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I know I've read a lot of posts about leaning over if you're in the back seat with your baby, leaving the baby in the carseat and letting the baby nurse. I have to admit that I don't think I could physically accomplish this and have never tried. If my baby is crying to nurse while I'm in the car, we stop and take a break to nurse.<br><br>
It never crossed my mind that someone might take it even further:<br><br><a href="http://www.whiotv.com/news/18813161/detail.html" target="_blank">http://www.whiotv.com/news/18813161/detail.html</a><br><br>
This makes absolutely no sense to me since the safety risk is so great. I see it as a lactivism-related issue because I do feel that people who do really outrageous things while nursing and then insist that it is a lactivist issue make things worse for nursing moms. This mom is talking about how she's going to feed her baby when and where her baby's hungry. That feels to me like using pretty common lactivist rhetoric in a way it was never intended to be used. I think this has the potential to affect all nursing mothers because she's been given a bit of a forum on the news (and I know this is a local web page but the link comes up in the top stories on the front page of cnn.com) and there are a lot of people who will put the Denny's mom or the Ronald McDonald House mom and this mom in the same basket.
 

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I just saw this on another forum and I was thinking the same as you. I really wish this woman wouldn't turn this into a breastfeeding rights issue, because its not. This is about how she's putting her child at serious risk - even a very minor collision could kill an unrestrained infant - in the front seat between the adult and the airbag, no less! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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wow, ok...<br><br>
1st off, props mama for nursing a 2yo!!!<br><br>
but..."same difference"? really? a full grown adult and a tiny toddler do not have the same bone strength with regard to a car accident/air bag deployment. thats common sense. i mean, the car comes with all sorts of stickers warning against rear facing seats and ppl weighing less than 100#!!!<br><br>
i'm surprised to see that this mama is a bit older. 14 yrs ago i was 17 with a <i>very</i> HN newborn and yes, i drove while nursing/slinging on more than one occasion. i recall one evening in particular where i pulled over literally every few miles, got ds to sleep, put him in the carseat and within minutes he was up and screaming. i was a very inexperienced driver and was near on having a panic attack. never mind being a new mother...however, 14yrs and one more nursling later, i am horrified that i did that.<br><br>
i dont think this mama should go to jail for 180 days, but i were i a judge i woul ddef force her to watch crash scene videos and talk to parents who lost kids that rode unbuckled.<br><br>
best wishes to her and her family. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><br>
ETA: about using bf'ing as an excuse...the child certainly appeared old enough to be able to learn "nursing manners" ie, we dont nurse while the car is moving. here is (fill inthe blank bribe) for now and we will have nursies at home...
 

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Not only was she breastfeeding, she was talking on her cell phone! This isn't a breastfeeding rights issue, this is an issue that this mother is being reckless and endangering her child. Definitely needs education on this matter. As a pp mentioned, even a small accident could have killed that poor child.
 

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I'm going to move this to Family Safety
 

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OH my goodness! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry"><br><br>
I often wonder if that's what people think I'm doing when I get into the front seat of my car with my baby in a parking lot. A lot of times she doesn't nurse well while we're in a store; too much to look at! So I relax in the drivers seat and nurse and listen to the radio before I pop her in the seat and get on my way. I've gotten some sort of puzzled looks before, but anyone curious enough to watch me surely figured it out pretty fast. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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For goodness sakes, is it so hard to pull off the road?<br><br>
This breaks at least 2 laws in my state, the car seat laws and the law that children under 13 cannot ride in the front. Probably also coule be prosecuted as child endangerment and wreckless driving.<br><br>
NOT a breastfeeding rights issue. Breastfeeding rights only apply, IMO, when there is no added danger to the child.
 

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Sure she can feed her child whenever she wants - right after she pulls over!! That's just crazy.
 

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That's what got me too - not only was she endangering the life of her child by just having her so close to the air bag, but she was talking on the phone at the same time?!?! While driving. That's outrageous.<br><br>
And then she says in the video(paraphrasing): it would have been the same thing, if I had been in an accident without her in my lap, and the airbag had been deployed, it would have been the same thing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: WHAT? So she thinks that the airbag hitting her would be the same thing as the airbag hitting her small toddler, who was sitting that much closer to the airbag, and probably would have suffocated. Wow. Just wow. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/angry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="angry">
 

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Boy, what a terrible, terrible idea. Endangering a child like that is never okay, and I think she should be prosecuted.
 

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I used to sit and nurse in the fron seat of my car in parking lots before getting back on the road and I alway sworried someone would see me getting in and think I was about to drive like that.<br><br>
I have a super high needs kid when she was baby any drive lasting longer than about 10 minutes resulted in having to pull over. It was hard and stressful but not worth risking the safety of my babies life.<br><br>
I nursed for two and half years in a variety of strange places and situations but I always managed to avoid it being a life risking event.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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At the very least CPS should be involved. She is risking her baby's life. They should take her license too. To me her judgement is just as bad as a person that drinks anddrives.
 

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This is actually down the road for me & there are TONS of places she could have pulled over! She also said she would take it into consideration, but may do it again! Of course an infant pinned between an adult & airbag would be no different that an adult in front of an airbag (lots of sarcasm) Grrr!!!<br><br>
I agree that this is NOT a BFing Rights issue. It IS a SAFETY issue.
 

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I worry about getting arrested for sitting in the front seat of a running vehicle to nurse DS. (Running for A/C or to run movies for DD when travelling for her medical stuff) I can't imagine driving along nursing like that. I've done the over car seat thing for a bad case of ear popping mtns. but normally, I pull over or I choose to bring bottles of pumped milk if its a time constraint issue
 

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That's completely insane.<br><br>
My mil used to tell me how she'd breastfeed dh (who nursed till 18 mos) while driving. I was in shock! But that was in the 70's and laws weren't as strict now. (And ppl didn't think???)<br><br>
I'm appalled. I've never driven and breastfed. That's just not safe. Hello?!
 

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She said herself that she will do it again if she needs to. I have run across many people like this, and no amount of educating or ticketing will help them make a better choice. They have this "I am right and how dare you judge me" type of attitude.<br><br>
She compared walking down the street to driving. I think that speaks for itself.
 

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She drives with her kid in her lap?<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bigeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bigeyes"><br><br>
While she's talking on her cell??<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><br><br>
And she thinks she's making a statement about extending breastfeeding???<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="dropjaw"><br><br>
Wow. How on earth do you respond to such poor decision making? State-mandated parenting classes? Loss of driving privileges? Required viewing of car safety videos?<br><br>
Just wow.
 

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bad idea <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nono.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nono"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/nono02.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Nono02">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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Well, if you live in Michigan it is legal... Yes, we have a nursing exemption. So she should just move here and then she can drive and nurse whenever she likes. Because, you see, in Michigan the laws of physics don't apply if you are nursing. Your baby is clearly not going to become a projectile and fly through the window in a crash because he/she is attached to the breast and therefore safe. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll">
 

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I am bothered by the fact taht she was on the phone. I think nursing while driving isn't always the best choice, but I certainly don't want laws against it. I think it should be up to each person to decide if they need to do so. It's all about weighing the risks versus the benefits. Maybe she was going very slow and for only a short while. Maybe baby was screaming and crying so hard that would have been distracting. HEr other children have to go to school. What if she didn't have anyone else to drive them? Should her kids miss school?
 
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