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ok, I think I finally have the energy to post a breif version of our birth story. I went into labor early in the evening on Nov 30...contractions from 5 to 25 minute apart throughout the night, pretty intense (I had to breathe and work through them, even though they were not regular they were pretty strong). We're 2.5 hours from the hospital, so we called our midwife, doula and my parents first thing in the morning and got ready to go. Fortunately for me, cx slowed down in the morning - giving me plenty of time to run around leaving notes for my parents, changing the sheets on our bed, throwing the last things in our bags, wrapping a Big Sister gift for dd, etc, etc...<br><br>
Once we got in the car, cx amped up again, but they were still pretty irregular. We had plenty of time to make the drive, and checked in with my midwife once we arrived - I was about 4.5 cm dilated. We checked into a hotel, where we would stay until cx got more regular. It was nice - we were close to the birthing center, dd was well taken care of at home, I could be in and out of the shower and tub, I had my birthing ball and music with me, and we camped out for a while, still working through some very intense cx, but they were still irregular - 5 to 30 mins apart. By late evening, I was starting to feel anxious - cx were even more intense (very intense), but still irregular. I called my doula and she arrived to help me work with the pain and figure out my anxiety.<br><br>
By about 11 or midnight, we headed to the birthing center - I had a deep need to check on the baby and make sure he/she was alright, and that my uterus was still aokay (I had a previous c/section). Baby was fine, I was about 6 cm dilated, and I had a new confidence and energy. I was able to use the hot tub, and emerged from that after a long soak between 8 and 9 cm. My midwife broke my water, and a few contractions later I was 9.5 cm. But my cx were STILL very sporadic, with one HUGE and incredibly intense one followed by several little "wimpy" ones, then 20 minutes later another biggie. The big ones were something - I was screaming, yelling, moaning, writhing, etc. I was starting to know, deep inside me, that something was wrong. We needed to get cx much closer together and regular to deliver the baby. The baby was in a transverse presentation, just like my first was, and we also needed to turn it before it could deliver. The head did not budge during cx - with dd I pushed for four hours and her head did not budge. The dr arrived - we were blessed with an absolutely WONDERFUL dr, who worked well with both my mw and doula - and he said that we could do pitocin and and epidural to get the cx closer together and deal with the pain, or we could go with a c/sec. I wanted nothing to do with pitocin or an epi - I had a strong feeling that we needed to go c/sec. The doctor gave us plenty of time to talk it over, etc, and I insisted that I felt we should do a c/section. Strange, but it was clear to me on a very deep level that that was what we needed to do.<br><br>
So, once they cut me open (we had a very supportive crew, talked us through every step, dh and our doula were in the OR and very involved, they let me use a mirror to watch, my mw and dr worked so well together and were very relaxed and calm, the anesthesiologist was so kind...we were so lucky!)...so anyway, when they cut me open they discovered a few things:<br><br>
1. my uterine wall near my old scar had thinned out to the point where, if I had started pushing, it would almost certainly have ruptured.<br>
2. My bladder had adhered to the old scar (an unusual phenomenon), so if I had ruptured, it would likely have ruptured INTO the bladder - a true and immediate emergency.<br><br>
So, it turned out that we were very fortunate to have gone the c/section route, as pitocin and pushing probably would have led to a life threatening emergency. My m/w and doula both credit me for being very in tune with my body and baby, and being very intuitive, and going with the c/section even though it was not what we initially wanted or planned.<br>
My baby was big, with a very big head - so surprisingly big, in fact, that they made the incision too small and had to work very hard to get the baby out! The fact that my cx were so irregular all along was probably because he was tranverse and stuck. Unfortunaletly, I have a pelvic structure that is more "masculine" with elongated bones rather than nice open ones for babies to pass through...very slim hips, good for running (I run marathons, etc), and, as my m/w said, "good for wearing jeans"...but no good for babies. That was a bummer to me, as I had really hoped that dd was just in an awkward position and that, with a better baby position I would be able to have a normal, natural, drug-free birth. But I also knew that all my maternal relatives have had very difficult births or c/secs...I knew my genetics might have a role, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> But we are blessed with a healthy, big baby who is nursing like crazy and oh so gorgeous. Bryce made his debut at 3:17 am on Dec 2, after a day and a half of labor, with a 9 and 10 Apgar...and though I am let down to have had another c/sec, I feel blessed and lucky with how it all played out. My doula says that we miraculously avoided a traumatic emergency...I need to remember that!<br><br>
If you made it this far, thanks for reading!!
 

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Good for you! I think we have to be grateful at times that we do have modern medicine. For real, women used to die all the time in childbirth, and your attentiveness to your body spared you a true life threatening situation. Congratulations!
 

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Wow, what an incredible story! Congratulations and welcome, Bryce! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Congrats on your new little bean! And thank God for the option of c/s when necessary! Enjoy your babymoon. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Wow, what an amazing story! I think it is empowering that *you* made this decision, and were able to listen to your ody, and like someone else already said, thank goodness for modern medicine! Congratulations again mama!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Debi
 

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Wow -- what an amazing story. Its so wonderful that you know your body and your baby so well.<br><br>
Congratulations on the birth -- and welcome, Bryce!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biggrinbounce.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bgbounce">
 

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Congratulations <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/partytime.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="partytime"> Take care of yourself and enjoy your babymoon <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/baby.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="baby"><br><br>
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Great job heeding your intuition! Welcome Bryce... I like that name, by the way. I used to know a Bryce in high school. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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