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DS is 3 and newly potty "trained". he likes to pee sitting on the toilet, but for his penis to point down, his legs have to be spread out pretty wide. for this he wants to take his panties and pants off...which is a bit problematic, sometimes; especially if we are out. any other ideas? how do your boys pee? sometimes i can convince him to stand on my feet, and pee while leaning and standingg...but sometimes he won't agree. and he certainly won't let me hold him over the toilet, like i did with DD when she was younger.
 

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Standing up?
 

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Instead of wider legs, can you scoot him back a little further? I've always asked my son to make sure his pee is going in the toilet and have encouraged him to put one finger on his penis to make it point down. We've had very few out of the toilet dribbles this way. Even if/when he figures out how to pee standing up, some toilets are so tall that being able to pee sitting is vital at this age! I guess I'd keep practicing at home. We went through taking everything off for a long time, too, and all of a sudden the clothes are staying on. Good luck!
 

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I'd have him hold his penis down.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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yup and even then when he is standing he'll only stop peeing on the toilet when the men eventually figure out how to do that. men are not multitaskers.lol
 

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I so prefer that the boys sit when urinating. What the other poster said about placing one finger on the penis to direct it downward is exactly what my boys do. My eldest does not sit but my middle boy does half the time and at night when I bring my 4yo to the potty I have his sit. Sitting makes for a cleaner toilet.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Instead of wider legs, can you scoot him back a little further? I've always asked my son to make sure his pee is going in the toilet and have encouraged him to put one finger on his penis to make it point down. We've had very few out of the toilet dribbles this way. Even if/when he figures out how to pee standing up, some toilets are so tall that being able to pee sitting is vital at this age! I guess I'd keep practicing at home. We went through taking everything off for a long time, too, and all of a sudden the clothes are staying on. Good luck!</div>
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okay, will try pushing him back. he does point it down. do you think it is okay for him to hold his penis when he pees? sometimes he presses it down, like a lever, but sometimes he holds it between his fingers and points it down. when dh saw it he freaked out and said he could get an infection from doing this, but i couldn't get anything else out of dh on this issue.<br><br>
for tall toilets i ask him to stand on my feet, so in my winter boots it adds quite a bit of height.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I so prefer that the boys sit when urinating. What the other poster said about placing one finger on the penis to direct it downward is exactly what my boys do. My eldest does not sit but my middle boy does half the time and at night when I bring my 4yo to the potty I have his sit. Sitting makes for a cleaner toilet.</div>
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right now he prefers to sit and point his penis down. it should be only one finger, not holding it between his fingers?<br><br>
i kind of think that even if i ask him to sit further back, his legs won't be spread out far enough to be able to have his penis between his legs, kwim? but i will try, the first thing when he is dressed!
 

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I could not say for sure how my 6yo does it but when I had to do it for them when they 2-3 I would push on the penis and not on either side. All I know is that when they sit they push it downward or get wet.<br><br>
Now if only I could convince my dh that he urinates on the toilet (even if just a bit).<br><br>
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My ds is 5 and still sits to pee half the time.<br>
When he was younger, I'd pull his pants and undies down all the way to his ankles. Then he was able to get his legs apart better. He's got pretty long legs though, so maybe that's why it worked for us. We also taught him to hold his penis down with one hand while holding on to the side of the toilet with the other.
 

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this might sound really ignorant of me, but do most older children pee standing up? do most men? dh always sits at home, and i sort of assumed that they would sit where the option was available. what makes them to transition to standing?
 

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I don't think there's any one right way to hold it down, have him do whatever works to get the stream going in the right direction. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I WISH my older son would still sit to pee. Soooo much cleaner! When he used to sit, we would remind him to make sure his penis was pointing down. I didn't mind his taking off his pants, even in public restrooms. I would just hold onto them for him. Eventually they get old enough/big enough that they don't have to do that any more.
 

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The fact that they *can*? I think it's something on the Y chromosome. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Once DS1 learned about standing up (which he picked up from using public restrooms with DH - at home DH sits at least half the time, maybe more) he wanted nothing but to stand up. I think boys find it fun, it's different and interesting and hey, look what I can do!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">The fact that they *can*? I think it's something on the Y chromosome. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: Once DS1 learned about standing up (which he picked up from using public restrooms with DH - at home DH sits at least half the time, maybe more) he wanted nothing but to stand up. I think boys find it fun, it's different and interesting and hey, look what I can do!</div>
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LOL makes sense! i guess i've never given this any thought<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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I don't see how it would be different standing than sitting, but when dh stands to pee he holds it between his fingers & points it down. He's never had an infection. I could see if he was grabbing onto it for dear life it possibly blocking some from getting out & maybe eventually leading to a UTI but as long as his hand is clean he won't get an infection from holding it.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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not that I'm in the bathroom with men alot, but I don't know of any man who sits to pee unless they're doing #2 too.
 
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