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So, although I'm only 18 weeks I don't fit in my largest regular bras. So I went to a maternity store that carried bras that have underwires and cups with forms in them. Both things are absolutly nessesary for me as I haven't held up so well with weight gains, BFing, weight losses, quick growth in adolesence, etc. I tried on every bra they had in every style and size that could be even close to fitting. NOTHING worked as usual. There was only 1 bra that even looked decent and kept me up and in while standing up straight, totally still. But, once I did the, "bend partially down to pick up my 2.5 y/o dd" test I fell right out the top of the bra. When I stood up again they didn't fall back into place but rather stayed half perched on the edge of the cup leaving me with the oh-so-unflattering line cutting acroos the center making it look like a butt trying to squeeze out of low rise pants.<br><br>
Even when I'm not pregnant and at my current size or near it I can't find bras. I've been to every department store at one time or another with no luck. The only time I had comfortable bras that fit properly was when I trimmed down to a juniors size 3 in jeans and managed to lower my cup size to a C. Well, that was 30 lbs ago... and I'm no where close to a C and have plenty of squish that is hard to contain within a bra. I don't want some huge bra that end up shoving a high underwire into my armpit, straps the width of bacon strips, cups that force me into 80's Madona pointy boob, or has annoying ugly seaming running across the goods.<br><br>
What the heck am I going to do??? Where are there cute, comfortable bras with coverage for larger chests that don't leave me sagging? Furthermore what am I going to do in 5 months when my milk comes in? My nursing bras from my last pregnancy already don't fit and make me look horrid and saggy in a snug shirt anyway.<br><br>
I'm only 24 (in fact today is my brithday... oh joy) and I'm already residing on the sad fact that the only way I'm going to feel comfortable with my boobs and find bras that fit is surgery to 'fix' my saggy, sloppy, jiggling, mess of a chest.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I'm in the same boat, 26, and so not into the granny bras, which are all you can find at stores.<br>
This place is kind of pricy, but I've heard nothing but good reviews, and most of them look decent-<br><a href="http://www.birthandbabyorders.com/" target="_blank">http://www.birthandbabyorders.com/</a><br>
I'm hoping I don't get too much bigger...already went up 2 cup sizes, and I"m sick of buying new bras, or wearing ones that are too small!
 

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I was given a gift certificate to victoria secret and the ladies there fit me for a bra, and until I lose 50 lbs, it was the most comfortable thing I have ever warn. I would suggest going to an underwear place and be professionally measured. Just be sure that the girl doing it actually knows what she is doing and not just some girl with a tape measurer.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm in the same boat, 26, and so not into the granny bras, which are all you can find at stores.<br>
This place is kind of pricy, but I've heard nothing but good reviews, and most of them look decent-<br><a href="http://www.birthandbabyorders.com/" target="_blank">http://www.birthandbabyorders.com/</a><br>
I'm hoping I don't get too much bigger...already went up 2 cup sizes, and I"m sick of buying new bras, or wearing ones that are too small!</div>
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sorry you're stuck in the boat with me... our boat sucks.<br><br>
I wonder what their return policy is? I just can't buy a bra off the net without being able to try it first. Nothing fits like it says or looks like it does. I could try 100 bras that 'look' right before finding one that is actually half decent. I'm secretly jealous of those ladies with implants and boob jobs that can go braless and have the girls stay put if they so choose. If only it didn't take surgery, pain, and future problems to get that. Darn it all.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I was given a gift certificate to victoria secret and the ladies there fit me for a bra, and until I lose 50 lbs, it was the most comfortable thing I have ever warn. I would suggest going to an underwear place and be professionally measured. Just be sure that the girl doing it actually knows what she is doing and not just some girl with a tape measurer.</div>
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Hmmm, do you have to get totally topless for that? I don't exactly want a cute, little, perky boobed girl, seeing the horrid state of affairs hiding under my shirt. Or anyone aside from my husband really. I've been bra shopping there a few times before with no luck. Spent over 2 hours searching there once in fact. I'd even be willing to give up having a visually good looking bra if it would just get the job done. Can't even find that. I'm going to try Victorias Secret again this weekend but, I'm not expected much.
 

