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I often fantasize about breastfeeding my future children.One fantasy is when they start crying for whatever reason,I'll scoop them up & comfort them.Then I'll sit down and offer my breast to them.But then I was thinking, but won't that teach them that only mommy can comfort me or that when I 'm upset I should eat? I love the thought of comforting my babies naturally!So if anyone could help me answer these questions that will be great.Thank you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/toddler.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="toddler">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bouncy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bouncy">
 

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When a mom comforts a crying baby it doesn't say- only mom can comfort me- it says, when things are weird and not good mom is there for me and it's all okay. Nursing is much more than food. It IS a magical comfort- cure-all. It's designed to be. My dd definitely doesn't eat for comfort (doesn't think much of solids yet at all....) and she rarely even needs mom to comfort her anymore (sniff...) but when she really does bonk her head or is really over tired or just having a bad day, nursing is a wonderful magic thing.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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ITA with the pp's, and in addition, I've come to see that nursing into toddlerhood is nature's way of providing a much needed foolproof "destressing" method for that phase of life when a child's desires and impulses are far ahead of his emotional ability to manage the stress and frustrations of life. I've parented one toddler w/o nursing, and one with nursing - wouldn't give up this amazing parenting tool for the world! I think it teaches them to turn to humans for comfort, rather than objects, and that's a good thing. Yes, for quite a while the main person they turn to will be mom - it should be. Later they will develop the ability to reach out to others for support.
 

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nursing meets needs so perfectly for babes, for toddlers, for little ones.........but you know as time moves on I think that they also evolve their own ways of dealing with distress and upsets - which branch out from nursing - cuddles, kisses, closeness, self-comfort<br>
I don't think there is any connection at all between nursing for comfort and eating for comfort later on - in fact, maybe the reverse - maybe those who have not had their upsets eased by nursing still feel the need to put something in their mouths and tummies which they did not get enough of when they were little ..............?
 
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