They chase the boys around (just started in K, her pre-K, in another state, was a very small class of 6 where the chasing and kissing stuff just didn't happen). I think dd is the only one that is kissing and being kissed by the boys.<br>
For the most part I'm very un-touchy-feely. I don't know where the boy-craze came from but I do remember chasing boys on the playground in 1st grade<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:
 

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My dd's 4 year old class all do this. Most have picked a mate, one even going so far as to ask her dad to build she and potential husband a house in the back yard. My dd makes up these elaborate songs about the boys she is in "love" with. I am so not into this and my older dd's never did it. What we have tried to do is push her pretend play. When she is pretending boyfriend scenarios, I try to step in with maybe you and the boyfriend can go to the jungle, be lions, etc. etc.. Sometimes it works. Sometimes she thinks I'm a freak.
 
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