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DS turned 1 today!!
We are Muslim. Most Muslims do not celebrate birthdays. Not for any reason other than we have only 2 holidays we are supposed to celebrate, and birthdays aren't one of them. DH and I decided not to have birthday parties for ds. Now, growing up, I did have b'day parties, but this is something we want to do with OUR child, and our family. We planned to get him a little cake to give him tonight, and we have a trip to the aquarium planned for Saturday. All day I was telling ds what we were doing 1 year ago today (not that he knew what I was talking about). Anyways....yesterday, my mom calls me and asks me what we're going to do. This was our convo:
Mom: what are y'all going to do?
Me: About what?
Mom: A party?
Me: Nothing (I had already told her 1 week ago that our final decision was to not have it)
Mom: Aren't you ashamed of yourself?
Me: Ummm, it's not a big enough deal that I need to be ashamed of myself
Mom: You guys don't have to be TOO strict. He's not an orphan you know. What about when he grows up and wants to see pics from his 1st b'day party? What about when he grows up and you tell him he can't have parties?
She laid it on thick, and I think my MIL called her and egged her on, b/c MIL would never say what she feels, but my mom doesn't hold back. Needless to say, we are having a SMALL party next weekend.
Today, I went over to my moms. Her dh wanted ice cream, and he said "give some to the baby". I said "no, that's okay, he really doesn't need all of that sugar". My mom was trying to sneak and give it to him. I didn't make a big deal about the first couple of bites, but when she was trying to get more, I told her that was enough.
Her and my older sis make fun of me b/c I don't let ds cry. I told them it's not good for him to cry, and there's really no need for it, but explaining beyond that is like explaining physics to a 3 year old. They said that if I left him there at their house, they would take care of that. So that right there tells me he won't be spending the night there. My sister told me "when you're ready to wean him, just bring him here, then go home". Ummm, no. My moms response to that was "hmmmph, she'll never get him off of the boob anyways".
I am so sick of my whole family. I have always read posts like this on here thinking "whew, thank goodness my family isn't like that". Well, I was wrong wrong wrong. Now all I need to be saying is that i'm blessed that my dh is just as AP as I am, if not more. I swear if he had boobs he'd be nursing the kid!