Bye

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JasonsMom

Discussion Starter · Apr 14, 2006

Just wanted to pop in and say goodbye. I've been spotting since March 29th, and had bloodwork and u/s in which I even got to see the heartbeat. But despite bedrest, things did not improve and yesterday, after having more bloodwork and an u/s, got the word that the baby has died. And to make everything so much worse, a few hours later, my critically ill MIL also passed away. My dh is devasted. He was very close to his mother and he wanted this baby so very much. He's always hoped for two children. But sadly, since I'm 42, it is very doubtful that this will happen, and quite frankly, I'm not sure that I could face trying anymore. I've decided to let nature take it's course and not have a D&C, so I hope it all happens quickly.

So take care everyone and all the best. {{{Hugs}}}

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hipem

· #2 · Apr 14, 2006

Couldn't read and not respond.

Sorry, mama. I'll be thinking of your family.

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egoldber

· #3 · Apr 14, 2006

I'm very sorry. For both your losses.

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amygeekgrl

· #4 · Apr 15, 2006

i'm so very sorry to hear of both of your losses. my thoughts are with you and your family.

riversong

· #5 · Apr 15, 2006

for your whole family. I'm so sorry.

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mamabearsoblessed

· #6 · Apr 15, 2006

Oh Karen- I'm so very sorry .

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Brisen

· #7 · Apr 15, 2006

I'm so sorry to hear about your losses.

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LavenderMae

· #8 · Apr 15, 2006

I'm so very sorry for your losses! Much healing to you and your family!

Mrs_Hos

· #9 · Apr 15, 2006

If I could think of ANYTHING positive in this awful situation, I would hope that (if you believe in the afterlife) your dear MIL is with your little baby right now, caring, loving and nurturing him/her until you all can be reunited!
I'll be thinking of you mama!

User101

· #10 · Apr 15, 2006

I'm so very sorry for your losses. Peace to you.

babywink

· #11 · Apr 15, 2006

Sorry to hear about your losses.

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deleria

· #12 · Apr 15, 2006

Truly, that is so much to deal with in such a short period of time. Mama, I'm very sorry for the loss of your much-loved baby and much-loved MIL.

I opted not to have a D&C when I miscarried and, although it took a while for the miscarriage to finish, I don't regret it in the slightest. I felt as though my baby had come into the world naturally and I wanted him or her to leave naturally. I took us a good while I want to try again because it was such a traumatic experience. Follow your heart on this one. Let yourself heal before anything else.

You will be in my thoughts

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zen-ozz

· #13 · Apr 15, 2006

So sorry for your losses. What a terrible time for you. Please take care as best you can.

JasonsMom

Discussion Starter · #14 · Apr 15, 2006

Quote:

Originally Posted by Mrs_Hos
If I could think of ANYTHING positive in this awful situation, I would hope that (if you believe in the afterlife) your dear MIL is with your little baby right now, caring, loving and nurturing him/her until you all can be reunited!
I'll be thinking of you mama!

That actually is exactly how I explained it to my 4 yr. old ds.

Thank you all for your kind words of support. I actually m/c last night and am relieved it is over and am feeling fine. I feel that the healing and grieving process can now begin. I must say how much I've appreciated the birth loss forum here on MDC. Since I'd been bleeding for awhile and wondered if this might be the outcome, I've had time to read alot and prepare. Since I knew more what to expect, then I wasn't afraid. I was able to save my little bean and like others have mentioned here, I'm going to place it in my garden with a little garden cherub, surrounded by pansies, my favorite flower.
My MIL's service will be on Tuesday, so I think this will help bring closure to everything.
Once again, thank you for all the support. It really does help.

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mamabearsoblessed

· #15 · Apr 15, 2006

Oh Karen~~ more

for you today. I have been thinking of you. I know your Cherub garden will be beautiful. May you find many peaceful moments in the coming days, weeks.

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starlein26

· #16 · Apr 15, 2006

Awww Karen,

I am so incredibly sorry for your losses. This will be an emotionally difficult journey and I want to send you strength. I hope that you can come to a peaceful understanding of all of this on your own time. Take care of yourself sweetie.

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poetesss

· #17 · Apr 15, 2006

Many hugs and blessings to you, your dh and your ds. This must be such a big test for you to have all this going on right now... I have to say I admire the strength and grace that just seems to flow from your words. Take heart, ours are with you at this time!

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JasonsMom

Discussion Starter · #18 · Apr 15, 2006

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Originally Posted by poetesss
Many hugs and blessings to you, your dh and your ds. This must be such a big test for you to have all this going on right now... I have to say I admire the strength and grace that just seems to flow from your words. Take heart, ours are with you at this time!

Thank you. Actually that means alot that you should say this as ever since I went in for my last u/s, that is exactly what I've been praying for...asking God to please grant me the strength and grace to accept that which I can not change. So thank you.

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janola

· #19 · Apr 15, 2006

please take good care of yourself during this difficult time. It takes a geat deal of energy to grieve one loss, let alone two and trhying to comfort someone you care about.

gen_here

· #20 · Apr 16, 2006

Oh, Karen - what a difficult day you and your husband had. Know that prayers of healing are being sent up for your family.

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