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You can return ANYTHING there, even custom bras. There's certain rules, like don't wear it longer than 15 min or get them dirty, etc., but the shipping is only $1. That's the biggest reason I love them!<br><br>
I did VS, I even let them measure me once, and laughed in the girl's face when she told me I was a 36B (this was when I was a 34D) She did do it over my shirt though. I tried on a 36B just for fun-and um, yeah, I think maybe 1/4 of my boob was contained? There was boob and nipple spilling all over the place. Lol, I have my husband measure me, and he is very precise and takes his time...I wonder why =P
 

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Have you tried on a Bravado? I'm not particularly "small" but not in the difficult-to-size range, so I may not be the person you want advice from ... but Bravado has been the ONLY bra that gives me that comfortable feeling. I tried one on in a maternity shop, for sizing. Look online - ebay for used, even. There is another brand that a friend used, and I'll try to find the name of it. Not quite granny-style, but at least they fit!<br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Hmmm, do you have to get totally topless for that? I don't exactly want a cute, little, perky boobed girl, seeing the horrid state of affairs hiding under my shirt. O</div>
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No, It helps if you wear an undershirt or a tight fitting shirt. Also, (to avoid the perky boob girls) go to fredricks of hollywood or a local place. I've noticed that the fredrick's ladies are always very curvy and understand what it's like to have breasts and not just "nipples-only"
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">No, It helps if you wear an undershirt or a tight fitting shirt. Also, (to avoid the perky boob girls) go to fredricks of hollywood or a local place. I've noticed that the fredrick's ladies are always very curvy and understand what it's like to have breasts and not just "nipples-only"</div>
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no fredricks near my city. not even sure about local shops. I want to say it's either department store, VS, or some old lady who makes custom clothing.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Have you tried on a Bravado? I'm not particularly "small" but not in the difficult-to-size range, so I may not be the person you want advice from ... but Bravado has been the ONLY bra that gives me that comfortable feeling. I tried one on in a maternity shop, for sizing. Look online - ebay for used, even. There is another brand that a friend used, and I'll try to find the name of it. Not quite granny-style, but at least they fit!<br>
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Well if the sell those at department stores then chance are, I've tried them. I'll keep an eye out the next time I'm on a search.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You can return ANYTHING there, even custom bras. There's certain rules, like don't wear it longer than 15 min or get them dirty, etc., but the shipping is only $1. That's the biggest reason I love them!<br><br>
I did VS, I even let them measure me once, and laughed in the girl's face when she told me I was a 36B (this was when I was a 34D) She did do it over my shirt though. I tried on a 36B just for fun-and um, yeah, I think maybe 1/4 of my boob was contained? There was boob and nipple spilling all over the place. Lol, I have my husband measure me, and he is very precise and takes his time...I wonder why =P</div>
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If I don't find anything this weekend I'll probably check those out. I just tried 6 different online sizing charts with instructions. I followed them perfectly and they had me ranged everything from a AA (haha, not since I was 8) to an E. I'm so confused.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well if the sell those at department stores then chance are, I've tried them. I'll keep an eye out the next time I'm on a search.</div>
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No, not department stores. They are definitely more specialty. Check out bravadodesigns.com They probably have a return policy that would work for you, too.<br><br>
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I haven't read the other responses but real quick - I too have the boobs that like to slink out of my bras. Demi bras are never going to work again<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> My bra fitter kindly referred to my boobs as "elongated." Thanks<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Anyway, I finally had to face facts. #1 I have to have good bras now and that means spending a bit more #2 I have to have someone fit me - that means going to a specialty store or a spendy store. Nordstroms is the best imo and they have an exceptional return policy. I have worn bras for weeks, taken them back b/c they weren't comfortable and gotten something different. All fitters are not created equal. You will feel it and see it when they put you in a good bra. #3 There are some kinds of bras I will never be able to wear again. My boobs will slide out. However, there are still some nice, pretty bras that I can learn to deal with esp. when they improve the shape of my boobs<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> #4 Those chain maternity/nursing stores are probably some of the worst places to buy bras. Seriously. When you put on a good bra you will realize most bras are not even designed to support. They are designed to look good on mannequins or the hanger. It's ridiculous and deceiving but true.<br><br>
