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That's all I want to do. Just scream and cry. And I would love to know I'm not alone. I'm so angry, it's not fair. My husband and I were so in love, he was my best friend, we were going to grow old together. We aren't actually separated, but he isn't here much, and even when he is it's not the same, things have changed so much. I'm angry at him and I'm angry at life and the events that led to us having the major problems we are having, I'm just so angry. It wasn't supposed to happen like this. And I have moments where I'm this horrible bitter person that judges couples who are still in love. That's so awful, isn't it? And I feel so alone. I don't know how to fix things. I don't think things can be fixed. I don't know how much more energy I can put into trying to fix it. At what point do you just stop trying?<br><br>
Okay, thanks for letting my scream for a minute. Please tell me I'm not alone. That I'm not the only crazy angry bitter person.<br><br>
And I'm also not sure if this is even where I should post this. I'm sorry if this is in the wrong spot.
 

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I noticed your little boy isn't even a year old. I have to say that the first year of DS's life was the.hardest. on our marriage. Basically, it sucked, and I was in and out of depression (never had depression before in my LIFE).<br><br>
So yeah, I've been there. For us, there was a light at the end of the tunnel - I hope there is for you, too.
 

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Unfortunately, I'm right there with you...<br><br>
Your post really resonates with me.<br><br>
I am currently bawling for reasons that I can't even begin to articulate - my head is a jumbled mess. And I feel like screaming, too (but don't want to wake the kids). How did it come to this? (How come my husband is such a jerk!!!)<br><br>
What do I do with all this emotion?!?!?<br><br>
I hope, for both of our sakes, that this is one of those 'tides' of marriage that will soon flow outward...
 

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Yes, scream away. And I'll scream a little for you, too.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Hugs. I'm sorry you're going through this. Kids can be very hard on a marriage. I don't know what you've been through that has brought you here but if you were once in love maybe there is still hope you could be again?
 

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Thank you all so much for the hugs and commiseration. It feels good to vent my frustration. And to cry a bit. I think I need to just bury my head in a pillow and have a good cry, but for some reason I can't. I guess it's hard to do that with DS keeping me busy. It's just so hard to know what to do sometimes.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> You're not alone. By all means, scream away. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Being around happy-in-love couples SUCKS when things are not so great in your own relationship, and you can't see any way to get it put back to rights. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
OP, if you lived any where near me, I would tell you to come over to my house, scream and cry and vent all you need, and I'd keep you kiddo occupied while you went off and did something nice for yourself.
 

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First year was awful on our marriage. We are normally very sane and we were not sane that first year. We went to counselling and it was the best thing ever for us. Got us out of that bickering, loveless rut. It's a thousand times stronger than pre-kids now. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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