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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">As 5-month-old Marcello nestled at her breast under a blanket, and the rest of Simone Bertucci's family enjoyed dinner at Houston's restaurant this week, a restaurant manager interrupted the meal with a startling order: Bertucci must leave while she was nursing.<br><br>
The demand was not only contrary to Florida law, but humiliating for Bertucci and especially disruptive, as the family was celebrating her oldest son's 13th birthday.</td>
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I didn't see this posted here yet. Good for the restaurant for admitting they were wrong, but the LLL comments about "discreet" nursing are a little disturbing.
 

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I think the important lesson to learn from this is that covering with a blanket makes breastfeeding too obvious for people who can't get the waitstaff to help them move their chairs to another side of the table.
 

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Good grief, even though she was using a blanket they still harrassed her... another reason not to use a blanket or nursing cape. It's not the breast that bothers people, they couldn't even see anything for crying out loud. It's just that they knew a mouth was contacting a nipple and the twisted thoughts in their mind made them so uncomfortable they had to blame someone else. There's no level of discretion that will please such individuals.
 

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Anyone notice this <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: :<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">Last week, a mother in Texas got into a dispute over breastfeeding her son in the lounge of the Ronald McDonald House in Houston.</td>
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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">The bias, Lofton thinks, doesn't necessarily come from the exposure of the breast as much as it is that the child is being fed at the breast.<br><br>
"We try to be very understanding and sensitive to this," Lofton said. "We talk to [new mothers] about discreet nursing."</td>
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And these two statements contradict each other. If the "problem" is the mere knowledge that there is mouth to breast contact then being "discreet" doesn't matter.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Good grief, even though she was using a blanket they still harrassed her... another reason not to use a blanket or nursing cape. It's not the breast that bothers people, they couldn't even see anything for crying out loud. It's just that they knew a mouth was contacting a nipple and the twisted thoughts in their mind made them so uncomfortable they had to blame someone else. There's no level of discretion that will please such individuals.</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Good grief, even though she was using a blanket they still harrassed her... another reason not to use a blanket or nursing cape. It's not the breast that bothers people, they couldn't even see anything for crying out loud. It's just that they knew a mouth was contacting a nipple and the twisted thoughts in their mind made them so uncomfortable they had to blame someone else. There's no level of discretion that will please such individuals.</div>
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Yep, there are definitely some people who will choose to be offended by breastfeeding until the day they die of apolexy.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: How horrible! It's a sad day when people have forgotten that we are mammals and what all that entails. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: How horrible! It's a sad day when people have forgotten that we are mammals and what all that entails. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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Heh, herein lies most of the problem. People have, for the longest time, been consumed by the fraility of the human ego which, through societical stigmas, has told us that we, as human beings, are "above the animals" and are no longer even classified as animals whatsoever, that we are somehow "better". Thusly, this problem has convinced us as a society that anything animal-related MUST be bad and unworthy of us...this includes breastfeeding, since it's "what animals do". People in our society have lost touch with humanity itself and are so fixated on superficial right-and-wrong mumbo jumbo...it's sickening to know that we must walk amongst them every day.
 

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And she is "the mother of three but breastfeeding for the first time."<br><br>
So she has finally given breastfeeding a chance and this is what happens. No wonder so many women stop after a few weeks when they feel as if they can't feed their own child in public <b>under a blanket</b> without being asked to leave. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Good grief, even though she was using a blanket they still harrassed her... another reason not to use a blanket or nursing cape. It's not the breast that bothers people, they couldn't even see anything for crying out loud. It's just that they knew a mouth was contacting a nipple and the twisted thoughts in their mind made them so uncomfortable they had to blame someone else. There's no level of discretion that will please such individuals.</div>
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Yeah, some ppl just can't stand the *thought* of bf'ing, let alone the actual act. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">And she is "the mother of three but breastfeeding for the first time."<br><br>
So she has finally given breastfeeding a chance and this is what happens. No wonder so many women stop after a few weeks when they feel as if they can't feed their own child in public <b>under a blanket</b> without being asked to leave. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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That's what I was thinking, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">, but the LLL comments about "discreet" nursing are a little disturbing.</div>
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They talk about and encourage "discreet" nursing all over the FAQ portion of the LLL website...so sad <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">They talk about and encourage "discreet" nursing all over the FAQ portion of the LLL website...so sad <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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You could drop a note to their spokesman:<br><br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?t=659478" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=659478</a>
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Good grief, even though she was using a blanket they still harrassed her... another reason not to use a blanket or nursing cape. It's not the breast that bothers people, they couldn't even see anything for crying out loud. It's just that they knew a mouth was contacting a nipple and the twisted thoughts in their mind made them so uncomfortable they had to blame someone else. There's no level of discretion that will please such individuals.</div>
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That's what I think is the worst part about it. She was using a freaking blanket. They may've still noticed if she were nursing without a blanket, but I think it would've been a little less likely.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Heh, herein lies most of the problem. People have, for the longest time, been consumed by the fraility of the human ego which, through societical stigmas, has told us that we, as human beings, are "above the animals" and are no longer even classified as animals whatsoever, that we are somehow "better". Thusly, this problem has convinced us as a society that anything animal-related MUST be bad and unworthy of us...this includes breastfeeding, since it's "what animals do". People in our society have lost touch with humanity itself and are so fixated on superficial right-and-wrong mumbo jumbo...it's sickening to know that we must walk amongst them every day.</div>
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Some very interesting points , it's like breastfeeding is unnecessary and offensive and harks back to some outmoded, 'animalistic', even shameful act. People seem to lack insight and just react in defensiveness and disgust. So so wrong.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Some very interesting points , it's like breastfeeding is unnecessary and offensive and harks back to some outmoded, 'animalistic', even shameful act. People seem to lack insight and just react in defensiveness and disgust. So so wrong.</div>
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I think a lot of it is moving man into the "scientific age". The "need" for breastfeeding has gone the way of the "need" for a midwife - lost behind white coats, disinfectant and measuring spoons.<br><br>
I know raised in a strong Christian home my mother and father taught us that it was God's design and means of provision. In fact in studying the names of God we learned that "El Shaddai" which is often translated as 'God Almighty' or 'God the Provider' stems from the root word shadyim which means "breast". God the Breast. Wouldn't THAT knowledge send some into shock! *laughing*<br><br>
I think for some it simply ignorance and fear. And selfishness. Becuase in my opinion you have to be pretty darned selfish to put your own presonal desires ahead of a baby who is simply and innocently trying to eat his dinner.<br><br>
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