Originally Posted by JeDeeLenae
Wouldn't it make a difference if someone told you BF may be super easy and you might have no problems from the start, rather than bombarding you with all the negatives only?
Yes, it would have made a difference--I may have been pushed off the edge into formula feeding. Although no one TOLD me that BF might be super easy, I just assumed it would be easy and natural. When it wasn't, I was heartbroken, scared, and overwhelmed. My nipples hurt, my baby was screaming and fussing, popping on and popping off and nursing around the clock, and then the icing on the cake: my milk coming in. Suddenly I am faced with breasts so large, so leaky, and so tender and I had no idea that this wasn't what it would be like for the entire duration of our nursing relationship. So at 11 pm, crying, I sent dh out for a can of formula.
I never opened the can and the next day my midwife and her friend, both LLL leaders, showed up to help. They were my salvation because they assured me that engorgement was normal, that sore nipples were normal, that my difficulties were completely normal and that it would all go away as my body got accustomed to breastfeeding.
I think if people had told me beforehand that nursing might be easy-breezy, coupled with my own assumptions that it would come naturally, it would have been enough to push me over the edge when it wasn't. If LLL hadn't stepped in to tell me that breastfeeding WASN'T necessarily easy and that pain and difficulty in the beginning was NORMAL, I might have been too scared and frustrated to wait it out.
The fact that every single person I know has quit breastfeeding because "it hurt" or "the baby couldn't latch" or "I didn't have enough milk" makes me think that more women than not have troubles in the beginning and could be served better by being prepared for it to be difficult. If it isn't, then they can feel like champions but if it is, at least they won't end up feeling scared and inadequate.