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Where I live a boob is well - just a boob, like any other body part. Yea, it is used to sell bikinis, but it is also used to feed your baby. And so what? I have never had a rude comment about BF in any public place. Most people ignore it and some women smile as if to say "been there myself."<br><br>
If DD is hungry, I sit on a shelf at the grocery store, or a bench at the mall or at a restaurant or whatever, unzip my shirt, whip out my boob and settle in for her to eat. I do not mean I am flashing the world or squirting milk at the public, but I am also not hiding in a corner. I guess my ugly bra is showing and DD is showing and part of my breast is too.<br><br>
I joined an english-speaking mother baby group and six of us were at a restaurant, three of us breast feeding at the same time. One of the british moms covered her shirt and DD's head completely under a cloth diaper. My first impression was "is she ashamed to be breast feeding? Or does she think society is ashamed of her? Or is she just a very modest person?" I did not ask her at the time. Wish I had though, I am so curious.<br><br>
I wonder where you live and how you react, and why. Do you make a point of bf out wherever you are, or do you try to be somewhat discreet, or do you go to a bathroom or another room away from people? Do you cover yourself or your breast or DC? If so, why? I mean, is it because you feel more comfortable? Or is it because society expects you to and you don't want to make any waves? Or is it that you don't want to have to hide, but at the end of a hard day you just don't want to have to deal with idiotic comments?
 

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I dont cover Reece anymore, he just wont let me. I often go into a dressing room or my car because he is at such a distractable phase that he just wont nurse without keeping popping off to people watch and that does get milk everywhere <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> When he was younger he usually nursed in the sling because he was happy there and it was convenient. No one ever said anything to me either but most people didnt know I was nursing unless they had been there before.
 

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At the present time, I nurse my daughter in my car or fitting rooms when I am out as I am still very akward with nursing. Between my large chest, her unlatching, and my overactive letdown, I feel like a big, goofy mess when nursing. I would LOVE to feel comfortable enough to nurse anytime, anywhere and am trying my hardest to work to that point, but in the meantime, I am taking NIP little by little for my own comfort. I honestly do not care what others in public may think, I just want to feel "with it" and be relaxed to make NIP a better experience for myself and my daughter. Also, should I ever have to deal with rude comments or make some waves, I want to be as confident as possible when doing so and at this point in time, I really do not feel all that confident during nursing. Hopefully very soon I will though! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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where I live, it's not quite that accepting of nursing. It's not the worst place either. But I remember forcing myself to nurse in public the first time we went out. I remember thinking that if I waited until she was older or we had been out more, I would never do it.
 

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Just wait until you are out there nursing a 2.5 year old who looks more like a 4 year old <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Do what you need to do to nurture you babes and be proud!!!!!!!!!!
 

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I am simply uncomfortable with exposing my breasts. Be it breastfeeding or otherwise. I feel like people are noticing me, and that makes me extremely uncomfortable.
 

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In the last 6 months I have lived in both TX and WA I nursed <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/winner.jpg" style="border:0px solid;" title="BFSymbol"> in public in both places, but I didn't really think about it in TX and don't think about it in WA, I mean no one can see anything anyway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I have some in-laws who didn't breastfeed beyond infancy and I sometimes wonder when my ds gets older how they are going to react if I come to visit. I guess I will cross that bridge when I get to it.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I have never seen a mum here cover herself when feeding her child so what you saw was not a 'British' thing.<br><br>
Personally I don't consider that I am doing anything 'in public' when I am feeding my child outside the home so I just feed where I am as you describe.<br><br>
There was a great long thread on this on Lactivism a few months ago and it seemed that covering was more common in the US than anywhere ele fo a number of reasons.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">At the present time, I nurse my daughter in my car or fitting rooms when I am out as I am still very akward with nursing. Between my large chest, her unlatching, and my overactive letdown, I feel like a big, goofy mess when nursing.</div>
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BunchaCrunch have you looked at any ways to calm your letdown? <a href="http://www.kellymom.com/bf/supply/fast-letdown.html" target="_blank">http://www.kellymom.com/bf/supply/fast-letdown.html</a>I had this problem with three of my children with the choking, spluttering, unlatching, milk spraying and vomiting things but this time I read about block feeding and since doing it (from 6 weeks or so) things have been very much easier.
 

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I live in idaho, usa and b/f dd anytime and anywhere. I would never be able to leave the house if I didn't. At 3 months she still nurses at least every 2 hours, more like every hour though. I wear nursing shirts to make life easier for myself but I don't really care what people see. My girlie needs her boobs!
 

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I live in Texas and nurse whenever, where ever with the exception of during the sermon at church. Then I get up and go somewhere else. I feel like it is my mission in life to let people see it so that it will become more common. I don't want women to be afraid to nurse in public, therefore I do it out in the public and I dare someone to say something to me! ;-)
 

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I am on my 3rd child and nurse in public at anytime, but I don't like to have any breast showing if possible. I do try to cover with a blanket (in the winter), but I guess I must be modest. I would be thrilled if I ever saw anyone else nursing in public, but I never see that in my town. Most people don't even know I'm nursing the baby. The one thing that I can't seem to get the nerve to do is nurse my two year old in public. I usually make her wait until we get to the car or home. Sometimes I wish I could get the guts up to do it, just to make a statement!
 

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Oh, hell, I think at this point there's no one in Western WA who hasn't been subjected to my saggy ta-tas. Oh well. It was either that or my kid screams in the grocery store, and I think nursing in the wine aisle at Trader Joe's is by far the lesser of two evils (though a bench would have been nice).
 

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I would imagine that covering up could also be to minimize distractions. i find myself wishing these days that they made baby sized versions of those sleeping masks to keep ds focused while he's nursing.<br><br>
though i'm also not a particularly modest nurser, i do sometimes find myself not quite in the mood to be showing so much skin.<br><br>
i also could never cover ds with a blanket--he would fight it, yes, but more than that, after the initial difficulty and pain of breastfeeding, i am still so nervous of my nipples being hurt if i can't keep at least one eye on his every move while he's eating, especially now that he has teeth--i guess a bit of a psychological hangover from the nipple trauma.<br><br>
we all have our quirks and habits that we have developed to make the nursing relationship work.
 

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Moving to breastfeeding <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Oh, hell, I think at this point there's no one in Western WA who hasn't been subjected to my saggy ta-tas. Oh well. It was either that or my kid screams in the grocery store, and I think nursing in the wine aisle at Trader Joe's is by far the lesser of two evils (though a bench would have been nice).</div>
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Western MA has also been subjected to my saggy ta-tas too! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Especially the folks at Look Park...they've seen my ta-tas plenty!
 

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I live in NC and BF Miles wherever I am no matter what. I couldn't care less if someone else doesn't like it. I don't cover him nor do I wear nursing clothes. I have gotten some kind looks along with a few stares but never any rude words. I hope that my confidence gives another passing mama the courage to NIP.
 

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I NIP all the time, and the only rude comments I have had are from my family that I'm with <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> . I do get some stares, and some smiles. I don't cover at all. DS hates to be covered. I use a sling if he going down for a nap, but if he is just hungry I don't.
 

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This. And I also have issues with thinking my breasts are "ugly" and not wanting people to see them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 
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