Go get fitted in person. At Nordstroms if you can. I'd rather have 1 bra from there than 3 from any other store. You do have to be totally topless but these ladies have seen it all. My elongated, huge nipples did not phase them.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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I hate to say it, but I agree with the PP. You have to face facts and spend more on bras. If I were stuck with only 1 item of clothing to have on a desert island I would take my bra, because without the right bra I look massively old and overweight. I'm a size 10, so not a truly "plus size" gal, but curvy for sure, and I wear either a 34F or 32G. When nursing for the first year it was even G or H. . .but they've shrunk a little now that I nurse my toddler a bit less and he eats more solids. So I have a looooot of bra buying experience.<br><br>
It sounds like what you're going through is large/floppy breasts and a smaller frame. So when you try on bigger bras the straps are too long and the band is too big around, riding up and everything is sagging too far south on your chest. Then when you try a smaller bra, the cups are too small, leaving you with the dreaded quadraboob syndrome.THE ONLINE BRA SIZERS DO NOT WORK for those of us in this situation. A more realistic measurement is to realize that if you are a 34 around, and your bust measurement is, say, 42, then that is a difference of 8 inches making you a G cup. . .but their computers don't spit that out because they are only programmed for "standard" US sizing (not Europeans who know what they are doing when it comes to properly tailoring clothes) so they end up matching your cup size only and saying something like "42 DD" which would look like CRAP on you!<br><br>
Nordstrom does sell more extended cup sizes, but be aware they do not sell maternity or nursing bras in their stores. Try it for a fitting, find your size, then buy online. Definitely get an in-person fitting, measurements alone don't work, you have to actually TRY ON bras until you figure out what is going to work on you.<br><br>
Once you figure out your real size, try these places:<br><a href="http://www.biggerbras.com" target="_blank">www.biggerbras.com</a><br><a href="http://www.figleaves.com" target="_blank">www.figleaves.com</a><br><a href="http://www.barenecessities.com" target="_blank">www.barenecessities.com</a><br><br>
try ebay for "new with tags" or lightly used nursing bras<br><br><a href="http://www.bravissimo.com" target="_blank">www.bravissimo.com</a> (a UK company so you will pay more because of the exchange and the shipping) They also sell clothes, and cup-sized bathing suits up to H/I cups which is, like, the most amazing thing that every happened to me!<br><br>
look around your area and see if there is a local lingerie boutique that helps. I asked around at my LLL meeting and found 3 stores in my mid-size city---2 nursing specialty stores and one bra store that specializes in bras for women post-surgery due to enhancement or cancer surgery. . .and she will order any brand nursing bras for me in my size.<br><br><a href="http://www.anita.com" target="_blank">www.anita.com</a> These are my favorite nursing bras for quality and fit, and they even look and feel more like "real" bras, but you cannot order directly, you have to find a retailer or get them from an online outlet.<br><br>
good luck--you are going to love how you look in a good bra!!!!!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I did VS, I even let them measure me once, and laughed in the girl's face when she told me I was a 36B (this was when I was a 34D) She did do it over my shirt though. I tried on a 36B just for fun-and um, yeah, I think maybe 1/4 of my boob was contained? There was boob and nipple spilling all over the place. Lol, I have my husband measure me, and he is very precise and takes his time...I wonder why =P</div>
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Yeah, VS has questionable measuring techniques. So does the Hanes/Bali/L'eggs outlet. Both VS and Hanes/Bali etc. have totally shocked me by telling me I was a size I haven't been since 6th grade.<br><br>
I'd try Nordstrom for measuring. Or a local specialty bra shop.<br><br>
You don't have to be naked to be measured--in fact, you should be wearing some kind of a bra, and a thin tee shirt shouldn't make much difference. You can measure yourself, too, in a bra that fits you relatively well.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I don't want some huge bra that end up shoving a high underwire into my armpit, straps the width of bacon strips, cups that force me into 80's Madona pointy boob, or has annoying ugly seaming running across the goods.</div>
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This is my all-time favorite bra--it isn't molded cups (I hate them) but no seams, no points, perfect rounded shape, flesh colored so you can wear it under anything sheer, not huge wide granny straps, low cut enough to wear under just about anything v-neck or low-cut for summer, and has held up over 2 years of machine washing. . .it's AWESOME!<br><br><a href="http://www.figleaves.com/us/product.asp?product_id=FE-4520&mci=&size=34g&colour=&image=r1383-p76192-front" target="_blank">http://www.figleaves.com/us/product....3-p76192-front</a><br><br>
oh, here, they make the same kind of thing with molded cups, since you said that's your cup of tea<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><a href="http://www.figleaves.com/us/product.asp?product_id=FE-4510&mci=&size=34g&colour=&image=r1383-p328565-front" target="_blank">http://www.figleaves.com/us/product....-p328565-front</a><br><br>
Here's my favorite nursing bra (and remember you probably will need a different size when baby gets here, so don't buy it yet) OK, it kinda has granny straps, but the fit is sooooo good, I swear when I wear it it does not look/feel like a nursing bra under clothes at all--it's just like wearing the best t-shirt bra. Also, you might hold off on underwire nursing bras until your milk stabilizes and you're sure you're a woman who is not prone to clogged ducts/mastitis. Anita makes good soft-cup nursing bras too.<br><br><a href="http://www.figleaves.com/us/product.asp?product_id=ANT-5035&mci=&size=34g&colour=&image=pm_ant-5035" target="_blank">http://www.figleaves.com/us/product....ge=pm_ant-5035</a>
 

