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I'd like some brainstorming on a problem I'm having.<br><br>
I have issues missing appointments.<br>
Contributing issues:<br>
1) no reliable babysitter who drives (and don't know many people in order to change that)<br>
2) no license (not presently rectifiable)<br>
3) 2 children 2 and under (Um. that's not changing, although the age range will <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">)<br>
4) no access to funds without DH (to either pay for a taxi, a babysitter or an appointment if that were required)<br>
5) rely on DH for rides to get to/from appointments which requires him to take time off work<br><br>
Possible solutions:<br>
Get a way to access funds without DH so that at least a taxi is available if needed<br>
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Remove car seats from DH's vehicle every day<br><br>
or<br>
Get a way to access funds without DH for taxi<br>
AND<br>
Find a reliable babysitter who can transport themselves to/from my home and is available during the day<br><br>
Can anyone see any other solutions?
 

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Do you live in an area with public transportation? If so, can your DH take the bus and you get the car on days you have appts? Can you drop him off at work on the days you need/want the car?<br><br>
And, uh, yeah, with 2 small kids that you care for all day, I would say, beyond the need for cab fare, you need access to the funds. no matter what. I can think of a million things you would need it for...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Do you live in an area with public transportation? If so, can your DH take the bus and you get the car on days you have appts? Can you drop him off at work on the days you need/want the car?</div>
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no, we don't and i don't drive.
 

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Is bicycling an option? I mean, for sitter to your place to stay with your DCs and then for you to appointment?
 

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Why do you need to rely on your husband for access to money? Do you have a bank card for the checking account?<br><br>
I'd probably keep about $100 or so in $5s and $10s in the house for a transportation fund. I'd also either get a second set of car seats or make a habit of keeping the ones you have in the house instead of in your husband's car.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Is bicycling an option? I mean, for sitter to your place to stay with your DCs and then for you to appointment?</div>
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That is an option, provided we buy me a bicycle. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br>
Which reminds me (thank you!):<br>
access to funds for babysitter<br>
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bicycle with child trailer (store's not very far)
 

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No, I don't have a bank card and I cannot open a bank account until we have finished my immigration (also why getting a license is not presently an option).
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">That is an option, provided we buy me a bicycle. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br>
Which reminds me (thank you!):<br>
access to funds for babysitter<br>
AND<br>
bicycle with child trailer (store's not very far)</div>
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Taxi costs are horrifying, around my small city anyway; bet the payback for the above would be very workable if you had access to the initial purchase price. (Trying not to take anything for granted here, don't know if your money concerns are administrative or if your family's really struggling as well.)<br><br>
Is it feasible for DH hang onto the checkbook and leave bank card with you? Or make sure whoever's without the card has a workable amount of cash?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Taxi costs are horrifying, around my small city anyway; bet the payback for the above would be very workable if you had access to the initial purchase price. (Trying not to take anything for granted here, don't know if your money concerns are administrative or if your family's really struggling as well.)<br><br>
Is it feasible for DH hang onto the checkbook and leave bank card with you? Or make sure whoever's without the card has a workable amount of cash?</div>
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Primarily administrative. Thank you for not assuming. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
That's an excellent suggestion and one I hadn't considered. We've tried the "workable amount of cash" bit already. It doesn't work bc instead of going to the machine or whatever, he takes the cash I have.
 

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I think the only real solution here is that he should leave you with enough money. Get him to give you however much cash you need, and then YOU keep it, hide it in your purse, whatever you gotta do. If he's out and about, he doesn't need your cash.
 

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You should have cash, but in addition, I think you should have a prepaid mastercard or visa card filled with maybe $100 (refillable), for emergencies and medical bills, etc.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think the only real solution here is that he should leave you with enough money. Get him to give you however much cash you need, and then YOU keep it, hide it in your purse, whatever you gotta do. If he's out and about, he doesn't need your cash.</div>
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Yup. Depending on the nature of the appointment, sometimes the children have just got to come with you. BUT you cannot do without cash. To pay for taxis, public transportation, emergencies, you need access to that money and he needs to place his own convenience a little lower on his to-do list.
 
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