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Okay, CLW vets, I need your help! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> DS still nurses A LOT at night; normally, it's every two and a half or three hours, but for the past month and a half, he's been teething, so it's been more like every hour or so. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: It's been getting a tad better the last few nights...<br><br>
Anyway, I have been throwing the idea of night-weaning back and forth. I'm pg, due in November, so I'm already tired as it is, and my nipples are soooo sore from the constant night-time nursing! On top of that, I work pt, Mon-Fri, so the lack of sleep from nursing is really draining me. I'm also worried that DS will still be like this when the baby comes, and I really can't even imagine how that is going to work out...he is just <i>not</i> going to be able to nurse all night, when I have a newborn wanting to constantly nurse too!<br><br>
I have two dilemmas. One, I have no idea where to start, but, more importantly, I also don't want to compromise CLW in any way....<br><br>
So, any suggestions?
 

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My ds is only 16mo, so I can't really talk about clw, but we did the jay gordon method of nightweaning and he started to sleep much longer - 8 or 9 hours at a time - and he still LOVES to nurse to sleep, and in the early mornings, and during the day when I'm home. The first time we tried it he wasn't ready, so we waited a few months and this time it's better.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My ds is only 16mo, so I can't really talk about clw, but we did the jay gordon method of nightweaning and he started to sleep much longer - 8 or 9 hours at a time - and he still LOVES to nurse to sleep, and in the early mornings, and during the day when I'm home. The first time we tried it he wasn't ready, so we waited a few months and this time it's better.</div>
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Thanks! Someone on another board just posted the link to that article for me (<a href="http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp" target="_blank"><span style="color:#22229C;">http://www.drjaygordon.com/development/ap/sleep.asp</span></a>). I have mixed feelings about it though...it all sounds great, BUT, I just get worried about denying him milk...what if he really IS hungry? I mean, during the day, he can't seem to go more than two hours without eating, and he is a HUNGRY little boy. He can EAT! So, I just worry about that...<br><br>
Also, the more I think about it, I'm realizing that a lot of times he wakes up just because I bump him or one of us is moving around. DH has a wonderful knack for making the bed bounce around when he turns over (thrashes a bit when he turns), and that almost always makes DS stir, and then he needs to nurse to get back to sleep. We've been talking about maybe putting a toddler bed next to ours, and now the idea is sounding a lot more logical...maybe we could start there, to see if he's waking up just because he's waking up, or if it's because of us...<br><br>
I guess I have to go post in Night-time Parenting now! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">the sidecar bed sounds like a good idea - good luck!</div>
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Thanks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">the sidecar bed sounds like a good idea - good luck!</div>
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One thing that made a big difference for me (and this was not in an attempt to night wean, but an associated observation I made) is that when DD had a good supper she was far less likely to wake at night that when she just ate an apple.<br>
Of course she was closing in on 3 when I started making the effort to get her to eat full meals so I was not very concerned about inadvertent weaning.
 

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If you can convince him to nurse less at night easily, I would say CLW could easily follow. If it's a fight, he's just not ready to nightwean.<br><br>
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Since this is in the child-led weaning forum, I hope I'm not out of line here, but I would encourage night-weaning before the new baby comes. My 2.5 year old was night-nursing when our baby was born. I had to lay down to nurse him back to sleep twice during labor (at night), and that was AWFUL. Then I dealt with nursing both of them all night long for several months. I would just flip back and forth to whoever was fussing. I guess mamas of twins do it, so it certainly is possible, but it's much easier to just nurse one all night <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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i nightweaned early in pregnancy when DS was 19 or 20 months old, but DS continued nursing until i was 38 weeks... (at which point he forgot how to latch... though he still tries every day or two, but that's another story!)<br><br>
we did not do the jay gordon way. i didn't want to give an absolute no to night nursing... but i also didn't want to nurse at night anymore... just too sore and fatigued to keep doing it. so we had DH respond first to DS... he would walk him and sing to him and try to put him down. if DS was not taking it well, or if DH couldn't get him down within half an hour or so, he would turn him over to me to nurse to sleep. the next step was that i would limit time on the breast... so if i had to nurse him, i would say "ok, just for a little bit" and we'd nurse briefly and then pass him back to DH. and finally after he got used to that i started just asking him to wait until morning and just cuddle with me instead. he took it really well! we still nursed in the day - he didn't seem upset about not getting to nurse at night anymore... i think partly because he had the security that if he was really desperate i would still nurse him, i just tried to convince him to accept alternatives if he was amenable. we also would bring up an apple and a sippy cup of water to offer in case he was hungry or thirsty, especially if he had a small dinner.
 
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