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hello, i've been lurking around in here quite a bit lately and i guess it's time to officially join in. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
this is our third(wow!!!), and so far it has been so completely different from my other pregnancies. i had almost no symptoms with the other two, other than being just a little tired, and sensitive to some smells. well, i've been so nauseous(haven't thrown up tho) and just feeling sick all day this time around. i'm also sooo tired all the time! i also feel like i'm showing so early this time too. i've got a big belly already! i didn't start showing with #1 untill about 4 months, and with #2 i think i started with a little belly at around 14 weeks. dh and i keep joking that it's twins. lol<br><br>
i'm really hoping to have a home birth this time around, but i'll need to do some major convincing of dh to do so. he's very against it right now. so i'd love to hear some great home birth stories!
 

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This is my fourth and we're going to do a homebirth this time. Yay!<br><br>
Welcome!!
 

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Welcome Angel!<br><br>
We also hope to have a homebirth. After I gave my husband the stats on intervention rates in hospitals, and the relative safety of homebirths, he started softening to the idea. There was a time when he was completely freaked out by it, so it's amazing how perspectives can change. I hope your DH warms up to it in the months ahead!
 

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I'm cooking #3 as well. Welcome.
 

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I'm on #3 as well and have a big ol' tummy. I think it just happens quicker with #3. And we're not having twins, we had an ultrasound last week that confirmed there's only one. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Anyway, welcome!
 

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I just want to say I could've written your post word for word (more sickness, bigger faster, DH jokes about twins...all of that! (and my DS is Gabriel!) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
We are planning our first homebirth and DH is very on board with it, though. Good luck!<br><br>
Welcome!
 

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I am glad you are joining and hope you start feeling better soon!<br>
I am all for homebirth! I had one with my first and look forward to my second in November. My dh trusted my judgement and was for the homebirth. My family and friends were not so happy! I did a lot of research and sat down with a very demanding family and proved to them that it was safe. If you plan on having the delivery with a trained midwife and have no forscene complications then it is EASY to prove its safety. A lot of the natural childbirth books include great research. There are tons of books to support homebirth. Lately I have read even in parenting magazine and babygaga.com about safe homebirths. I did not expect to read it there, but it is getting more popular. I have a lot of books I could name for you, but I am sorry I don't have them with me to give you names at this moment, but I am sure lots of the moms on this site could name them easy!
 

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Welcome Angel! We had a homebirth with our first and it was truly a terrific experience. Even though it was a longish labour and very long pushing stage, I still wouldn't have changed anything. The best part was not having to move locations from home to hospital and back - I felt very comfortable being in our home.<br><br>
This time around we were planning a homebirth but I've had some bloodwork results that might indicate this is not possible, which is pretty heartbreaking.<br><br>
My DH was not too sure the first time around but he did his own research, listened to what I told him about what I'd learned, talked at length to our midwives and gradually became very positive about the whole experience.
 

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Welcome, Angel! Our first was a hospital birth and our second was a heavenly homebirth. It was so different and so wonderful...and so much easier on DH!<br><br>
Dh and I both agree that we would never again birth in a hospital unless our midwife told us it was necessary.<br><br>
Granted, the birth did not go as I envisioned... It was much faster and much more intense. I was so disappointed when it was over before I even had time to adjust to it happening at all! Every birth is it's own journey!<br><br>
The continuity and level of care we received was incomparable to hospital birth. Especially the family involvement and lack of separation from my dd1.
 

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thanks for the welcome everyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> and thank you for all your views on home births!<br><br>
i had a really horrible birth expierence with my first in the hospital. and a pretty great midwife attended hospital birth with my second(as great as a hospital can be anyway lol). but, we live in a really backward area right now and there are no hospitals i want to give birth in around here!<br><br>
i just feel so stuck. i know my dh is very stubborn about his views once he's made up his mind. and he doesn't take suggestions from me very easily. it's just so confusing because he's completely on board with every other natural parenting thing we do. and he's completely for a natural no intervention birth?? i guess i could put him on the spot and tell him he had to prove to me which was the safer option from his own research(of which he's done absolutely none and won't listen to mine! lol).<br><br>
anyway, sorry to rant. this is my big issue these days. lol
 

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It's a tough issue... With anyone else you can tell them where to go...but with your dh, it's entirely different. You're partners.<br><br>
My dh pretty much yields to my decisions surrounding birth, etc. However, he appreciates that I consider his feelings and input and really appreciates when I give him scientific data to use with other people! Dh is a phd student and in the military...so he doesn't have a lot of time for books, etc. We talk a lot about things that I read and I forward him articles, etc, via e-mail. In our earlier pregnancies, I printed out articles and photocopied pertinent chapters for him.<br><br>
Midwives also tend to be very skilled at presenting the facts and helping to ease fears. Could you get him to agree to just a consultation with a hb mw?<br><br>
One thing my dh said is that during our hb, he really appreciated not having to protect me and our baby from unnecessary intervention and psychological distress. In the hospital, he really had to be a lion and behave like a military officer. He did a great job, don't get me wrong...but it was unduly stressful for him. In our home, he was able to relax and simply be present with me however I needed him...and to fully experience the birth of his child!<br><br>
Hope this helps!
 

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Not a homebirther here, but<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/Welcome.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="welcome">
 

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Welcome!<br><br>
3rd pregnancy here, too. Big tummy, husband joking about twins, and love homebirth. My 2nd was a homebirth. This one will be born in a freestanding birth center, which I am okay with. I'd really prefer a homebirth--it's hard to do anything else once you've had one!
 
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