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Do you ever get burned out with taking care of your child? Man, tonight I was really getting frustrated. My dd spent the sat. night over at my inlaws and she did well there, but then they had a bday party for my fil and bil and there were several people there today. So my dd had anxiety the whole time we were there and then had 2 major meltdowns (one a social issue and one a clothing issue) Then she was bugging her sister on the way home and when we told her to stop she had a huge tantrum, screaming and trying to get out of her booster seat. We got home and she had some barbies and cars out and I sat down and said that I'd love to play with her and she said no, these are all her barbies and not to touch them. I said calmly that it would be nice if she would share them and that I wanted to play with her. She then had another tantrum and threw all her toys that were in front of her all over the room and freaked out. Ugg. I'm so frustrated and nothing we do helps and some things like going to family we have to do, so we can't avoid it. She needs to get used to it anyway. My patience level is really low right now and I'm just so burned out with not understanding her or how to communicate with her. I thought today would never end.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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I count MINUTES from dinner until bedtime. MINUTES. I feel totally wiped out at least 50% of the time. Yep yep yep. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s
 

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I'm sitting here all disappointed that school was canceled due to lack of heat - I'm about to go over there myself and fix the problem! I was really looking forward to Maura going off to school this morning, just to get a break, catch my breath, and maybe actually get something done.<br><br>
She's in this mode that could be considered cute, but she wants lots of body contact. So like I was there trying to knit and she was flinging herself onto me as I tried to keep us both from getting stabbed with the knitting needles. I switched to crocheting and she wanted to climb up on my lap so ripped the yarn out of my hands. She's figured out how to serve herself water from the container in the fridge - so I now have a really clean fridge and the floor around it from cleaning up water. She's flooded both bathrooms this week. She set the hamster free. She unfolds the laundry as I fold it. And so on, and so forth.<br><br>
I was really looking forward to those 3 hours she'd be at school this morning...sigh...<br><br>
So yes, I totally know what it's like to get burned out. It's normal. You just need to find a way to recharge - and if you do...could you let me know? LOL!
 

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I can soooo relate. I was burned out for the first 6 years of dd's life and was thrilled when she went to k-garten. Then, after 3rd grade I did what I said I'd never do (never say never); homeschooled her! (Had to. The social scene was eating her alive.) The best thing that happened to me was when some friends bent over backward to get me into a play. They even let me bring her to rehearsal!!!! It was tough keeping her occupied during rehearsals, but it really gave me a new lease on life. I called it my Endorfin Therapy. So, see if you can find some time for something you love to do, especially if it's out of the house and involves other adults! Gotta' take care of Mama.
 

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I usually watch the clock from about 4pm to bedtime, and feel awfully guilty about it. I feel like I SHOULD be enjoying my child (and I do... for the first 8 hours) but she does not play independently for longer than 4-5 minutes at a time, and needs parenting all night long, too. Its really hard!
 

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By 5:00 pm or so I'm <i>done</i>. Heck, sometimes I feel done by 9 am! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Life around here is so challenging each day - I totally understand where you are coming from! It's exhausting, mentally and physically, for me.
 

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I've had those days, lol! When you look at the clock and think "It's ONLY 8:30 am???"
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:<br><span><b>My DD is really young (19 mos) and she is not verbal yet. I KNOW the incredible frustrations of not being able to communicate.<br><br>
Big hugs and hang in there.</b></span><br><span><b>Mary</b></span><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy">
 

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Yes yes and yes!<br>
Those days that start at 4am are the hardest. By 9am I'm ready to throw in the towel. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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So burned out! In my case, it's not so much that my kids need constant attention/running around, it is just that NOTHING I seem to do is making anything better. I just cry every day, wondering if I permanently ruined these precious lives, just because I was too scared to kick stbx to the curb years ago. Then I look at my sweet baby, and realize he wouoldn't be here if I had, and I just somehow make myself go on and hope things get better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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Wow, I guess I"m not alone! Ugg, things are even worse today. My dad came from out of town and he was here for 2 hours this morning and my dd was fighting, acting up or crying the entire 2 hours. He took the other kids to the store, we were all going to go, but with her acting that way, I knew it wouldn't go well. I'm so frustrated. I finally got her calmed down after they left. Today is going to be a long day. I'm ready to cry<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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I'm there with you! Lately I've been so short with my kids and I know it's because I'm feeling really burned out. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">So burned out! In my case, it's not so much that my kids need constant attention/running around, it is just that NOTHING I seem to do is making anything better. I just cry every day, wondering if I permanently ruined these precious lives, just because I was too scared to kick stbx to the curb years ago. Then I look at my sweet baby, and realize he wouoldn't be here if I had, and I just somehow make myself go on and hope things get better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:</div>
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My youngest won't sleep in his own bed (anxiety). He goes to sleep when I go to sleep. I hope this doesn't last forever. (He's exactly 4 1/2 years old this Saturday!)<br><br>
I put him to sleep on the love seat in my bedroom and he woke up and had a 45 minute freak-out because he realized he wasn't in bed with me! (Freak-out is walking around unconsolable crying, whining, biting me, and hitting himself.)<br><br>
Burned out? Yes I do get that way.<br><br>
Sincerely,<br>
Debra, homeschooling mom of 4 ages 11 (AS), 10, 8, and 4 1/2 (Apraxia, Dysarthria, HFA, OCD)
 
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