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My daughter is 14 months and breastfeeds like she is a newborn. Sometimes she wants it every 15 minutes. I am so sick of it. I'm sick of the constant touching, of having to unlatch her fifty times because she wants to rest her teeth on my nipple, of her pinching my back and boob while she's eating. I'm sick of her following me around whining and crying if I don't give in to her every 15 minutes. I can't sleep in our bed because she's hanging onto my breast and crying all night if I do.<br><br>
I have plenty of milk, there are no issues that I'm aware of, she just loves nursing.<br><br>
Think I'm a terrible mother if you must, I just had to get that out there. I'm at my wit's end. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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You are not a terrible mother, I think that what you're feeling is a normal reaction to her behavior. It's okay to set limits, even if she doesn't like those limits. Believe me, you want to do it NOW and not a year from now; I'm going through the same stuff you are, wishing I had nipped it in the bud when mine was younger.<br><br>
I have no advice for you, just wanted you to know that you're not the only one. Sometimes it helps just to know that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> It sounds like you need to establish some sort of nursing rules, including no teeth, no pinching, etc. If she doesn't oblige after a couple warnings, then she's done. She's probably also old enough to institute a nursing schedule. She could nurse before all snacks and meals or before naps and meals, but let her know that those are the only times she can nurse. Maybe if she knows that she will always be able to nurse at those set times, she'll stop asking constantly. DD put herself on a schedule when she started daycare, and she's always done really well with it, so much so that she gets grumpy if we don't stick to it on the weekends.
 

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I'm in the same boat as you. It really sucks. I'm sorry you're going through it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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When this happens with my 18 m.o., it usually means she is tired, hungry, thirsty, teething or feeling sick. Sometimes it seems that a food snack fills her up better than nursing...can you try offering food/drink at those intense times to see if that's the issue? Just a thought.<br><br>
BTDT with nursing and nursing and nursing.........and it DOES get better!!!
 

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DD has been doing this too, but she is getting over being sick. I think she is about to do a big growth spurt though, because she is eating a lot of other things too.<br><br>
I have found that being hungry, bored tired well just about anything will make her want to nurse.<br><br>
I've tried a couple of different strategies. One was just to let her have it whenever wherever she wanted for a while, with the rules of no teeth etc. I also give her something (preferably soft) to hold while she nurses, like a teddy or a blanket. It seemed like once she realized that I wouldn't turn her down, she calmed right down on constantly asking.<br><br>
How is your little one while out. Does she still want to nurse all the time? If not, maybe a few outings (if you are a SAHM) will give you a bit of a break? A playgroup, the park, some shopping for you?<br><br>
Good luck to you, you are doing great!
 

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I'm sorry you are feeling at your wits end. (hugs)<br><br>
I think a couple things you could try would be to get a nursing necklace that should could play with, rather than playing with your boob. Or maybe a toy for her to play with would help distract her while she nurses.<br><br>
Is she latching on correctly? Could she have thrush in her mouth? When my babe had thrush, she would constantly latch and unlatch and want to nurse all day long but couldn't be satisfied because of the pain.<br><br>
I know a few people suggested settling limits and rules, but I'm concerned that at only 14 months, she probably won't understand them. There HAS to be a reason that she's nursing like that, at this point you just have to figure out what that is. Have you checked out <a href="http://www.kellymom.com?" target="_blank">www.kellymom.com?</a> You can find all sorts of info on her site and I'm sure she has issues similar to yours explained there.<br><br>
Anyway, I hope things improve for you both. Don't give up, breastfeeding can be difficult, but you are giving your child the best and she will appreciate it one day, and you will too. Good luck to you.
 

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When I'm at my wits end like that I find it helps to get out of the house. DS nurses alot less when we are doing stuff. He'll forget about it for ages if we're at the park or mall.
 

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We went through a couple of stages when I felt like that. Try to pin point specific behavior that bugs you (my dd pinched for awhile and has a constant obsession with my neck)<br><br>
If I could tone down the stuff that really bugged me I found the rest didn't bother me as much.<br><br>
-Angela
 

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We got out of the house for the day and it did make things better. She only wanted to nurse twice when we were out so I got a much needed break from it.<br><br>
Thanks for the Kellymom link. I've been there before but I checked it out again and it was reassuring to read that lots of moms of 12-15 month old babies describe there baby as nursing "like a newborn".<br><br>
Anyway, thanks for the suggestions. It's nice to think that this is just a stage. Poor sweet pea, I do think she might be teething.
 

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You're not a terrible mother at all. I remember 12-14 months being such a rough time with my daughter because she was such an avid nurser then. Between growth spurts, developmental spurts, and getting her molars, she wanted to nurse around the clock. I wish I could say I met that challenge with any kind of grace, but I pretty much just gritted my teeth and waited it out. By 16 months, she was only nursing 2-3 times a day and night weaned herself. (Then I had her brother and she came full circle again! We're just starting to downshift again now. And yes, I've been gritting my teeth.) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Hang in there! It does get better! And this is an ok time, imo, to start setting some gentle limits and expressing a need for having your body to yourself at times. I think it's a healthy thing for a toddler to start to learn that mamas need to take care of themselves, too, and that everyone's needs can get met. It doesn't need to be a 100/0 split in who gets their needs met.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s I'm feeling for you and in it myself right now. My guy is 20 months and nonstop lately.<br><br>
One other thing I hadn't heard mentioned, was right around my period - the few days before anymore- it is almost unbearable. I get frustrated and it becomes uncomfortable.<br><br>
I've found our nursing relationship to cycle and remembering the stages and phases means there is an end in sight, be it teething or a cold or growth spurt or whathave you.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> again getting through it.<br><br>
I agree with the extra snacks, outings, playing new toys, reading books not in nursing chair/couch/bed, drawing, playdoh. Pulling out new/new to jack toy's is really helpful as for us sometimes it is boredom nursing. Just picking him up and walking outside can be a huge distraction and it usually does wonders for my agitation level.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Be gentle with yourself, mama. Terrible you aren't. Just normal. The only thing I can think of at that age is trying to get out of the house with your dd, especially around other kids cause it may be a distraction enough for you to get a small break from nursing.<br><br>
And, I, personally, would stop nursing for a minute or two when she starts doing the latch/unlatch game. My ds used to do that all the time at that age, and when it got too nervewracking, I would take him off of the breast for just a minute or two until he would actually nurse. Usually, he would latch back on after a minute and actually nurse instead of pulling on and off.
 
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