Help me get started because I am not liking what I am feeling/doing at the moment. I have an almost 5yo dd and a 3 mo old ds. Everything was hunky dorey until ds came along. DH and I both came from physically and emotionally abusive parents and swore we would never treat our children that way. We have never hit our children, but lately we have been less than gentle with dd emotionally. She has just been driving us nuts since the baby came. She is a great child otherwise, and compared to some of her friends, she is a very well behaved and well adjusted child. At home lately she has been hanging on us, being extremely loud and refusing to do things. It takes her 1.5 hrs to eat her oatmeal and hours to eat her dinner. It always ends in a scream fest at the end of the day. She is obviously trying to get attention all the time besides food, she will talk 1/2 inch from your face or put her hands so close to our faces, often kissing us to the point where we have to rudely tell her to stop, including the baby. She takes advantage of when the baby is crying to ask us to do something, come see something, listen to her songs. It is just such a frustration to hear a baby cry and her repeating herself over and over. She repeats herself contantly and has even taken to talking to herself in a very loud voice, and will repeat, repeat, repeat. So annoying!!! She stomps on the floor, even after 100 times of telling her not to do that because it wakes the baby. We have a very small place and I am feeling closed in. We have been snippy with her for a while now and I need it to stop. I have gone through your archives and everyday I vow to do those things, and then get so frustrated with her that no postitive stuff happens, only yelling, sarcasm, eye rolling, bickering sending her to her room, etc, etc. Now that she is out of school, I will have her all day every day and feel like this should be the best summer ever because I am home on maternity leave until the end of July. Help, how do I get started with changing my attitude?