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GRRRRRRR... I was just at a wedding with 3.5 month old DS, and the entire time had to deal with people grabbing his hands (which are ALWAYS in his mouth), touching his cheeks, and the worst, trying to put their fingers in his mouth. WHY, oh WHY do people do this? I don't go around grabbing their hands and trying to put things in their mouths!<br><br>
When I finally told one insistent woman that I was uncomfortable with her letting DS pull her fingers to his mouth, and didn't really want his hands touched anymore, she got very pissy with me.... said I was being overprotective and that it was good for his immune system!!!<br><br>
This really bothers me...am I overreacting? DS is so alert and interactive with the world, and people are drawn to him like moths to a flame, but I swear, I'm gonna start swatting at folks! He doth protest the sling (to put it mildly), so that's out of the question...<br><br>
Maybe a shirt that says "STEP AWAY FROM THE BABY"?
 

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I have the same problem, and the last time I told this person: "Hey, would you mind if I taste your fingers before my dd does it? just to check if she will like your flavor" ... Case closed, no strange fingers in her mouth<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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You're not overreacting. That would annoy me. Have they just washed their hands before they put them in the baby's mouth? Yuck.<br><br>
I agree some exposure is good for the immune system but there are limits. Who knows what is on these people's fingers? And if a baby is teething, there are probably open cuts where the tooth is cutting through - perfect way to spread nasty germs. How do you know if they washed their hands after going to the bathroom?<br><br>
You could give them a Dr. speech - Dr. said people have to wash their hands before ..... Go ahead and give those ignorant folks a good lecture on how to spread germs. Who cares how they react. Maybe they'll think twice before trying that again.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Cuss.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="cuss"> Um, hello?! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> My ds is very alert too and that seems to draw them in droves!<br><br>
I don't like it when people do that either. Thankfully, it's usually just dh and I that let him chew on our fingers (I always have wet washclothes in the diaper bag since we use cloth) and we wipe them down if we need to.<br><br>
Judging from what I've seen in public restrooms <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grossedout.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="gross"> a vast majority of people do not wash their hands. How's this... ask them if they washed their hands after they went potty or when was the last time they washed their hands? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
LOL... it's your right to ask people not to do that, especially strangers!
 

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Ohhhh...nothing makes me cringe more than strangers touching my kid! I am admitedly an anti germ phobe and it ANNOYED the he*^ out of me when people tried touching my DS. Sooo.....I have had my mother crochet me a cute little sign with velcro that I can slip onto the handle of my baby carrier for DS # 2 (who's coming into the world this Thursday BTW) that reads boldly....."PLEASE LOOK, BUT DON'T TOUCH OUR BABY". I am like a hawk swooping around my kids and anyone tries to start leaning over to touch.....I will posthastely move the baby FAST. Heck I'll have no qualms at slapping their hand away if I can't grab the carrier fast enough. (I've done that once)<br><br>
As for the BS line..."oh it will build their immune system...." uh no....that is one of the biggest myths out there. And if the baby gets sick it will be because of my families germs and not some looney strangers. UGGHHHHH!<br><br>
I am usually a very nice person, but don't even try to touch my baby or else....grrrrrrr.....
 

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Ditto to everyones comments and you know what else?<br>
Even if you were overreacting (which I don't think you were), YOU are the parent and what you say goes. Why is it so hard for people to respect mothers wishes? Geeeeeez...
 

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Wow, I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one who has resorted to swatting. We were at the county fair with DS, and I swear, this one elderly woman kept moving in for the lip tickle, and I was literally dancing the baby out of her reach. She wouldn't take a hint, and I literally had to swat her hand away from DS's mouth. She looked at me like I was the devil incarnate. I'm not an agressive person at all, but I was ready to wrestle this sweet little old lady to the gorund if she reached in one more time....<br><br>
I am bear mama around my little cub!
 

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Thank you, one and all! Now I (think) I have the confidence to simply say "No" or "Please don't touch my baby" when strangers are too close for comfort. I, too, am the mama of an alert DD with bright eyes and an eagerness for experiences. But I believe they should NOT include strangers' hands on her or in her mouth. I did once finally resort to "Please don't touch my baby" with a 3 yo whose mother was intentionally ignorant of her dd's behavior while she focused on her 2mo newborn (my DD wasn't quite three months yet). The 3yo had once gently and somewhat absentmindedly been told by her mother to come sit by her side. The dd ignored this and the mother never persued it. She instead swarmed around my DD with hands extended. Came close to stepping on my DD's head and hands. Finally I said something. Her mother still ignored her. All this during an infant massage class. So much for relaxing or learning new techniques. I put DD in the sling and stayed to listen.
 

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I just found this post and had to respond. WHY DO PEOPLE DO THAT! I had to tell someone please don't touch my NEWBORN baby and she actually turned to me and said " I don't have any germs" I was like HOW DO YOU KNOW. I should have asked her "did you touch the door handle coming in the store" if YES then your touched the same handle that people touch after NOT washing there hands after taking a crap!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> LOL! Uhhh some people!
 

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Yeah, I don't get it either. I've never had a stranger put their finger in ds mouth at least. I let him chew on my finger all the time, you know and daddy's and grandma's...family is fine and even some really good friends. But strangers, that is awful...what are they thinkin?<br>
Gosh, a few days ago I was at the grocery store in line, and this older guy behind us was really annoying the heck out of me. I had Jakob in the sling and the guy came right up and grabbed his leg, "Oh look at those legs". I kind of backed away a little and I thought that would give him the picture. A few minutes later he was coming at us again going after his leg, and I just backed away and gave him a very dirty look, like "oh no, you better not". The guy also reaked so I washed ds leg off as soon as I got to the car.
 

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I don't know... these things don't really bother me. Here in Europe people touch babies all the time. I do think it is good for their immune system, in any case, ds is very healthy. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I can definitely understand not wanting strangers all over your newborn, but I don't really worry once the baby is a couple of months old. The fingers in the mouth is another story, that's just gross. Mostly, I find that strangers want to touch the baby's feet, so I keep those covered if I'm in a hurry to get through the store. Once he gets a little bigger, I'll just have to budget more time for outings, the way I did with my oldest. It doesn't really bother me, but I can understand where it would bother some people, and it is your right to tell people to get away from your baby.
 

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Dh would very casually but deliberatly push and bump people out of the way. Dh did most of the carring out in public and when people got close he'd bump them, dh is a pretty "wide" guy so he'd act all sorry like he didn't mean to hit them, he just didn't realize how close they had gotten, and walk away.
 

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I'm still mad about random people touching my stomach when I was pregnant, haven't had the experience yet of anyone touching the baby.<br><br>
I personally would not touch someone whom I did not know, so I guess I just expect no one to lay a hand on DD. Then again, I haven't really taken her anywhere. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 
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