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I agree with Nordstrom's. That's where I have to go now. I've gained a lot of boob with this LO but my band size hasn't changed. So, I've gone from a 32C to a 32DDD (or 32E depending on the brand) which is next to impossible to find. But, Nordstrom carries it. My only complaint about Nordstrom is they tried to put me in some awful, soft-cup bra that made my boobs look pointy, my nipples showed right through, and I felt so unsupported and self-consicious. It was SO uncomfortable. I knew my true size before becoming pg so I politely told the woman I wanted to just look around myself and found several awesome bras in my new pg size. I hope you can find something that works! Bras are so hard when you're an odd or large size....combine that with being pg or BF'ing and it's 10x as hard. GL to you!
 

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I've lived in 2 different cities w/Nordstroms. Thankfully, they both sold nursing bras. They actually have a pretty good selection. Sometimes they're just in the back.
 

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<a href="http://breakoutbras.stores.yahoo.net/" target="_blank">http://breakoutbras.stores.yahoo.net/</a><br><br>
I love this site! I'm small but big breasted (I went up to a 32G when my milk came in, then went down to a slightly less obscene 32D). They carry all the brands listed by previous posters and their prices are what you would expect (yes, expensive, but often not that bad - around $30). Their customer service is slow but good (I've returned a bra for an exchange with no problem) and they give great tips for how to measure yourself.
 

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To the OP: try the lady that makes the custom clothing! I went to a small independent lingerie store after DD was born and they sized me without me even taking my sports bra off. And she was right! I was an E then too. It was awesome...like getting a lift without surgery!<br><br>
VS doesn't usually know what they're doing. At least, not in my experience.
 
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